The guy that I’m friends with benefits with said that “I’m going to try to work on myself for awhile, so I’m going to have to take a step back from this arrangement.” This was almost two weeks ago that he said that, I didn’t respond yet, I don’t know what to say but I would want to know what he meant by that, I was friends with benefits with this guy for more than 2 years, I don't know if I should ask him what he means by that, I don’t really understand what he meant. I feel like I’m ready to talk about it now.
Well for me I only do Friends with Benefits type things with women I would totally want to have sex with but not date. So it only works for as long as it takes me to find someone I really want to date, and if I am doing a friends with benefits thing and I start to think she is catching feelings or that I am catching feelings I end it, unless it something I really want.
So its hard to say honestly was this guy catching feelings and just too immature to talk to you about it? Or did he find someone else and was just trying to let you down easy? Or is he going through something and just doesn't think you're worth keeping around or involving yourself with? Honestly it could be anything, with these types of things, sure you hooked up for years but how well do you really know him or about his life.
That's the deal with Friends with Benefits they all have expiration dates, sure some times it works for years and decades and sometimes they just fizzle out... but they are not meant to be long term type things. At some point you make it an official thing or you cut it off.
I would say that if you are conflicted that you should let him know that if he is interested in more than just being friends your willing to talk about it. But in the end one would think that if he wanted that he would be man enough to bring it up with you first before just cutting you off... but you never know these type of situations can make people do silly things. They are meant to be complicated and sometime they just want to be that way.
If it is something you are seriously interested in following up on then I would not over think it or be discouraged... worse he can say is no and seriously would that be so bad?
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“Step back” is an easy way of breaking it to you that he wants to end the arrangement. He’s probably started to date someone and a friends with benefits is the definition of “it’s complicated”.
More than likely he found a girl that he likes and does not want to officially be in a Friends with benefits relationship in case he is successful with her.
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He's no longer interested in that arrangement with you.
It means he likely done using you.
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