I don’t care if your reccommed ways to get negative attention I just want to be seen. How can I get guys to notice me or at least become friends?

[justaksing4help]

For background I’m 17 and have been called very pretty by girls and adults my whole life (even strangers occasionally) and I’m fit etc etc. For some reason Guys my age seem to to register me as nonexistent and don’t even care to get to know me in a friend. I’ve never had a boyfriend and never been kissed it’s beyond embarrassing. Sometimes guys even going out of their way to insult me. It’s taken down my self esteem by a ton especially knowing by best friend has has boyfriends since 8th grade and is loved by all the guys at my school. I try to be friendly and kind. At this point I don’t even care if I have to objectify myself I just want to be seen as likable or lovable to someone. How can I become attractive or approachable and if all else fails how can I at least get negative more “sexual” attention (not that I plan do do anything with these guys just a more visually appealing look).

[Anonymous]

Ask them out. Text them. Ask for their number. Maybe don't go after the guy you like the most first.

I don't know what to tell you but if you don't control this kind of thinking... You're going to ruin your life. You need to get a female mentor. One that is respectable. You clearly were not raised inadequately.

You're going to get everything you want but be patient.
What good is it to gain what you want but lose your soul.
Plus you're going to realize you aren't missing out that much.
You're only 17. Wait until you hit 25 and then realize 17 was so so young.
And then realize at 25 everyone still is calling you a baby.

[justaksing4help]

I know I need to take a breather I just feel so unattractive and unlikable. Do you know how I can ask a guy for his number without sounding weird. To be honest I don’t usually talk to guys outside of school but the guys at my school tend to mock you to tell their friends if you ask a guy out or ask for their number.

[Opinion Owner]

Perhaps there is a guy that is different; one who would not mock you or tell others? One who is kind. Perhaps you can befriend him with a sincere heart. You may not want to date that guy but it may help you grow to befriend him beyond school. It would help you more than you think. A guy from a neighboring school is a good idea too. You can find both on social media and ask or begin a conversation there if that is easier for you.

The truth is, the only way to get over your fears is to face them or grow in awareness. Being vulnerable and confessing your feelings through your actions or words is never weird. All those who think it is weird probably don't think. Any guy that would make fun is probably not where you want to start. As far as feeling unlikeable, self-discipline can help a lot with that; also actively praising yourself and not looking for validation from outside yourself. And to be honest as you get older you'll realize you were seeking validation from people who are just plain average.

[PrettyPriya]

If you are 17, you can message @GirlsAskGuys and have them put the right age for your profile. Just click that blue link and send a message with the correct birth year.

[justaksing4help]

Thank you

[PrettyPriya]

👍👍👍

[Peanut38]

First of all, you have to change your mindset. Not having a boyfriend by 17 is not embarrassing. There is no reason I can think of why it would be. Don't let that get to you when there truly isn't anything wrong.
Second, objectifying yourself is most definitely the wrong approach. You should scrap that idea immediately.
Now, if you want to change the situation, there's really only one reliable thing you can do: instead of waiting for someone to approach you, approach them yourself. If you have a guy you're interested in, find a reason to talk to him and approach him, then see how it goes from there.

[justaksing4help]

The thing is I don’t wait for guys to approach me: I try to talk to them and either them or their friends will insult me. I just want to be wanted or connect with literally anyone.

[Peanut38]

Okay, well then the next logical step would be to figure out why these guys that you talk to insult you. Are they the problem or are you the problem? Or both? I don't know you personally and I don't know how they insult you, so I can't really answer that question.
If they are the problem, then you're simply hanging out with the wrong crowd.
If you are the problem, then you have to work on yourself.
That's really all the advice I can give knowing the situation only vaguely. It seems very odd to me that these guys would just insult you for no reason. If this truly is the case though, then you have to find yourself a healthier social environment.

[operationmakeover]

Just say My. friend over there noticed you and he thinks your pretty hot. Then ask how they all know each other if it's a group? If he's alone then ask him if he's single? Be confident a little forward but not pushy.

[justaksing4help]

Isn’t that a lot? And how can I garante they won’t make fun of me? I agree I should probably be more direct but I’ve never understood asking someone out before really knowing them considering I think relationships last longest when their based on friendships. Sorry if this is picky, beggars can’t be choosers lmao

[justaksing4help]

Guarantee*

[Intothevoid666]

Look stop. I know that when ur a virgin sex seems like a big deal but ur looking at this all the wrong way. U DO NOT want to get men’s attention with sex it will only lead to disappointment. If u want to make urself more physically attractive here is what I will say. Wear makeup, stay thin, dress fashionably. I would highly suggest not falling down the rabbit hole of using sex to get attention.

[wa1t1ngFuture]

I'm reminded of myfriend 😂😂 Honestly I'm not lying I laughed instead she did a strange ritual to attract men at night around 2 o'clock I was only told by her aunt, she lives in the same house as her aunt and her parents in the city..🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

*hugs you* are you okay?

[justaksing4help]

No it thank you for asking. It’ll get better eventually💗

[justaksing4help]

But* god sorry I type way too fast and mess up my spelling