Does the guy really loves the girl?

[Oluwanimi]

This guy says he loves his girl a lot but he has issues with communication and doesn't understand that the girl is annoyed about a particular thing... he just claims that the girl is picky when she complains... he doesn't carry her along on things, he does call her at all... only chat sometimes in the day... they don't have good conversations and he has problem with her touching his phone... the girl complains about all of this things... he says he will change but doesn't...

Does the guy really loves the girl?
Or he just have problems with communicating?
What do we say about the not allowing her touch his phone?

Does the guy really loves the girl and its just a problem of communication

Does the guy not value the girl

[SimpleGuy95]

I think he values but he doesn´t understand her. The problem arises if a guy spends his time around and with guys because guys and girls communicate differently.
Biggest difference I experience is that girls often talk and go with the flow while many guys talk because they have a certain reason to. If I hang out with my mates and we don´t have a topic to talk about it´s silent, the moment we´re joined by females there is no silent because the girls start to talk about anything.
I think the problem in this scenario is that he doesn´t understand her problem and that she doesn´t bother telling it to him because she thinks he already knows what´s up and does that on purpose because he enjoys playing tricks on her.

[Oluwanimi]

But she trys to explain the issue all the time and she knows she knows there is issue with understanding also and she has tried so many times to make hime understand

[Oluwanimi]

How else should she handle the issue

[SimpleGuy95]

I think it depends on the way she tries to explain because she seems to be complaining all the time he won´t listen. Besides that it´s a lesson he has to learn in some way to get to understand that women and men communicate differently.

[PatriceONeal]

A lot of the time women believe we can just read their minds.. they struggle with real, honest, and vulnerable communication by their nature. So they do things like annoy us, complain about things but not willing to hear the answers or talk about us to their friends family or the internet. Maybe you should talk to him? Maybe you use YOUR communication skills since you're the one have complications? My question is, does the girl have shit grammar skills like you? Might be why he doesn't communicate as often as you demand, multiple times a day and you want more? You should have more quality than quantity convo. going In to the future.

[Anonymous]

Did you buy that phone?
Does that phone have your name on it? Do you pay the monthly Phone service bill for that phone?
Then keep your hands off of his Property you don’t own it it’s not your shit your self absorbed and you believed You have the right to touch something that doesn’t belong to you. If you touched my phone And walked off with my phone I would call the cops 👮‍♂️ on you I wouldn’t Hit you but you would not be getting away with my phone as I would follow you and If you tried to Get In your car and take my phone away I would follow you and would have photos of your license plate number and photos of you and while following you I would be on the line with the police 👮‍♂️ telling them where your current location and telling them your license plate number.
And you would be Pulled over and handcuffed and thrown in the back of a Police Van 🚐

[Oluwanimi]

Why did you make yourself anonymous? is it because you are ashamed of your write up?
I understand people like you... I'm not talking about the phone here... I'm talking about the guys attitude in general but you decided to just pick a certain aspect and wrote rubbish about it... always calm down before you talk alright... I think this is a transferred aggression... were you caught cheating? Because why are you so better about someone else's problem... I hope you will be okay because you don't seem okay

[Oluwanimi]

*Bitter* I mean

[Opinion Owner]

I Made myself Anonymous because I can and why I did so You do not know and will never know because Only I Have access to my mind i allow you to know what I want you to know nothing else.

[Oluwanimi]

Thank you... Next time read questions before replying at all... ok?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m gonna do what I want you don’t Control me and you don’t have access to my mind so I’m gonna do or say whatever I want and there’s nothing you can do.

[Ευδεμονια]

I sincerely think he has some issues and he doesn’t really love her, since his attitude is to overwhelm and nullify her. Love is respect and support, I see here egoism, self-centrism and infantilism. He recognised his faults but if he doesn’t change its only a bluff, he isn’t really in love with her and he’s not interested in changing anything.

[Oluwanimi]

Thanks for your contribution.. its very much appreciated

[Oluwanimi]

Can you I dm you?

[Oluwanimi]

*I mean can I dm you?*

[Ευδεμονια]

Sure, I would be pleased.

[Oluwanimi]

Alright... I just tried but it said you don't allow it.. I can't dm you... I think it's your settings or something

[Oluwanimi]

Can you try to dm me or something

[Oluwanimi]

Oh I think it's me that can't dm first.. can you pls dm me

[Ευδεμονια]

Sorry, maybe it was some setting.

[LonelyFox]

maybe he loves her but seems he is taking the girl for granted, yeah definitely some communication issues there, and maybe he's loosing interest because of the complaining

[Oluwanimi]

What about the issue of he not allowing the girl touch his phone.. and not call her throughout the day... just few chats about how much he wants to see her and kiss her

[LonelyFox]

respecting privacy is a must but if has been a repeated issue and he is secretive then there might be someone else he's talking to.. maybe he just values his stuff and doesn't like others touching it, I don't know judgement call

[Oluwanimi]

Well he cheated on her once in the past tho... about like a year again that's why she feel it necessary to check his phine

[Adronicus]

Observe his actions more than his words. Love is sacrifice. Does it sound like this guy loves her to you? Some women you have to keep guesding if they want her to stay. Sounds like it's working well for him:/

[Avicenna]

He probably does love her

[Oluwanimi]

Really... how I don't get how he will express his love that way

[Guardian45]

Sounds like there is a backstory here missing.

[Iron_Man]

Talk it out

[Oluwanimi]

I don't get you?