I think my friend/flatmate is trying to make a move on me but I have a boyfriend which he is friends with as well?

[Anonymous]

Lately he's been very touchy. He always asks for hugs when my boyfriend isn't around, which I never thought weird of.
But he's been randomly giving me massages without me asking and trying to get to touch my thighs.
I get very uncomfortable when that happens and I try to stop him, but he doesn't seem to get it.
I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I don't want this to escalate. How can I make it very clear he's overstepping my boundaries?

I also want to tell my boyfriend because I think he deserves it, but I'm scared of his reaction towards him.

[SueShe]

You don't have too many choices here.

If you want your peace, you have to

1.) Tell the roommate off and in a serious tone. Also tell him that you have informed your boyfriend about the situation. Don't tell him that you will inform him otherwise he may contact your boyfriend and tell him that you are lying.

2.) Tell your boyfriend without delay. Best is to keep a video or conversation tape of the attempt by the roommate to harass you. You can hide your smartphone nearby where it is not visible and tape the conversation. That way you have proof and even if the roommate denies the wrongdoing, you have something on hand to discredit his allegations.

[mandyfire98]

Yeah, you need to tell your boyfriend. He's going to find out eventually. Do you want him to think you hid something like this from him. Definitely tell him immediately.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Next time this happens, point your finger in his direction, look deep into his eyes and say clearly with authority.."NO, behave yourself. This happens again and I tell (your boyfriend's name)"

If that STILL doesn't work, tell your boyfriend you've tried to handle in such a way they can remain friends but it is out of your hands now..

[Avicenna]

Tell him that you aren’t comfortable with his behavior, and he specific

[In_Trance]

That's a bit of a predicament