I know this may sound like a lot of overthinking, but I’ve been in an abusive situation before so I am very observant. A guy I’ve been dating became more bland when texting me. He doesn’t even call anymore. He still makes plans with me but he has just seemed less involved. Mind you, I’ve never told him it made me upset, I just asked him if everything was okay (something he would do for me). I guess how I said it came off wrong, I was trying my best to communicate without seeming irritated.
When we met for dinner, he asked me “why were you acting like that”. I mentioned that I didn’t want what was said to come off wrong. He said, “well it did”. I ignored it. I told him that with everything that I do or say, there is always pure intent behind it. We went to dinner with his family, he said we could go walk after then he quickly changed his mind. When I brought it up to him how he is awfully different from what I’m used to, he didn’t really say much. He said that if I wanted to ask him something, ask, because he didn’t know how to respond to that. I think he is kind of mean, or maybe I’m just being overzealous. He still messages me throughout the day and invited to a function at his new house.
When we met for dinner, he asked me “why were you acting like that”. I mentioned that I didn’t want what was said to come off wrong. He said, “well it did”. I ignored it. I told him that with everything that I do or say, there is always pure intent behind it. We went to dinner with his family, he said we could go walk after then he quickly changed his mind. When I brought it up to him how he is awfully different from what I’m used to, he didn’t really say much. He said that if I wanted to ask him something, ask, because he didn’t know how to respond to that. I think he is kind of mean, or maybe I’m just being overzealous. He still messages me throughout the day and invited to a function at his new house.
