What do guys 'REALLY SAY' about girls behind closed doors?

[laurieluvsit]

Like, what is really being said in the Locker Room at school?

Are they talking about sweet, innocent and nice upbeat things about girls, or are they talking about who they like vs who they think is a b*tch vs who their latest sexual conquest was or a combination of it all?

What is the real scoop? ... be honest guys.

Girls, what do you think they really discuss the most?

... just curious

Yes, they only say good uplifting things about the girls that they know

They mainly discuss the sex they are having with them when it is buddy to buddy and not a lot of others are listening in

Some of them say horribly things about girls and call them b*tches

OTHER, see my comments below, or just open the "What Do Guys Really Say about Girls Behind Closed Doors" Survey

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[lilyanony1]

I haven't read the comments yet (I will soon)
But I think when the boys are together they probably Bragg if there's an alpha to hype themselves up a bit but I think they tend to be nerds together.
Talking about guy stuff, pulling stupid pranks being immature guys for a brief moment in time.
But I could be wrong!

[Bl0n6eguy]

This is pretty true. Its always Those Guys that brag about girls or say crude things, most are a bit shy about it; we might say we have a crush on a girl to a friend of ours, but its never demeaning.

[lilyanony1]

Aww that's sweet. I'm glad that my view of men/boys matches up. I think guys get a lot of bad rep for maybe sometimes just expressing their inner mosey deepest (sexual) thoughts. Which is probably just reserved for trusted people only.

[lilyanony1]

Thank you for mho x

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome, thank you for a great opinion :)

[motownplayer2000]

I wouldn’t say you are wrong. I’m sure in a lot of groups is like that. I mean there is a bit of that. In my guy group. Locker room talk usually consist of career planning, side hustles, technology, music production, programming, investment opportunities, and pushing ourselves to be better every day. We are a bit competitive when it comes to that. Sex? Sure, we talk about that girl next door on occasion or who fucked who xyz party. But mostly it’s really nothing to do with women. We don’t sit and contemplate women and what they do. It’s about what we can do to put ourselves in better position. Any guys that was time sitting around doing that other stuff really hasn’t grown up

[DizzyDesii]

If its not about banging us, they prob just talk about video games and sports. I dont think we’re as important as we think we are 😂

[laurieluvsit]

You might be right... lol

[jengeorge26]

Wish that was true 💃 but probably not

[Vegasrunner]

@dizzydesil You are correct. Guys dont really discuss women outside of whos hot and who they banged. Something like 90% of all relationship material is consumed by women.

[DoctorSex]

@DizzyDesii as a Doctor of sex, I can tell you that you are very right.

I had to really think long and hard about this. In my mid 20's , you're very right. It was all about having sex with females, and even then the conversation wouldn't be long. A simple confirmation that we all recognise that she's "bang"able, was enough.
As we grow older, it's all about empire creation, "have you stocked up enough hay for winter? How's the building of the castle coming along?" Type conversations

Kind regards,

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks for mho

[laurieluvsit]

You're welcome.

I usually try to give MHO's to newer members just to help them work their way up the ladder, but that one was just too good to pass up! ... lol

[Jamie05rhs]

"long and hard" Lol

[pass_the_celery98]

Yeah honestly looking back now from my high school years, we did talk about girls in a very sexual way like man did you see her ass in those shorts or how tight her top was? or man she looked soo hot I got an awkward boner. But many times I recall about sports — what happened in the NHL or NBA, which team will beat what teams, who’s going to win the championship.

[dolemite89]

this is 100% accurate, sure we talk about sex and girls but it’s not as much as girls think we do 😅

[Screenwriter]

@dolemite89 I think younger men do discuss relationships and feelings as well as hotness and banging. I know my son does. He's 26. He's not a sports person, so all that NHL, NFL stuff doesn't track with him. He might discuss music because that is his interest. I mean I talk about Wimbledon and US Open and even some golf if something spectacular happens, and my home football team. And, of course, the Olympics are always fun. But I talk about my home projects and plans too. I don't know if men and women are that different.

I think it's more the AGE of the person, than anything. In your 20s, it is all about banging and relationships. By your 30s you're probably settled into one and having kids, so you talk about that and saving money for retirement and school for the offspring. Maybe even advanced degrees for yourself. 40s it might be divorce time and getting back out there again and ALSO doing a second career.

By 50s and 60s, you should be cruising at top of whatever game you've decided on and your relationships should be stable, you might be helping your grown kids along with their young kids and themselves. The chatting behind closed doors by this time is about serious stuff like illnesses, retirement finances, is house falling apart or car, how much longer are you going to work, what amt of money can you give to your adult kids for their school or your grandkids for theirs...

If you're talking about either sex a whole lot, you likely aren't busy enough or dating.

[Moose304]

When I am in places like locker rooms the conversations are rarely about women. With two exceptions. Amber Heard is being discussed a lot, and if a guy is making fun of a female. I know a few days ago a guy was making fun of a middle age female that was walking around with 20 pounds of ass in a 10-pound container. It has been a long time since I heard a conversation about having sex. Honestly, if a female is being discussed the guys are making fun of her. Sad, but true!

[Screenwriter]

@Moose304 Likely it's because few of us are having wild, randy sex anymore to brag about. Sigh.

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter Most people dont want to hear about men bragging about their wild sex life. If I shared w/ you intimate details of my sex life you would probably accuse me of lying or say that it is "creepy" to share this info.

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner I don't want to hear about it unless I know you personally and it's amusing. But I'm sure SOME people would like to hear about it, lies or not!.

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter Thats false. Relationship conversations are designed to be palatable to the female listener. What men who are actually gettling laid say isn't something that the average female like yourself is going to be used to hearing so most guys simply refrain from sharing their experiences.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@DizzyDesii Accurate.

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner Please share an example. I'm wondering if I'd be interested or not... This is enticing!

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter You are not going to find it interesting as this is not the best platform to validate that theory. You dont know me so any example that I provide will be met w/ 1 of 3 responses.
1. Equality - "Well men women do that as well" "
2. Exceptions - Not all...
3. Personal attack- Who hurt you?
The only way you're going to respect the example is if a high value man you personally know and have an attraction to provides you w/ one.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Vegasrunner Give her a chance. Lol

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner Come on, give out. I don't know any "high value" men, as in someone I'm attracted to at the moment, so that doesn't track. And I'm not here to attack you.

I can't participate in a discussion if you won't "discuss!" This is all about our opinions and personal experiences. What else can it be about?

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter As per your request.
1. Girls think about guys more than guys think about girls - High value men dont really get together and talk about women that often top topics of conversation are going to be sports, business and politics.
2. Quantity over quality - An abundance mindset may be the most important trait of a HV man. When we do talk about women its rarely about one specific girl. Typically it's going to be about the number of women that we've banged in a specfic location. (Ex I was in Thailand last week and banged 4 women while I was there)
3. If it is one girl - Its going to be about a body part 99.9% of the time. Girls really have names, rather are reffreed to as the girl w/ the big tits or phat ass.
4. Tips and Tricks - Most people thinks this means what tips and tricks we use. It really refers to tips and tricks that will be used against you by women. I've had everything from earrings to underwear, to tampons left "accidentally" at my house. wasn't until, I became HV and associated w/ other HV men that I found out this is a common trick women use to try to keep a man.
5. Bros over hoes is a myth - The common belief is that the interest of your friends should come over the internet of women. 1st this is rarely practiced by men HV or otherwise. Secondly when most HV men go out together it is understood that throughout the night the group will dwindle as each is going to have a women to attend to at some point and time. Also it is very common for HV men to share the same women, simply look at any celebrity and view their roster. However it is considered disrespectful to go after another mans woman while she is still w/a HV man. Its important to note a clear sign a man isn't HV is another man going after his woman in front of him.
Hope this helps.

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner I find it very amusing that you would think any woman would think leaving a tampon, earring or underwear at your house would "mark" you as hers. I'm sure any man could simply dispose of said item with an amused, or BEmused smirk... "What does she think she's doing?"...

I might've dropped or lost an earring... but I've never left any clothing item at any man's house. And a tampon! How gauche! Who would come back to GET it? The only real TRICK I know of for sure is to get pregnant, but that's only done by the VERY young and VERY stupid and if a man is HV, as. you're calling him, I don't know why he'd be fooling with babies anyway... Always dangerous... Thanks for the answers...

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter They're not leaving the tapoon to "mark you as hers" they're leaving it because they understand that I'm going to have other women over and they want to sabotage my relationship w/ them in the Hope's that I'm left w/ fewer options hopefully chosen them. This is a very common trick that women use but as you mentioned since you dont know any HV men, you probably aren't familiar w/ it.

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner IT's not that I don't know any HV men. It's that I don't need to "trick" anyone or, as I say and I repeat, "mark anyone as mine" to fend off OTHER women.

If someone cares for me, that MAKES him HV. I don't NEED to leave anything at their house.

I'd trust them enough to know no other women are hanging around to see anything of mine that might be at their house, NOT because I'm fending someone off, but because I have a few things at his house for when I visit, just like HE has a few things at MY HOUSE for when HE visits. Each in our special drawers where these things are kept!

Kisses, Vegas!!

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter That's odd you literally stated "I dont know any HV men" Were you lying then or are you lying now?

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner RIght now I'm not with anyone. But my statement stands. If I care for someone and vice versa, they're HV. And I would trust them implicitly enough, we would visit each other and at some point have some of our stuff at each other's houses. Not to fend some other man or woman off, but because we'd be seeing each other and it'd be convenient to do so. Not lying then or now.

[Screenwriter]

And I'm a one at a time person and would discover they are the same. So none of this "leaving" things "accidentally on purpose". would occur. Very gamesmanship and young and unnecessary.

If anyone's doing that, it's childish and foolish.

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter TY for your statement as it falls under category #2 exceptions. First you claim "you dont know any HV men" Then to attempt to convince me that if you did, you would somehow be the exception" So which is it? Then you double down on the exception by saying that "If someone cares for me that makes them HV" That's a mistake a lot of women struggle w/. A man caring for you has nothing to do w/ his value. In fact depending on your personal level of attractiveness it could actually lower his value as the #1 trait of HV men is that they are recognized as high value by other men of value. Because you haven't ever actually had a HV man you can't really say what level you would go to to keep him. If you ever had a HV man you would learn pretty quickly that you are going to have to use several tricks to keep him interested perhaps you dont run in that circle as you said, but women who do understand how competitive it is to keep men like me and they are willing to go to great lengths to stay relevant. Remember this is all in response to a subject you yourself claimed you had little knowledge of so hopefully this helps.

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter This falls under #3 Personal attacks. This is a standard shaming tactic women attempt to use essentially claiming that anyone that doesn't share your POV must be lacking something. Its unfortunate that you choose to attack these women for their choices however, practically they're are intelligent enough to understand supply and demand. As mentioned b4 these are the kinds of conversations HV have unfortunately what happens is most regular women like yourself only interact w/ regular guys so you're not privy to what guys who are actually getting women say and do.

[DoctorSex]

@Vegasrunner @Screenwriter God, can you two just get a room already!

[Vegasrunner]

@DoctorSex Stop it. Nothing wrong w/ an honest exchange of ideas which is what this platform was designed for.

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner I don't feel like I have to waste time trying to keep someone interested with "tricks." I think I'm interesting enough. And there's nothing about what I've said to you that has to do with shaming or attacking you.

You are welcome to your POV. What I'm hoping to convey is that there are men and women who are HV because of their intelligence, personality, warmth and graciousness who don't use "tricks" to either attract or keep a partner.

What you're describing sounds difficult, exhausting and like game-playing. This might be interesting to you. You might find this stimulating. I would not. Not shaming you or attacking you. Simply saying I've not done this and would not find it enjoyable. And there are HV people everywhere who do not act in this manner. If you want this kind of competitiveness, it's fine for you. I've had great relationships with friends and lovers without it.

[Screenwriter]

@DoctorSex I'm just trying to meet in the middle. VR seems to not get this. I've made my final statement. If he doesn't get me, he doesn't. Not attacking or shaming. But saying there IS another way.

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter
1. You can "feel" how you like. Fact is you can't really say what you would do because as you said you dont know any HV men.
2. You are not attacking me rather attacking women for their tricks which as you said were "foolish and childish" or are you know saying that women who rely on tricks to keep HV men aren't foolish and childish?
3. This isn't a POV but a fact. Every woman has to use tricks to keep a HV man. You are being told this by a HV man who you begged to share insight w/ you about other HV man. Tje fact that you dont like that isn't relevant.
4. I can't speak for how exhausting it is to keep a HV man because I have never had to. What I can say is that any woman wanting my time should be prepared to compete because I have a lot of options. Also if what you were saying was true then this information wouldn't be info shared by other HV men. I understand if this is foreign to you as most women do end up having to settle for regular men. I'm simply answering the question you asked me so that if you ever do have a shot at a HV man you will understand the competition you are up against. Gl. Hope this helps.

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner A man who I've chosen would be a HV man, as I would be a HV woman. That is what I also said. And, true, no, I don't want to "compete" for a man. Either he chooses me because of who I am and his interest in me, or he doesn't. Same applies on my side.

Again, I'm not "attacking" any woman who wishes to compete for a man. I think she's wasting time and energy. Not an attack, just an opinion. I still contend it's foolish and childish. This isn't an attack.

And it IS YOUR OPINION that a HV man requires a woman to use trickery to keep him interested.

Your logic is flawed if you think HV man means a woman needs trickery to keep him because so many OTHER women want him.

I believe my interest in a man makes him high value to me. If he doesn't feel the same about me and has a bevy of OTHER women chomping at the bit to have him, then his value to me is nil.

I don't know what circles you run in Vegas, but they don't sound of interest to me. I've never had to work that hard to have decent, interesting and loving relationships with men. And I've valued those relationships highly. Best regards!!! Good luck in all your endeavors..

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter
1. False your choice in a man has nothing to do w/ how society views him. If you haven't had to compete for a man then that man doesn't have any value. Could you imagine dating a movie star and no other women wanted him? If he is choosing to be w/ only you it is most likely because he has no other options.
2. Can we take a moment to laugh at the fact in one sentence you claim to not be attacking women and then in the next you literally attack them?
3. It is not my "opinion" it is the consensus based on feedback from actual HV men over the last 20 years. Which is ironically the info you originally begged for. Ironic that when you were begging for the info you claimed you were ignorant, now upon finding out the info you have somehow become knowledgeable on the subject of HV men? Hows that even possible?
4. You may want to look at your own logic if you really believe women dont need to use tricks to keep HV men. 90% of all relationship books and magazines are purchased by women, and over 80% of all online relationship forms are frequented by women if what you were saying was remotely true women wouldn't consume so much information dedicated to teaching them how to retain a man.
5. A mans value to you is irrelevant. You could be attracted to a short, fat, broke man that works a regular 9-5 that does not make him HV. Women make terrible decisions daily because they are led by emotions for a man to truly be considered HV other men of value need to view him as HV. What happens when you take your low value man out and he is surrounded by actual men of value?
6. Correct you dont know what circles I run in because as you said you dont know any HV men.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Vegasrunner I think you're annoying her, bro. She's being very polite, but she really doesn't want to talk to you anymore.

[Screenwriter]

@Jamie05rhs Clearly, I have no skills or ability to interest or retain a high-value man. It is FAR too exhausting. I'd rather take my mediocre-value man, to hike in the hills, or on a bike trip up the levee, or to do some canoeing or kayaking on a river or lake. Bring a picnic basket. Do some birdwatching and swimming. AH! My Low-Value life and days!!! Kisses Jamie!

[Vegasrunner]

@Jamie05rhs Lol, sounds like you've got your Cape on. I'm simply replying to the statements that @Screenwriter has tagged me in. The fact that she doesn't like the answers isn't really relevant. If there's some insult, degrading are insulting statement that I said about her please share and I'll instantly apologize. If not, then you're simply acting the way a lot of basic men act, cowering everytime a women becomes emotional over something. If you want to become better w/ women you'll have to lean to ignore this because they all do this whenever their beliefs are challenged. You would know this if you had more experience w/ them.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Vegasrunner Nah. I know what you're talking about, but she's not doing that. She's being respectful and rational the time time, bro. You're the one being an ass.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Screenwriter Thanks! Back atcha! 😘
(by the way, all of those date ideas sound great to me!)

[Vegasrunner]

@Jamie05rhs That's an interesting take considering the written correspondence. Can you please share any disrespectful or insulting comment made by me toward this user? I would certainly be interested to see why you believe me answer a question constitutes "being an ass".

[Screenwriter]

@Vegasrunner Being an "ass" in Jamie's book might encompass a diverse set of issues, Vegas. No one said you were being disrespectful, but you've certainly been talking down to me about my not knowing high value men, etc. That is quite a bit of assholery, in my book.

My take on high value is someone who value me highly and vice versa. I don't think women lining up at the door or what other men think of a particular man means they are assuredly "high value." There are components of some of what you say that make sense. But all this competition to "get to" or "entertain" such high value men makes me yawn. I want to focus my energy on doing and being with someone, doing activities we enjoy. Kite flying! I'm dying to go fly some kites. Scuba diving. Also high on my list. But the simplest things like taking walks together, going to art and history museums. These are things I value highly and if the man I'm into values them highly too, HE IS HIGH VALUE!

Don't need to be rich to be my boy, don't have to be cool to rule my world, Ain't no particular sign I'm more compatible with. I just want your extra time and your... KISS!!!

[Vegasrunner]

@Screenwriter Lol, You literally said "I dont know any HV men" So unfortunately a conversation is pointless if you're going to choose to be dishonest. These things are in writting so not sure why you would even attempt to omit that. You asked me to share my POV w/ you I never asked you for yours so your opinion of what constitutes a HV isn't relevant. You dont have to like it but these are thing that actual HV men go through which is what you claimed you wanted to know in the 1st place. If you weren't interested in this info, then why did you beg for it to begin with?

[Finchie40]

, That’s the thing if us guys told the truth behind closed doors you Girl’s will still tell us lies so it’s a no win situation lol Through my experiences through out life Girl’s are worse than guys when it comes to this shit , since I am older and really have nothing to lose I will share with you what guys say about Girls’ We actually talk about whether a girl is Hot or Not , if she has a sexy body , beautiful eyes , she sucks good dick or she is great in bed , we don’t go into full detail if we really like the girl , if we don’t care about a girl we will say she is a bitch or she is a whore or she is stuck up, short and sweet and right to the point , Girls on the other hand go into more detail , i over heard girl’s talk and it’s pretty sad , she can play all sweet and innocent but behind closed doors she is bad , Girl’s night out is way worse then guys night out in my opinion , I use to work as a bouncer at a club and I witnessed more drama with girls over guys to the point it was traumatizing lol I understand why most guys don’t want their girlfriends or wives going out for Girl’s night cuz Girl’s are crazier than guys are , Guys mainly talk about guy stuff like fishing and cars and work , sports , typical guy stuff , if we talk about a girl it’s pretty much right to the point , Girl’s on the other hand are naughty and selfish and more into detail , to the point of her partner knew what she was doing he would dump her ass. Sorry to be harsh but this is what I have experienced and witnessed , the truth hurts at times lol Most girl’s need reassurance, she needs to know whether she is still attractive or not so she will get all dazzled up to go out with her friends and flirt with guys and sometimes hook up with guys just to get that reassurance on whether she is still hot or not , she knows those guys at the bars are looking to get laid , so to show off in front of her friends she will become a whore or she will flirt to get free drinks , the more she drinks the more she will end up in bed with another guy , I am not saying guys don’t do this but Girl’s definitely win in this category, Girl’s know it’s easier for them to get guys over Guys getting Girl’s Leaving Girl’s to be more selfish and only really thinking of themselves. I know I am going to get hate on this but hey it’s just what I experienced and witnessed

[MrOracle]

Some guys will talk about some hot girl they saw, with perhaps some crude details - "She was hot as hell, great tits, nice ass, beautiful face..."

Almost no guy talks this way about a girl he was in a relationship with, but a few will give explicit details about a girl he slept with if she's known to be easy and/or has a high body count. If it's a girl he was dating and had feelings for, he's not going to give any details because he's not going to want his friends lusting for her or thinking about her in that way.

Some guys will definitely complain if his girl is being a bitch, but more commonly they'll complain when she is acting strangely and illogically and they just can't decipher the problem. A lot of guys can't figure women out, because their actions don't match their words or the expectations that they were taught growing up.

I will say that I'm mostly describing the middle class experience here. Those from lower class backgrounds (which I spent a fair amount of time in growing up and since) tend to be completely direct and explicit about everything, even directly in front of the girls they are talking about, and often the girls are completely unphased and may be just as direct and explicit in return. Folks from that background tend not to care about tomorrow or yesterday, but only today, so they don't worry about reputations much.

[Jamie05rhs]

@MrOracle If you go to a public school, though, they include all classes. So the tone of the conversation tends to be set by the lowest common denominator.

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, a lot of rich kids have dads who are players and cheat on their wives, so those boys are going to emulate their fathers.

[MrOracle]

@Jamie05rhs "If you go to a public school, though, they include all classes."

That's actually highly dependent on WHERE you live. In bigger cities, you are almost certainly correct, but in a lot of smaller/more rural areas, you don't have much of a lower class, and tend to have stronger ties to religion.

Also, there are also towns and even groups of towns where there is very little lower class because the cost of living there is so high, and because vagrancy laws are actually enforced. I work in such areas, and there are no lower-class kids in their public schools. Even the housekeepers and nannies drive BMWs and Mercedes.

I'm from a middle/lower-middle-class town that has seen a major migration to the town from the cities due to gentrification and non-local investors buying houses and renting to Section 8 (heavily government subsidized housing), so I'm all too aware that the tone is set by the lowest common denominator.

[Jamie05rhs]

@MrOracle I grew up in a rural area, and yes we absolutely did (and still do) have a lower class here. You know, the kids who listen to Kid Rock and the Dixie Chicks and watch WWE?

[MrOracle]

@Jamie05rhs Of course. I have relatives in Oklahoma and Arkansas. Some of them (the ones in Arkansas) think an 8th Grade education is several years more than necessary. They listen to two types of music: country and western, and they rarely eat protein they didn't hunt or fish or raise themselves. But not all rural places are like that. I have some relatives in Idaho, and there's almost no lower-class in some areas - and not much upper class either. Just a spread of middle-class. I'm telling you, it really does matter where you are.

[Jamie05rhs]

Whoah, now. There's nothing wrong with hunting and fishing!

[Jamie05rhs]

(Nothing wrong with country music, either, for that matter.)

[Jamie05rhs]

The reason there are less lower-class people in the West is for evolutionary reasons: They don't survive.
(If they're in a red state, that is. Blue states can coddle folks, so they are the exception to that rule.)

[MrOracle]

@Jamie05rhs Who said there was anything wrong with country music or hunting and fishing? While these people may lack "book" education, they know more about the land and the ecology and all kinds of REAL WORLD, IMPORTANT things than almost anyone with a college degree. That's the point.

[Jamie05rhs]

@MrOracle So now you're calling them uneducated? Wow. You think sportsmen who listen to country music are uneducated?

[Jamie05rhs]

I thought we were talking about low-class people. Not country people.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sixgunsound You're "country," aren't you? Help me educate our friend here. As he appears to be confused.

[MrOracle]

@Jamie05rhs I think my relatives in Arkansas are undereducated in a "formal education sense" - and they'd readily agree. They're proud to have left school early. That doesn't mean they're stupid (they aren't), or that they're poor (some are, others run successful businesses and do quite well), or that they don't know far more than "educated" people about many things.

On the other hand, one of my customers is a hard-core sportsman. He hunts and fishes around the world. He's also owns his own commercial real estate investment company. They primarily buy office buildings with low occupancy, bring in new management, repair the buildings, and then pack them full of tenants, and make a lot of money. He got is MBA at Stanford, lives in a $10M house, has homes in several other states including Hawaii, owns a historic ski lodge (where I'm working tomorrow), and recently bought several million dollars of land and built a million-dollar "entertainment barn" on it. And he sometimes listens to country on the sound system I installed in it.

Why do you keep trying to find ways to label me "problematic"? You're clearly looking for ways to be offended, trying to find any angle to find a problem? Dude - relax and quit making yourself so miserable.

[Jamie05rhs]

@MrOracle No, You relax. Lol. You know I'm your friend. But l will give you shit if I feel it's necessary! 😉☺️

[Jamie05rhs]

But hold on. I just have one more thing for ya. Haha 😄

[Jamie05rhs]

THIS is country:

https://images.app.goo.gl/1TPEYydivsWY6pw59

https://images.app.goo.gl/jVRMcr8BoNEi4qUw8

[Jamie05rhs]

THIS is rural low class:

https://images.app.goo.gl/CEC4XqYXXprepBSx8

https://images.app.goo.gl/V9mu2UtrLLeYKMpt5

[MrOracle]

@Jamie05rhs You aren't telling me anything I don't already know. Some of my more distant relatives are those tatted up meth thugs with a life expectancy of about 32. I understand the difference perfectly.

[Sixgunsound]

@Jamie05rhs I’m originally from New York but rebelled against the stereotype. I’m either listening to George Strait or Buddy Brown. I’m also nearly done with my masters degree.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sixgunsound Right on.

[TonyV]

Mostly conplain about the annoying hard to understand things they do.

Like my girl gets all worried if I'm own phone while we watch TV or are just chilling, like she's all concerned I'm not having a good time. But then she'll started talking about shit I don't know so ask her " what are you talking about?" And she tells me someone in the group chat talked about doing blank on Saturday, do you want to go? I haven't seen it cause I wasn't on my phone.

So it's like loose loose, if I'm one it she thinks I'm not having fun with her and she wants to go home, if I ignore it and just hang with her she starts asking about shit I haven't seen yet.

Do you want me on my phone or not? Jesus, so shit like that.
Or me, my bro and a homie can agree it's annoying how many dishes women use, always grabbing a fresh pan or spatula instead of just spending 2 minutes scrubing the one in the sink, or even tho they only drink water they always grab a new glass, it only had fucking water in it, just use it again!

Or how we can actually commit to finishing a show so we end up finishing it after they loose interest then they get upset... I wasn't gonna wait forever for you, sorry but I'm not about to let a single season of a show rake a whole year to watch.

[Jamie05rhs]

Haha. This guy gets it.

[Danzigdawson]

You asked for it. Sorry in advance...

Younger guys (teenagers or early 20's) in a gym locker room talk about girls in a way that will arouse the curiosity of their friends, while making sure that they come off as "manly" because of the social pressure to bury most of their feelings deep down. So even if they actually love the girl, write poems and daydream about her, they will talk about boobs, ass, curves, overall hotness.

Example of a "proper" conversation:

- (Dude 1) Bro, have you seen the size of *girl's name*'s jugs?

- (Dude 2) Yeah dude, and she was wearing tight-ass yoga pants today! Daaaamn!!

- (another Dude who overhead part of the conversation) What? Wait! Which girl are we talking about here, dudes?

- (yet another dude, far away from them) What? Hey, wait up!

Example of a 'frowned upon' conversation":

- Dude, I love *girl's name* , she's kind and sweet and she's really fun to be around. I think I'm going to buy her flowers for her birthday.

- Yeah, I hate my math teacher too... (looks at his phone)

[Danzigdawson]

Young adults between 25 and 35 will usually have steady girlfriends, so they'll talk about them in a more respectful, casual way, because they hang out with her more often than with their friends... plus they're usually past the horny dog stage.

Example of a 'proper' conversation:
- Hey man, I saw a great movie last night with *girl's name*
- Awesome man, are you both still up for a road trip with me and *his own girl*
- Sure thing, bro. I'll call you up tomorrow after work to go through the details.

Example of a 'frowned upon' conversation:
- Dude, my girl's got the biggest jugs and boy, can she s**k.
- Dude, wtf? What would she say if she heard you talk about her that way? Don't you love her? What are you, 16?

[Danzigdawson]

Of course of guys between 25 and 35 become single, they will revert to the horny dog phase but hey'll be way less trashy and they might even throw in feelings about a love prospect:

Example:
- Hey man, I went out for a date with this girl. She's so damn hot! Here, take a look *shows a pic from tinder or wherever else*
- Damn dude! Nice pull! Wouldn't mind waking up next to that! (implying that she's got nice boobs or ass or body, without actually saying it)
- Yeah man! I'm seeing her again tonight, she's fun and really cool. She's a *whatever job she has*. I hope it works out between us!
- Nice! She seems like a cool chick! Make it happen dude! Do you think you'll seal the deal tonight *wink wink*?
- I don't know, we'll see... that'd be awesome though!

[Rania05]

I don't hear guys are discussing this that much_ in middle school they would rather not discuss girls to not get bastard-slapped because the information mysteriously reached the girls in the question or their friends, they occasionally discuss porn (I'm just a wallflower and they forget I'm there) but yeah, more than girls they discuss teachers being hypocrite or what student (mostly from another classes) they kicked during the session and why. Nowdays in highschool (when boys forget my presence AGAIN!!!) they tend to get stressed about exams and despair about their parents who'll beat them if they fail and their humble hopes of teachers going soft on them plus football matches and the riot for tickets or aftermath, people sent the hospital because of it, black market, who takes drugs or get to bars etc... Only once I heard a boy bitching with his group about my friend and I told on them about things they tried to hide from the teacher to another guy next class that really hated that group (for destroying his electronic watch) and persuaded him to get revenge (like faking their absence record and stealing the exam content in advance, etc).

They never known it was me but I still feel a guilty manipulative bitch about it, but no regrets. They should've cleaned their mouths, I was alright before because it's was other things (naturally none of my business, even though it lowered my opinion of the boys, I just focused on my phone) but they should've remembered my presence at least that time because I wasn't hiding it and I was the first on that spot, so why leave?

[Lionman95]

From my experience guys don´t talk that much about girls like women would expect. At least in my experience we´re constantly talking about girls and it also depends on how self-confident a guy is.

Because being rather shy and introvert I never started such a conversation and tried to keep a girl I like as a secret to not create any rivals. That why I say that self confidence plays a role because the guys that knew and know they could get any girl are often the guys that talk the most.

Though there is no common answer to that I would say that guys talk about what catches their attention so it´s mostly talk about a woman´s body like booty or figure, sometimes the hairstyle and color or her legs.

I don´t know if you said that´s uplifting but the scenario is similar to being in streets with the difference that now we can talk with other guys about it. There is also not every guy joining the conversation.

It´s also not necessarily degrading but it´s rather a discussion about how well trained they look and who is hot and attractive and who isn´t. It´s more a discussion about assests and who´s the beauty queen you would give a try.

[Lliam]

I don't remember any graphic or lurid discussions unless someone was talking about the school skank. Oh, there might be talk about how fine a girl was or "wanting to hit that". They might even say that they fucked a particular girl.

I do remember some joking stuff at work. Me and a couple other warehousemen were talking once and a guy said he was eating a girl out the night before when she let out a gnarly fart. He didn't mention her name, though.

At a different job, one guy used to say some really funny shit. One thing I remember in particular was when he said was that his wife would wrap his balls in tin foil and then hum the Star Spangled Banner while sucking his dick. I think he was just making shit up, though.

On the other hand, I always thought that school girls had more of a tendency to want to hear details from their close girlfriends about things like sucking dick or how guys were in bed while they all gasped and giggled... like girls.

[TheSpaceGnome]

When I'm hanging out with friends, we usually talk about what we are doing, what we want to do, things we found, etc.

This usually revolves around hobbies, like critiqing a boss (or area, or art style, or mechanic) in a video game for instance, or maybe some kind of crazy tech, or this really cool looking creature, or some stupid meme or joke, or a funny video, or sciency things.

We don't talk about relationship stuff, and the rare instance when it comes up by chance, every attempt is made to derail it with a joke or snark.

Locker rooms are meant for changing clothes. I've never been in a public locker room, I have zero interest in being around other guys while they are naked/undressing/changing.

I would use a lockable bathroom stall if needed, but I prefered to simply not change clothes in public spaces. Granted, I pretty much never had to change at school, because I never played any sports (because they're all boring af to me). I've never needed used a school shower either for the same reason.

If I were in a situation where a locker room was my only option for changing clothes, then I'd be in and out as quick as possible, I'd also be in the least visible spot, and I'd be averting my eyes and making sure to not make any conversation so I don't have to accidentally see some dude's gross ass weiner.

Also, I would NOT be thinking about women (let alone talking about them) at school, no one wants to have a boner at school (especially in a locker room).

[TheSpaceGnome]

I also have zero interest in gossip, and when I don't like a person, I typically don't talk about them behind their back, simply because the less time spent thinking about negative things, the better.

[wolfcat87]

I've had a LOT of guy friends and we've had a lot of guy talk. Most men don't go into details about their women with other men. They might say "She's amazing" or vent about a specific incident because they are frustrated. Outside of extremes, they just say, "Things are good with her" or "Things are not so good". Then, the conversation moves on after their guy friend says something non committal. Men are far less detailed with men than women are with women. So, I picked D.

[laurieluvsit]

I'm all out of Gold Stars or you would get one!

Maybe the GAG Bot will pick you for the 2 extra ones or even better, the SUPREME... I can hope! :)

[Pinay_ako]

They talk about how they haven’t had sex with their wives or girlfriend for months. How their wives or gfs are drunks or don’t have any interests in working out because they’re fat and slobs… How their partners call them every hour of the day checking on them or even calling other co workers to check it they’re really at work 😑. Or their baby mommas do nothing all day at home and they have to clean up or cook when they get home from work! I feel bad for them though but some don’t really divulge. How do I know? I work in a place where there’s only 3-4 women in a population of 40. I don’t need to eavesdrop. I can hear them from my office… 🤣 They have loud mouths and they don’t stop talking 🙊

[laurieluvsit]

Wow! You must have a great listening device to get that kind of detail! ... lol

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 I am the only woman in the lineup of offices there 😂 so yea I can hear them pretty clearly. I laugh so much coz it’s funny. They don’t care who’s listening 👂. I sometimes just deafen myself 😂 it’s TMI

[laurieluvsit]

... lol

[KennethNoisewater]

*disclaimer* I would never throw a buddy under the bus for shit he says in a locker room. Locker room talk is just locker room talk. **Spoiler** I call women bitches all the time. I call women a lot worse than that. Inside or outside the locker room. But I do that with everyone. Name calling has lost all meaning in my head. I don't say them to be mean. I do it because sometimes the name fits really well and other times it's just a funny thing to call another human... Or pet. I have a bully puppy and I'm pretty sure I call her every name out their except her actual name. And I have nothing but love for her. It's just who I am.

[Weapon77]

This might be a disappointing answer, but we spend most of our time talking about ourselves, video games, sports, etc. There's also a lot of goofing around trying to flick each other in the balls and similar things (like farting attacks) for some reason... But when we do actually talk about girls, it's always super explicitly sexual because we think we have to to get respect. The minute you say how you really feel about a girl and care about her is the moment you get called gay. You only say that stuff to your best friend at your house or something. NEVER around a group of guys.

Although most guys who hate that crap will just be completely quiet and not participate (like me). That can also lead tk being called gay or a virgin, but who cares 🤷‍♂️

[dynamicyandere]

If it’s single male buddies talking to other single male buddies, it can be things like:

* What do you think of this girl?
* What do you think of that girl?
* I think so-and-so is kinda cute.
* Hey I saw this cute girl the other day.
* Who do you think is the most attractive?
* Would you smash or pass?


When male buddies are taken, and you’re respectful of their taken status, girl-related topics may be like:
* Hey, so how are you and so-and-so?
* Do you and so-and-so get into any fights?
* Yeah I just got off the phone with so-and-so and [insert update or brag or complaint].
* Hey so-and-so did this. Is that normal?
* What would you do if your girl did XYZ?


Unless your guy buddies are a bunch or horndogs, girls wouldn’t be the only topic of course. Topics can vary a lot. Love life and relationships can be a topic that the conversation can veer into though. How often it happens depends on your group of guys.

[Sixgunsound]

I don’t really talk to my guy friends about things that my wife and I do. About as close as it would get too wet I think the spirit of the question is would be making direct observations out in public, but as far as what Hollywood or other entertainment venues try to portray men as talking about, that just hasn’t been my experience. I talk about my kids I talk about world events I talk about finances I talk about hobbies I talk about my job I talk about my garden etc. when I was a kid I made up a bunch of stuff, but when I actually had any experience to speak of it just wasn’t some thing that seemed interesting to me to talk about. Partially because I don’t really wanna know whether I would look at someone differently if I knew what the guy was doing to her, but also because it’s not really my business. I have to assume a lot of people have different viewpoints on this, but as for my own experience I generally don’t talk about sexual encounters or details.

[Zeus_66]

Believe it or not, but the answer must be based on the maturity of group of men. Honestly, being a married man of 20 years, running with dudes at the bar who are married for 20 years as well... The conversation tends to be tame, be it just passing common courtesy, a sense of envy (aka a guy hearing his friend have a better sex life say to himself, "Damn! He's lucky and his wife is cool!"), or simple locker room talk that never gets harped on. Mature men don't normally or consistently bring that stuff up. Hell, we're too busy bitching about our bosses and something messing up bowling night.

Women? Forget it! I've been to happy hour with the girls PLUS ME, and wow! The shit I've heard. Steamy chat about the bartender. The younger guys there, etc. We dudes are worse than a sewing circle, and you ladies are ready to rumble. And you know what, I'm envious! God bless you ladies!

[Th3ft]

It all depends on the guy and how close he is to a girl. You can find some guys who will talk horrible about almost every girl and then never talk about the girl they really like while other guys will say all the nice things and then when they get to their friends they say all the worst things that come through their minds. Personally I will say whatever to most everyone and then when I get with my friends I will tell them the real things I think like I am a people pleaser in that way… but when I am with certain people I will only say the things I really think and all of how a girl makes me feel or how pissed off some bitch was. Like it gets real with a couple of guys.

[Anonymous]

Well, here's my experience in high school.

While we were changing after a PE lesson, I remember a bunch of the "popular" boys (not really liked by most, just sporty and good looking enough to date all the prettiest girls) bragging about all the ridiculous things they, in truth, likely hadn't done in bed with their girlfriends and boasting about cheating on them as well (we were about 14 at the time).

Now, these guys picked on me a lot and made everyone else's lives miserable. I secretly started to record the conversation on my phone. Then I sent it to a friend of mine who had contact with the popular girls these boys were dating. Within days, they were at each other's throats and openly threatening (bluffing) violence against each other. Felt very satisfying to put those idiots in their place.

[MAC1983]

That's classic!

[Puppystarfish23]

I used to work with all men and honestly some of the things they said about women was disgusting and actually really scary especially. I remember one guy saying he'd really like to use a tazer on a girl in bed and that same guy tried to get me drunk at the Christmas party the year before and get me back to his place.

[laurieluvsit]

OMG! ... you're lucky he didn't get you to go with him. Hopefully he's been locked up if he did that to anyone.

[Puppystarfish23]

I doubt it he works at a hoilday park now and has a girlfriend. He thinks because his daddies rich he's untouchable

[Anonymous]

Im not part of the lad culture. In my wall of life most of the talk boils down to, "have you asked susie out yet?" , "How are things going between you" , "Rebecca sure looks hot today" etc. Its not necessarily degrading, unless there's negative history between the guy and girl he's on about.

You could call it reductive, possibly, but men in my experience are more object focused than emotion focused; this is further supported by the fact that our feelings of attraction are triggered subconsciously by looks — so the topic of conversation (about women) is usually either looks, crushes, or relationship updates.

Its important to note that we do not talk about women or crushes outside of our close friends. Girls gossiping about guys is probably far more common, we gossip nowhere near as much.

[TonightYouu]

Behind closed doors guys are having the dumbest conversations in the world Here are some Examples of popular conversation topics that mostly began in between guy friends :

Is a hotdog a sandwich?
If you put icing on a muffin is it a cupcake?
Goose is to Geese as Moose is to Meese?
Is sebastian a crab or a lobster? Where does baby oil come from? Is a thumb a finger? Can you cry under water? Etc.

this may blow womens minds but guys aren’t the sex crazed animals the media portrays us to be we’re always ready for it but don’t feel like doing it or talking about it all the time