Guys, How can I ask the commitment question?

[Sebby84]

Iv been seeing a guy for 4 months but there's been no talk of future or commitment. I dont doubt he has feelings for me we have such a good time together but i feel he wants his cake and to eat it as at the weekend he always has plans with friends. I feel like he wants me but also still live like he's single. How can i ask the question are you using me without sounding like a clinger or being difficult. And what to do if i get no straight answer which is what i feel ill get

[Guy13]

I am enjoying our time and I am developing a bond to/with you. I want to know that it is going to be you and I alone. I want an exclusive commitment from you. Thank about and w will process it Friday. Do it in person NOT TEXT

[young_OG96]

Don’t ask, just do the same thing he’s doing, if he’s serious he’ll have that conversation with you, if he doesn’t then you know to keep it moving…. Don’t waste time coasting with someone who won’t commit

[20yearsolder]

You just have to be honest with him, I'm not meaning to sound like a bitch but I feel like you're using me a little bit, I want some of your weekend time as well.

[OnTheLevel]

Ask him where he sees your relationship 6 months from now.

[Andres77]

Have you met his family yet?

[Sebby84]

No nor him mine

[Andres77]

Step it up. See what he says.

[Sebby84]

Im pretty sure i know he won't give a straight answer or want to change things i iust dont want to sound like a dick or im putting pressure on him

[Andres77]

It shouldn’t take that…but it’s a technique to determine intentions. Plus…if he gets cagey are you ready to drop the relationship?

[Sebby84]

If he doesn't want a relationship after this length of time what would i waste my time being a week day girlfriend

[Andres77]

General rule: the one who cares the least about the relationship has the power. Because the one that wants the relationship the most will compromise everything to maintain the relationship.
Watch and judge.

[Sebby84]

Im ready to give him 100% i feel after 4 months he should know what he wants

[Andres77]

If he’s not ready…what are you going to do?

[Sebby84]

I won't be continuing with it to get deeper feelings and end up hurt

[Sebby84]

If its ending i want to be the 1 to do it i will be heartbroken but i think its what id have to do

[Andres77]

Seems like you have more balls than him.
I’m hoping for the best but men under 30 are risky bets.

[Sebby84]

he's 36 which makes it harder to take

[Andres77]

So he’s a BIG boy.

[Sebby84]

Yeah been single for a few years

[Andres77]

I hope it works out, dear

[Sebby84]

Can i ask you 1 more question please…. I seen a golf meme on fb n screenshot it n sent it to him there a few minutes ago as he loves golf but there was a fb dating notification on it n he asked how is fb dating treating u with a laughing emoji after…. is this a dig at me that he's bothered or not? Iv replied with im never on it which im not and asked how it was treating him.

[Sebby84]

Would he bring that up if it didn't bother him