Why do men get off on trying to verbally abuse woman on this platform? What satisfaction does this bring them and why?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering.

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Would you make these same comments that you make here to your mother, sister or grandmother? Do you think they’d be ok with how you treat or speak to women? Would you treat the women in your family the same way you speak to and treat women in here?

[RavVid]

Good question Anon. I have only been on here a short time but been shocked. Who would want their mother sister wife daughter subjected to this.

I think there are small percentage of guys who inherently like intimidating/scaring women. Much the same as there is about 1% of men and women who are pedophiles (yes about the same %age in both genders).

As an example I was at a strip club and one of the strippers and a patron seemed to getting on with each other more than usually so. I saw him talk into her ear and she slapped him as hard as she could and staked off. He turned to me and said "I love doing that".

I live in an area where street prostitutes work. Some guys do laps to intimidate and scare the working girls. It isn't about getting sex - they could just pay for that.

So yes I think there are untermenschlich. I have no idea why they get off on this. It is likely some form of mental illness possibly narcissism according to some stuff I've read. But hey I am an IT guy not a shrink...

I am also quite sure there are men who are bitterly disappointed at how their life has turned out in terms of job, money, and female interest in them. Deeply resentful as well. It can't be their fault for dropping out and smoking too much weed can it?

So they vent their deep resentment on women with vile invective because they don't have enough functional synapses to do more than that. Probably the women they find most attractive get the most of their venomous vomit.

[HighValue]

However you see me talk for my opinions on here is how I talk to people IRL. Actually I am often more polite on here than I am IRL depending on how people interact with me. If people are polite to me, I am polite to them. If they are rude or disrespectful, I am the same way to them.

[Asker]

I can respect that. I appreciate you’re perspective.

[FictionalCharacter]

Guys on here don’t verbally abuse me, cause I set boundaries not to get disrespected.

[Asker]

How do you set boundaries?

[FictionalCharacter]

My profile is on private and if I see any user disrespecting another user, I block that user.

[Asker]

Ok. That makes sense.

[one1wild00]

There are bad apples on both sides, if enough of the good ones block them then the moderators may notice, but it won't keep them from creating another account. It will probably always be a cat n mouse issue, so block who you need to and figure out don't worry about what the bad apples say.

[Anonymous]

GAG is place to vent for people who have had negative experiences with the opposite gender. As annoying as some of these guys (and some women, too) can be, I mostly just feel bad for them. Just ignore them, there problem isn't with you, it's with the few women who have treated them badly.

[Opinion Owner]

And some of them are just trolls

[Asker]

That is so sad. We’re all just human having a human experience. It doesn’t just suck for one, it sucks for all.

[Opinion Owner]

Agreed.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I don't know but all I know is that I'm not included in that category, I actually believe I hold my ego very well with a lot of annoying people on here

[Asker]

Thank you for answering. I appreciate that you don’t.

[TheMajesticKing777]

You just shouldn't let words effect you so much, words only hurt if you let them, not letting it get to you is how you thicken your skin which is needed when you are online

[Asker]

I’m not hurt, I just think it’s pathetic and disgusting. I’m just curious what’s the benefit they get from even doing that knowing very well it’s not an action they’d do in real life.

[TheMajesticKing777]

It's their ego, most people can't control it and the internet is a place that blurring shit out has no consequences

[Asker]

That’s… a poor excuse but an understandable one. No face no case. Pretty easy to get away with it if you hide behind a keyboard and computer screen

[TheMajesticKing777]

Yep, there's no risks and they don't have to see or hear your reaction, just read it and it's the most passive way to hurt feelings, there's a name for that, keyboard warriors

[Asker]

I’d be pretty nervous though with how easy hacking is. I’d be afraid to piss off the wrong person and have my life destroyed.

[Agagagagaga]

No, I’d call people a dumbass in real life. 🤷‍♂️

[TheMajesticKing777]

Depends on the type of hacking, either ways it's best to just not fall at their same level, you gotta be more mature than them and know when to not waste your time

[Asker]

@Agagagagaga would you though? Would you call a girl with a boyfriend or brother or father or husband a dumbass to her face and then be willing to take on whatever consequences come with that. Mind you we are in a very different world than our parents are and people have lost their life for less. Is that a chance your willing to take? Because that can very much be a possibility that you’d be unaware of until you’re in the situation or too late. And don’t say that’s an overreaction that’s real life right now.

[Lionman95]

I think it´s a trend that comes from an overuse of porn. Because porn portrays women as people that like to be degraded, beaten and talked down guys tend to overtake such images because it makes them feel stronger and superior.
It´s the same phenomen like bullying.

[DavidRaul]

They are just a bunch of loosers who can't say this to somebody's face. They can just type in front of the screen and judge people when there life is full of shit. Don't brother giving attention to such a**holes.

[IJhonnyI]

Listen I personally don't do this but don't forget it's MEN AND WOMEN

[Anonymous]

If your opinions are dogshit and your behavior contemptible you don’t get a pass because you have a vagina.

Why would I treat other women—total strangers—the way I treat the women in my family? They are no relation to me. But I’m supposed to treat them like a sister? Nope.

[Asker]

So why does that give you the right to speak to them as if they are beneath you?
How you treat a one woman is indicative of your potential to treat all.
“I am a man: I hold that nothing human is alien to me”
Meaning if you do it to me given the opportunity which can vary depending on the situation you could very well be with someone in your family. And don’t say that you can’t or won’t unless you have a time machine and have already seen the future because you don’t know and have no idea what could or could not happen

[Asker]

So I apologize but your argument is weak minded at best

[Opinion Owner]

Here’s what you’d like to have happen.

1. A woman says stupid shit.
2. I bite my tongue because she’s sooooo special.

It’s fucking retarded. Do I get off on it? No. Not especially. But you are not above criticism or insults because you have a pussy. It means you’re just like every-fucking-one else.

“Why are men so mean to women on the internet?”

What a childish thing to ask lol. YOU are no better than anyone else.

[Asker]

No I expect you to have some respect. It’s not what you say it’s how you say it. You don’t have to be nasty just because that’s your disposition in life. How you treat someone says a lot about how you feel about yourself.
If you have low self esteem and want everyone to feel what you feel just say that. But don’t come up with sad excuses for poor behavior and then try to justify it.

[Opinion Owner]

This is where you and I differ. You believe in just ignoring people who say ridiculous things, I point out their hypocrisy.

Then when they insult me as they inevitably do (just like you fucking did) I tell them and everyone what a complete fucking tool they are.

You’re not the objective, fair, high-minded person you think you are. YOU insulted ME first.

So you’re just another hypocrite whining about mean people on the internet. Bravo. Join the line.

[Asker]

Yes because why do you care enough to respond if it’s so stupid? Why stress yourself out over something stupid unless you have nothing better to do in life. I could think of a million other things I could be doing other than insulting someone of dealing with their silliness. It’s not my life, my choices, my anything. That person is a separate entity and whatever they do is on them. So why do you feel you need to speak on something and down on someone that you clearly feel is already beneath you? Make it make sense please because now it’s just sounding like boredom

Also where did I insult you? I’d like a direct quote because I never said anything directly about you. So please clarify or are you trying to victimize yourself because you realize your actual argument isn’t as good as you initially thought.

[Opinion Owner]

I never made any argument. This isn’t some academic debate lol. All I did was say that women don’t get a pass when they say something idiotic.

You want them to. 🤷‍♂️

I’m pleased that you’re so unaware that you don’t even know when you insult someone.

This isn’t really surprising to me though. Usually the ones who are complaining about others are the ones guilty of the very same behavior they condemn.

[Asker]

No I never said that. You ASSUMED that’s what I wanted based off my question. Had you asked clarifying questions before making you’re very wrong and loud assumption you’d know that. My question was, why do men verbally abuse women on this platform. Never did I articulate that I’m advocating for women to just be silly and ditzy without consequences, what I’m advocating for is the way people feel comfortable talking down to women, regardless of what the question is it never requires you to speak to another person as if they are below you.

Can you provide me a direct quote please. Don’t just say I did something to you then when I ask for clarification now you don’t want to provide it. If I did something tell me exactly what I did without the smart comment. Maybe just maybe it might be a lesson that I need to learn. Maybe it might be a communication error on either side. Maybe it’s not that I said something wrong but you just didn’t like what I said. But I’ll never know if you don’t tell me. I’m not a mind reader and clearly my comment whatever it was, was enough to catch your attention. But I won’t know unless you say something.

So what I’m realizing is that you have no real answer. As a 40 year old man it just seems this is what you do and how you are. That’s ok if that’s how you choose to live your life. It’s not my life and I don’t have to deal with you. So thanks for your input

[Opinion Owner]

Oh there’s another insult. Bringing up my age and how I choose to spend my time! Keep ‘em coming. I like to see hypocrisy in action. 😃

[Asker]

Bringing up your age is an insult? I’m very confused. I’ve never known that to be an insult. I thought it was a fact. I certainly never called you old or anything along the likes.
Do you realize you haven’t even answered any of my follow up questions? You just responded to defend yourself. So can you actually answer a few of my follow up questions?

1) what gives you the right to speak down to someone because you don’t like what they say?
2) why would you respond to a stupid question by a female if you feel it’s below you?
3) what was the insult I used? Direct quotes only please.

If you can’t answer those questions then I apologize we have nothing to discuss because you aren’t providing any clarification therefore this conversation is useless and a waste of both our time.

[Jacob147]

First day here, was unaware of this, but this needs to stop if so.

[Anonymous]

I don't see the point in verbally abusing Women on here, If someone's really rude to me on here I either ignore them or report them.

[RuthlessAggression]

republicans. it's always republicans

[Fuentes]

But your name is "ruthless aggression" ?

[Fuentes]

You need to learn to stop being so sensitive.

[Asker]

So if someone walked up to your mom, sister, grandmother, aunts, girlfriend or whatever women you have in your life, and completely disrespected her for no other reason just because they could, then your response im assuming would be that they were too sensitive if they did not enjoy that encounter?

[Fuentes]

Real life is not the same as the internet

[Asker]

So because you have the protection of the internet than that makes it ok?

[Asker]

And what I’m simply saying is because you don’t have to deal with the ramifications of your actions it means that your actions are thus ok and acceptable?

[Fuentes]

Yup which is why the internet is not serious

[Asker]

You are aware that just because it isn’t” real life “ doesn’t mean it doesn’t have real life ramifications correct? Imagine cyber bullying someone and then they commit suicide because on top of the in person now they have the online bullying.

[Asker]

Oh. That’s an interesting perspective to have. Well if it makes you feel good about yourself that’s on you. I respect your decision to do so

[Fuentes]

Someone being "rude" to you and "Cyber-Bullying" are two different things. You do know that right?

[Asker]

You do know that the word rude was not used to describe the situation correct? My question is about men being abusive towards women online. So is your response directed towards men being rude or men being abusive?

[Fuentes]

Then you ahould report and block people if they're causing you irl harm. That's your best option.

[Asker]

I can agree with that sentiment

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, I'm guessing some do and that sucks.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean? I don't follow.

[SensualMan]

pussies