Okay, let me say up front that your 100% entitled to have your own likes and dislikes. If some thing makes you feel uncomfortable then you shouldn't be made to feel that you should have to do it. So if this is honestly how you feel about kissing, then that's fine there's nothing wrong with it.
Now kissing its kind of a major thing for a lot of people. And I have dated a women, 1 women... as in the only women I have ever met out of many women that would not French kiss. And it was a HUGE turn off. 😕😒
I got involved with her and didn't really take it seriously. I mean it was seriously hard developing an emotional and physical bound with her because she WOULD NOT, really kiss me. ⛔😘🚫
So I was like what's the problem here? Am I wasting my time, because apparently your not interested. Then she told me that she has this kissing issue thing.
At first I didn't take it seriously and thought it was something she'd get over. I was wrong, sex was super awkward, it really started weighting on my mind, it made me feel like I was dirty or nasty, and eventually I really started to resent the fact that this women would not kiss me.
It didn't work out, I broke up with her, and was honest about it with her. I told her,
"You're amazing and all, I really could get serious with you... but the kissing thing is something I can not get over or manage around. Its insulting to me and makes me feel bad about myself, and I can't be with someone that makes feel like that."
Surprisingly she said she understood and that I was not the first one to tell her that or break up with her over it. But she was still convinced that the right guy was out there for her... and I am sure he is, but its not me.
It's not weird or strange, and you may actually be in the majority of women worldwide.
Here's an excerpt I found from a 2015 study that was published in Women's Health:
" A study published by the American Anthropological Association suggests:
For the study, researchers investigated whether 168 different cultures engage in romantic lip locks—and they found that only 46 percent of those groups actually kiss. Seriously, that's it. Interestingly, the geographic location of each culture didn't impact whether or not the people in that group got their smooch on. In fact, 45 percent of the North American cultures investigated didn't kiss at all.
But researchers did find that the more socially "complex" a society (groups like Americans and Chinese are considered socially complex), the more likely they were to partake in romantic lip locking. Some of the non-kissing cultures, even some small, egalitarian groups, said they see mouth play as unclean or just really freaking unpleasant, the study authors write.
So according to this study, you're not the strange one. LOL
For me personally, it's a TOTAL deal breaker - no French kiss, no relationship!
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My ex was like this.
She rarely wanted to kiss, and wasn't into deep French kissing. I can't say whether this is common or not, but you're certainly not the only female who thinks that way.
I don't think it's a complete deal breaker, but it was a little disappointing. In retrospect, it may have also been a sign of other incompatibilities.
I mean, some people just like sex because it feels good. Kissing is more about intimacy for the sake of being intimate. So I kind of find the motives for kissing more pure than the motives for sex. As such, I find it kind of weird if someone is grossed out by kissing, but wants to have sex. You wonder if the person only cares about sexual stuff for pleasure rather than intimacy.
You do you, booboo. Everyone has their likes or dislikes. Maybe not liking kissing is a bit less commonly heard of, but then again, maybe not?
Makes me wonder if people would still kiss a lot if it wasn't displayed as a sign of affection in the media. Like, why do people kiss anyway? Is it the body's natural response to want to do that without knowledge of what a "kiss" is?
Not wanting to kiss is "unusual", "strange" is too strong a word. It's one of the most intimate ways that two people can show affection for each other. And a kiss doesn't have to be passionate, it can just be nice, like when a mother kisses her kids as they leave for school.
I thought I was the only one who hate kissing. I find it bit disgusting. So I don't think it's strange your girlfriend don't to kiss.
I myself don't like it. Some people are just not comfortable with exchanging saliva (🤮🤢🤢 ) to express love. There are other ways to express.
Undeniably thee single most important and 100% accurate way in which to truly know if you are in love or not.
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Yeah. Especially considering that she'd have known before she was my girlfriend how nature has apparently made swapping oral bacteria an important love language of mine.
Not really, it might be that they don't see it as affection or put off by affection or close contact somehow. I personally enjoy it on the lips and touching tongues.
My friend dated a chinese girl (he himself is not chinese), for a short time and she wouldn't show any intamacy, like hugging or kissing, nothing. Me and him and people we told this to all thought it was weird.
Some people have personal boundaries and if that is a problem then maybe the relationship isn't meant to be
That's weird. No one should feel uncomfortable if they are kissing their partner
Girls usually care more about kissing than guys, while guys tend to care more about sex.
I personally don’t kiss too often unless it’s a serious relationship… it’s a “where else have your lips been” thing
It’d be a real turn off to be honest. I’m pretty affectionate and like to kiss. I’d start to feel like you’re being bothered by me when all I want to do is kiss you when you come in from work or before we say goodnight. Stuff like that.
It’s certainly different and makes me wonder if I did something wrong, but ultimately it’s up to you
Its okay every one has their own things and pet pieves.
Its not weird at all.
That is asexual behaviour and I could not date a girl like that.
u Yeah it would be a issue in my relationship if my girl never liked kissing
No. No more Dr. Strange or any less stranger things than not likeing to give or receive oral sex. I love making out but hate the idea of 69.
I have only had kissers so I would find it weird given you'd be the very first to not want to, but it wouldn't bother me.
I don't mind if she doesn't like french kissing, but I like kissing my girlfriend goodnight and good morning, so i would have a problem if she doesn't like those kisses.
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