Why am I still worried if he's okay? How to get past it?

[Anonymous]

The breakup was horrible. He hurt me in ways that I wish he didn't. I wis he cheated instead. Anything but the way he treated me. Yet somehow I am still worried if he's okay. He is always active on social media and retweeting. But there's none of that. He only liked two posts, which is not normal for him. He always likes so many posts and tweets a lot. I thought he was just going to give me space, but he just walked away. I know I deserve better etc, but I am worried about him. There is a possibility that he is just super pre-occupied with a new girl. But do you think he is okay? Why is he acting like this? Even though he treated me like shit, I still want him okay. I want to never worry him about him again but it isn't that easy. What do you think is going on with him?

[spartan55]

Nothing, I assure you he is fine. He is moving on his way, you should try to do the same.

[Asker]

Of course. I want to move on freely and not worry about him anymore. And although he doesn't deserve my worries, I just hope he is doing okay. He said extremely hurtful things, but I still want him well and happy.

[spartan55]

Sorry you had to go through that, breaking up is never a fun time.

[Asker]

Thank you very very much. We have broken up many times before, so it doesn't hurt that much anymore. I thought I would be crying or slumped down and upset, but I am just more concerned for him. At the end of the day, I hope he finds someone beautiful that is perfectly fit for him. I will slowly forgive him for the things he said and how he treated me.

[spartan55]

Just some advice, try to push the mindset that you need to check on him to make sure he is okay OUT of your mind. Dialing back social media means (like everything else online) VERY little.

[Asker]

You're right. it's just a little difficult not knowing if he is okay. If he was spamming or showing more signs "to life", I would stop. But clearly it isn't helping. We both need to focus on ourselves. I don't even get why I'm so concerned how he is doing when clearly he doesn't care how he hurt me. Yeah I try not to go on social media and have been working really hard recently, but the urge to make sure he is okay is so strong.

[spartan55]

Keep in mind you have that mindset for you (sooth, etc) not him.

[Anonymous]

You're such a wonderful kind heart girl 😘

[Asker]

Thank you. I wish I could agree on that, but I definitely make mistakes and can be a total ass at times. But I reflect a lot and hope to be better each time. I just really hope he's okay. I don't know why I am even concerned. He really doesn't deserve it, but I can't help but be worried he is struggling. I just haven't seen him be like this. He could be busy or what not, but I hope he is well.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow...
You melt my heart baby 😘

[Asker]

Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

Your welcome love...😘❤️