Men like looks, of course (who doesn't?), but FAR too many women believe that a man is looking for a woman with all of the traits that a woman wants in a man: a good education, a good career, a high income, etc. Men DO NOT GIVE A SHIT about any of that. Men are not women, and men want entirely different things from a woman he wants to be in a relationship with (and it's important to make a distinction between "relationship" and "casual sex" here - the standards are wildly different).
Most men, when looking for a relationship partner, want a woman who has good morals and values, who is fit, feminine, friendly, cooperative, submissive, domestic, and has a positive attitude. He cares absolutely nothing about her "status" as far as her job/career or her income - rather, he's looking for a helpmate in life and someone he can build with TOGETHER. Most men are happy to be the primary breadwinner (and that's NOT an easy thing to be), but they want a woman who are happy to be part of the team, and who is going to appreciate him and respect him. Far too many women think that having a career means she doesn't need to have any respect for men in general, and her boyfriend/husband in particular - and this is why men are avoiding these women.
I've recently heard about several "mixers" (dating events) that have been organized in major cities to bring men and women (and the women in question are all career women) together, and NO MEN SHOWED UP. There are now at least 4 of these in the last few months that I've learned about: in Atlanta, Miami, Houston, and Memphis. Men, especially men with experience on the dating market, have figured out that career women aren't worth dealing with, and so they're actively avoiding these women. Instead, they're choosing women like you - women that OTHER women might see as "lower value", but women that MEN see as much HIGHER value, because you have more traditional values and would make a much better wife.
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Personality. You can be sweet, charming probably your vibe is great.
Me personally i can date same as your background. At longest she knows she love herself. When you love yourself you attract love. Their is some females that enjoy stress free just work those shifts and enjoy the rest of the day. They spend their time by either working out, hobbies and reading books. Bet if a guy ask a knowledgeable question even the female doesn't have a degree but she is a book savy. Could give an answer.
When a female dress up nice, not hot looking like hey 👋 I am here ran me over🔥. I am saying as formal, gives you a hint she respects herself and offers respect, also she is not in a hurry.
My background is some college but never finished. I used to work part time jobs. I saved up and decided to start my business. Lawn care and Landscaping. I am self-employed. Is been 6 successful years. I am still single 😆. Some females do like hard working guys or others like office looking guys at longest he is financially stable but knowledgeable. Cuz if y'all end up having kids you want your hubby to have some knowledge right? 😆.
If a man talks to you sooooo sweet like baby or honey or sweetie on the first couple dates 🤣🤣🤣 take off running. Just want to lizard you on bed. Unless, you want it to happen.
You're vulnerable, loyal and have a tendency to become dependent. That's all the reassurance a guy wants.
He probably thought you were pretty but as an engineer he may have appreciated your intelligence too
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Eh... Looks, personality, just generally what sort of person she is like to be around. I can tell you from my perspective as a quasi-successful filmmaker and soon-to-be lawyer that I basically don't care about women's social status. Just be fun to be around and a source of peace
To be blunt and to get down to basics its because you girls get us hard and the more we think every little move you do is magic the keener we are (yes that line is from a song). And really girls the more we want sex with you the more you have to work with. So it is win-win so far.
The one thing we don't care about at all is your job & weekly salary. The second thing we don't care about is your intelligence for the most part. I for one do like a girl to be interested in stuff other than dresses but you don't have to have a degree in stuff. But being interested in stuff is not directly related to intelligence but more about your curiosity about the world. There is some correlation I agree it but is not exactly the same.
There was a bad period in world history, which praise be seems to be ended, when girls thought they should be interesting. They would actually ask you do you think I am interesting? The under breath reply was no you are being boring and what has this got to do with you making me hard and wanting to get you out of the restaurant asap?
Anon, dread nought. This guy is getting something from you that he wants more of. You say you are average in looks but he is liking your look. But what else might it be?
You could actually be a loving woman and he likes that. You seem to respect & value him and he might like that.
He might think you are liveable with and he could make a life with you. He might think you would be a good mother when the time comes.
Overall I think men make the mistake of thinking girls are more complicated then they are and women make the mistake of thinking men are simpler than what we are. We are fairly basic in what we want but complex in the finer details of the fundamentals.
You just keep on doing what you are doing and I think there will be two happy people in this world. :)Status? All I really care is that she has her shit together. Have steady work so she can provide for herself and pay the bills, or be in the process of learning new career skills or going back to school. Just be moving forward in someway. If she's independently wealthy and doesn't wish to work, have hobbies and things she's passionate about.
Looks will never not play a role, it's often the first thing we notice about someone when we see them, what they look like. But looks alone can't build nor sustain a healthy relationship.For me, personality, chemistry, and shared values are definitely more important than either of those.
Do I like her personality?
Do we vibe really well?
Do we share the same values when it comes to life and relationships?
Looks comes secondary to those intangibles.
Status doesn’t really matter to me. They could be famous or an unknown—it doesn’t matter to me.
Like, an average-looking girl with an amazing personality, that had amazing chemistry with me, and saw things eye-to-eye with me when it comes to our values. She’d be a 10 in my book.
As compared to a girl with 10/10 looks and is high status but I don’t like her personality, we don’t vibe well, and her values are very different. It would be meh and she’d become like a 5 or 6 in my book.Stop selling yourself short and overthinking.
Maybe he likes your tits, maybe your smile. But what matters most is that he is interested, and if you like that interest by him or not.
This is a mistake inexperienced girls make on dates. This is not some product you're buying from a supermarket, which you can mull over for a few weeks and read the labels and reviews. You need to ask quick and fast before, during and after the date.
You're at the after stage I suppose, so it's likely you've put him off or just not got enough to make a decision. Better luck next time.Status doesn't matter. You are Hispanic so you are more likely to be family oriented. You also like cooking which implies you aren't a feminist. You like reading so you are more likely to be able to have interesting conversations and know about a variety of topics. If you work part time that could mean you would be more available to spend time with him when he is available.
The only thing you said on here that I could see as a possible negative is being over 30. Other than that, all of the things you said are positives.It doesn't matter as long as you love each other. Love does grow. Just because you don't have a degree doesn't mean you're not intelligent. You look at other avenues for education. You do love to read. My wife and I have been married 44 years I have a degree in engineering. My wife decide to drop out of school so that we can have a family. My wife is a beautiful woman and we have been married for 44 years. She looks at other avenues to help her along her way as a provider for our children. Just hang on if things are to be they will happen. Just date and have a good time and if he continues to date you he likes you and loves you I just let things happen.
Sweety, there is no rhyme or partucular reason to it. We see what we see. Looks play a part in my opinion. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Don't try to make lot of sense out of it that he is so handsome. Why he is with you. Lot of us feel that way. Learn to receive love. I am still struggling with last part. Caring and loving comes in different forms and shapes and not always easy to see, identify or it makes sense. That is more to be at peace with yourself. Thank God thank him be happy and be able to enjoy.
For me its a combination of looks and how affectionate she is.
As to your case its probably the fact you are probably in his eyes beautiful and the fact you can keep him from going hungry and make the food probably taste great. Probably has him going crazy for you.I would say that status doesn't really matter for a guy, they usually go based on looks and then go from there. Status is just a plus if they do have one but if not we really dont take that much into consideration. Also, you mentioned that you would consider yourself average, well technically speaking most men would prefer average women since they are more likely to find happiness with them but doesn't really work the other way around.
Status never mattered to me at all. I go purely by looks and by how well we get along.
I wouldn't date a woman that I didn't find physically attractive. But there is more to choosing a potential partner. Does our conversation flow? Do we have any hobbies, beliefs, passions, values, hopes and dreams in common? Do we like each other?
In regards to status: I don't care how much money she makes as long as she is self sufficient, smart, ambitious, and has a good work ethic.It’s a good question. There are for most of us multiple variables we find important. When it
becomes problematic is when we get tunnel vision and focus on one trait but kids red flags elsewhere. I’ve dated women because I really found their looks, intelligence or something else outstanding.
In your case, you don’t say anything about your personality. Maybe he likes that. Maybe he finds you exotic (everyone loves Latinas).A woman's status means far less to men than a man's status means to women. There's more than just her looks of course, but status is pretty far down the list of things we look for in a woman. A pretty and feminine woman who works part-time and loves to cook and read books will often have more male suitors knocking on her door than the corporate career woman who acts masculine and refuses to do anything for the man in her life.
Like with women (although in general guys are much less "selective" lol), it can depend on the specific person and be anything. And especially when it comes to looks, you might think you're "average", he could think you're hot as F. And different things matter to different guys. For you to know, you'd have to ask him this and what attracted him to you.
I’ve been on both those ends when looking for partner. I’ve been in spot where I dated someone who just a waitress and felt she had no ambition or anything to offer long term (if you’re in school or trying to start business get a job that’s different) but I’ve also been in spot where I’ve dated much more successful women than me and have felt inferior to them. As a man I feel pressure is on us to support women more than they support us. So maybe this is the case with this person.
Neither. Unless you're in porn your looks won't do much for us and you're status is literally material if your lower than me in status or higher it only makes people who don't matter opinionated as to why I'm with you or vice-versa. As long as there is a connection I'm neither vane nor conceded enough to use looks and statuses as dating requirements. We just need to connect on some level and connect well.
Looks over status, but personality trumps both for the long haul.
Looks may attract but it's what's inside that come outside in one's behavior and attitudes that keeps a relationship going.
I have met gorgeous women with lousy personalities and non-conventional women with golden hearts and cheerful personality.I look at if she even tries to take care of herself. She can be out of shape but there is such a thing as too much. That is the initial part.
The second is her personality. If she is a miserable person to be around then it kills my drive faster than looks.
I couldn't care less about status.Men have never cared about status, if a man does search for women for status. He's not a man nor valuable to begin with. A man can find a girl laying In a dumpster and if she's hot enough, he'll take her home. Women... not so much. A good example is the ugly retarded male billionaire that can still have many women chase him. An ugly/retarded female billionaire is in trouble.
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