Why hasn’t he given any feedback on where we stand after talking for 7months?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this guy for about 7 months, he said he’s talking things slow. We’ve met a few times, it’s been great, he initiates in hugs etc. From time to time he’d call to apologise and friends tell me that he doesn’t pay much attention to other girls that try talk to him. Recently a friend of mine went through this phone and found that he hasn’t saved my actual number while I’ve messaged him a few times when I wasn’t available on instagram (we primarily speak on instagram) . After 7 months of talking…still no feedback from him. I’ve tried asking but he just responds with emojis. I’m stuck as he treats me well when we meet and chat about other things but lost as he hasn’t saved my number yet and hasn’t given feedback. How should I go about it? Is he really interested?

[MrOracle]

The only thing that matters is: do YOU think he's interested ENOUGH? I think anyone would agree that he's making very, very little effort here, and apparently, "taking it slow" to him means "difficult to discern any movement at all."

If you're okay with this, then continue seeing him. If you aren't okay with this, then you tell him it isn't nearly enough, and if he can't step things up and make a much greater effort, then you're going to need to move on. Be prepared to give him some examples of what you expect - and they need to be REASONABLE - but he also needs to be honest about if he can and is willing to meet them. If not, end it and look for someone else.

You don't need anyone's permission to do these things, but I know some people have trouble gauging what is reasonable - and being reasonable IS important - but I think it's reasonable to expect a lot more forward movement, unless you previously agreed otherwise. If someone isn't pulling their weight, and you give them feedback several times and nothing changes, then it's perfectly okay to end that relationship and tell them why (in a kind but firm way).

[Anonymous]

i've been going through something similar and not even sure the girl is interested after initially expressing interest , its like i don't know what is going on , maybe she expected me to make a move sooner

[PrettyPriya]

This may be a case of the initial excitement dying down. That happens, especially when the majority of the relationship communication is online or through texting or a social media platform. There is not much of a connection compared to real life.

Thats probably why it is much different in person versus the rest of the time as you allude to. Is there any reason you can’t spend more in person time together? That would be an ideal solution. You can get a much better sense of how things are going when you can physically see the signs. Very difficult to do that online and often people interpret things differently through text.

If he said he wanted to take things slow in the beginning, that might just be what he is doing…. going at his pace. To you it may be excessively slow but to him exactly what he wants. There is no other indicators by your details that he is not interested since he still talks to you. Don’t read too much into the fact he hasn’t saved your number. Focus on the more important things. Good luck!

[midnightmoon05]

He hasn’t because he is not that into you. Guys interested in you would take initiative.
you should go out and meet other people till you find someone who give you that much attention as well.

[LazerBean]

He's keeping you around for a potential booty call one day. That's it. It doesn't take a guy 7 months to figure out if he likes a girl.

[spartan55]

He's interested for sure. Interested in having free sex with you.

[Bmories99]

I would say he is not really interested. He would save your number and communicate with you if he was.

[Guy13]

Yes, I agree. This is very odd. I could not do it but maybe I'm too opinionated.

[Anonymous]

Im surprised your even still talking to him.

[In_Trance]

seems like you haven't asked him