My abusive brother is getting married, can an abusive man change?

[Anonymous]

I have a very abusive brother who constantly beat me and abused me and blackmailed me for years. He would control my clothes and when I went out and with who and if he saw me with a guy he would beat me. He broke my thumb and got my face on a plate until it broke once when he saw me wearing shorts at home because a man was working on our yard and he couldn’t even see me. He blackmailed all his 4 ex’s and sent their naked pictures to their fathers and brothers if they left him and he would threaten them and he also beat the shit out of his ex and took him to court and she won the case against him. In the document i saw how disgusting and abusive he was. He would choke her and put a sock on her mouth while beating her and pushing her. My dad had to pay for the damages, he has no job because he keeps getting fired for beating and bullying people. He for fired from 5 different jobs if not more. He doesn’t have a license , not a car and sits at home 24/7 doing absolutely nothing. He’s an 24 and he met a divorced woman who was in a DV shelter because her ex beat her. She is very well aware that my brother is aggressive but she doesn’t know his past. I think she deserves to know because I can’t bare see another girl get hurt from him. He threatened her once to expose her to her abusive ex where she was at. I don’t talk to him at all and we both have a really bad relationship even tho we live in the same house. I wonder if an abusive man can change if he really loves her or does she deserves to know the truth?

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She also have a daughter from her previous marriage

[Anonymous]

When I was 15 years old I was masturbating in the kitchen as I everybody was away to our aunt's house for the day. I was watching lesbian porn on the laptop, anyway while I cumming hard my brother came over me. All I could see was this big dick in my face cumming a over me as I was cumming, I was terrified as I came. I've no idea what he was doing home or how long he'd been watching me. He acted like nothing had happened.
I told him to never do that again or I'd tell our parents and he was like what are you going to say? "That you were masturbating in the kitchen when I was home and that he creeped up and came all over me" He had a point. This kind of thing went on any time our parents were away up until I went to college. He'd spy on me in the shower, or sleeping or changing or masturbating. Sometimes he'd just start jerking off in front of me for no reason.

[lillucy]

He sounds like a Narc and no people like that dont change and can’t be helped. If I was you I would warn the new girl asap! It’s the right thing to do. Don’t let her life be ruined. I was in a similar situation his family didn’t warm me and didn’t care when I needed help

[Kichbazp_]

Huh?

[MrOracle]

While it's not impossible to change, it rarely happens in real life, because people have to acknowledge that they have a problem, and then get help, and then work the program, which is hard work. Few people who have that kind of problem have much interest in doing this, and even those who do usually don't stick with it and do the work.

[Fireguy17]

yes they can change, only if they want to.
I would be kind of sceptical about it, unless he really had something against you and was fine with
everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Its not a big deal, sibling Rivalry is a real fact, Once I had given a very brutal wedgie to my sister to punish her, do you know what is a wedgie?

[Asker]

He beat his ex’s..

[LazerBean]

Is it possible? Yes. Is it likely? No.

[Kichbazp_]

Possible but not probable

[In_Trance]

Sure he can if he gets professional help

[Anonymous]

Abusive people can change, IF they want too.

[TheSpaceGnome]

People don't change.