How should I deal with the fact that it seems like because I have a giggly personality and find everything funny , people think they can take?

[Sushilove0]

Advantaged of and disrespect me?

For instance, at work when I start giggling and laughing at someones jokes or smiling or get kind of friendly with them at their request, many of these people are selfish and they dont give they just take.
I think maybe i have a mommy soul where i want to give attention and love to everyone freely but i am wondering if thats good cause i often feel a tinge of regret and get upset a bit when i think of how certain people seem to take and take and give less to me.

[Anonymous]

I completely get you! I’m the exact same way, just super bubbly and giggly and nice, but for some reason at least in my case coworkers equate that to me being “air headed” and unable to handle big tasks. Which makes zero sense since I’m usually the one wearing several hats, helping coworkers when they do stuff wrong, doing jobs that aren’t mine and covering like three desks at once. A bimbo can’t do that! Lol honestly though you should stand up for yourself. I’m nice as can be but no one should feel like they can insult my intellect or disrespect me in general.

[Sushilove0]

I will say, I much prefer being around happy people than those that nag and are control freaks.

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely! And at my job I’m fortunate to be around all female clients, and they generally just make the environment very nurturing and have amazing personalities, they make it worth it. Not all my coworkers are rude but enough of them have that naggy, condescending attitude and I’ve had to step outside of my comfort zone to speak out. So annoying but must be done when the disrespect is too loud.

[Sushilove0]

May I ask what you have said to stand up for yourself? Just looking for ideas on what I should say.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course☺️. So the “air headed” thing was actually a comment a coworker told me my manager allegedly said to her regarding why she wouldn’t move me to the job position I initially even applied for. So when this coworker was slacking and it caused client files to get messed up, I fixed it, took the corrections to my manager and called her out, saying “hypothetically speaking, if you as a manager were to comment to ‘coworker name’ that I was too airheaded to complete this exact job I just did better than her, it would be wildly inappropriate and I would report you to HR right?’. She was dead silent lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Same as if a coworker tried coming to my desk while I was working to try and take something over because ‘she just wants to make sure there’s no mistakes’, I fired back kindly with ‘oh like the one you made last week where you deleted the appointment list I put together and caused us to lose five clients?’, and she just walked away😂. Things like this.

[Sushilove0]

I see. Thanks for the examples.

[dustybiker]

Because you haven’t stood up for yourself yet?

[Sushilove0]

What do you mean by stand up? What should Ido?

[dustybiker]

Say “no” (in your own way) before people get to the point or taking advantage or disrespecting you. People respect you and are still attracted to you when you respect yourself.

[Sushilove0]

Thanks!!

[dustybiker]

You’re welcome. Thank you for mhg.