Emotional Affair?

[Anonymous]

A married man I know reached out to me months ago and we started having an emotional affair, never physical. I am married too. We communicated all the time and then it went dead. I figured it was just an ego boost so I licked my wounds and began to walk away from it but then he reached out to me and told me his world is falling apart and he is very stressed. He reaches out occasionally but not like it used to be. Am I just the girl to fill a void for him?

[20yearsolder]

Did he tell you what was going on in his personal life? Did his wife find out? Is he having to limit his communication because he is being monitored by her? There are too many variables in this to give you a educated opinion

[Asker]

He said his marriage and money is stressing him. She has been on him more since he was on his phone more... it also makes me sad because he wants to hear about my day , but when I ask about him he gets very vague.

[20yearsolder]

One of these days your husband will catch on to what you're doing and then you'll have to disappear. You'll have to sneak more as well. Trust me I've done this

[Asker]

But is this a game for guys or is it possible that there is some emotional attachment? Or does it even matter?

[20yearsolder]

No it's not a game if he got caught, he's trying to save his marriage

[Asker]

Thank you... It just hurts... he sought me out and i resisted him for so long and now I feel stupid for every allowing myself to feel the way I do for a man who keeps playing this yo-yo game with me. Thank you :)

[20yearsolder]

Don't take it personally, play out the scenario that you got caught by your husband. If he catches you talking to that man again you're going to lose your home, he's going to fight you for custody of your children. Blah blah blah. What do you do? Chances are you're going to disappear at least for a while. Your contact is going to be limited

[Googlemyahoo]

So guys who act like this the typical “oh he’s just a good friend,” bullshit are merely waiting for the one time you slip up so they can get in there. there's no emotional affair, its an affair. It sounds like he’s filling a void for you.

[Drumlin2001]

You should cut all ties and reevaluate your own relationship. You haven't been fair to your husband by getting involved with someone else. Why did you feel the need to start the affair with him?

[Avicenna]

Yes, you're being manipulated. Don't let him do it.

[Bang5luts]

Well step up or put him out to pasture. You have a life to

[sidhagain]

Probably yes... And i am sure even he'd but have a problem if you make the same of him

[LazerBean]

Yes you are. Do better.

[Iron_Man]

No good at all stay away from married man