I've found other women to be extremely attractive and pleasant to look at when in relationships, but that doesn't mean I was tempted to cheat. I never made any "move" or approached those women in any way.
It's no different than when a supercar drives by. I enjoy seeing a Ferrari or Lamborghini or McLaren or any crazy, unusual car. That doesn't mean that I want one of those for myself - I really don't, even if I could easily afford one - but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy seeing them. Those cars are beautiful, and when you're just looking, you don't have to deal with all of the many, many problems and expenses that come along with owning one of them.
That doesn't mean men are never tempted. I had a drunk, naked girl in my bed (who wasn't my girlfriend) while in a relationship, and she was doing her best to pull me in the bed on top of her. She was very attractive, and I could have had sex with her and likely no one would have ever known. THAT is real temptation - and I was able to resist it. I'm not saying it was EASY - hey, I'm a man, so the temptation was real - but I got her dressed and took her home instead.
A guy in a relationship may occasionally have an attractive women throw herself at him, and THAT is the kind of temptation that can sometimes cause a good guy to make a big mistake - but that's a very ACTIVE temptation. The situation you're describing is completely passive, and is far less likely to ever be an issue.
I don't really struggle not cheating anymore, since I know how devastating that can be to a girl and to a relationship- I did it, and regret it. I cheated because I was bored, and my self-esteem took a hit. I wanted to prove I could get any girl, and had too much free time.
I've also had enough sex with enough people to know that it's just a lot of the same, without emotions involved. No different from variations of masturbation.
However, do I notice attractive girls, especially in the gym when they're wearing tight clothing? Absolutely. Does the thought cross my mind about having sex with them? Yep. But I just carry on doing what I'm doing, and don't waste my time with useless things.
I think he is being disrespectful to you. After all, he's out spending time with you! And not to go out with you just so he can check out other girls in front of you.
To be honest I would have to tell him how he is being rude to you when he does that and say you won't go out with if he's going to check out other girls.
What a creep! 🧐
Well he's showing signs he finds her attractive. If its constantly and it bothers you, then talk to him about it.
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No, most don't struggle with cheating because it's not exactly easy for a guy to cheat.. Women are not out here waiting in line for men whether they are with somebody or not.. The guy would have to deliberately work to cheat.. I do think it was a bit disrespectful for your boy to be taking multiple looks at her like that.. I mean of course you'll find other people attractive , that's one thing, bit to purposefully lust after another woman in front of your girl is another.. Although, we don't know your story so, I Won't have too hard of an opinion on it. I just never liked that type of thing.
When we love our gfs/wives we don’t necessarily “struggle” with the temptation.
We are highly visual creatures and the thought will hit our minds in certain circumstances. That’s natural. But we quickly dismiss that fantasy.
The problem arises when we seriously consider it. Also it doesn’t help at all that women often find taken men more attractive. But that doesn’t mean we will do it though. Most of us have self control to know the consequences of cheating. We value what we have.
Staring at other women may be disrespectful to your wife and may reflect weakness of your moral character, but is by no means "cheating". To also take it as a precursor to cheating is ridiculous unless there are other serious issues in your relationship.
It takes a very strong character to never stare at other women. However, what matters more is how shamelessly and in an offensive fashion you do it.
One thing I definitely try very hard is that when I am with my wife, if someone catches my attention, i look and then quickly look away. Even if I have been overcome with my manly weakness, i try not to hold a gaze.
One thing I absolutely hate with a passion... to stare at a female when I am with other male friend or friends. I just hate that when guys start ogling together.
Some guys cheat. Some guys never cheat. And it's unrelated to whether a guy looks or not. Although if YOU are really on your 'A' game and doing everything you can & should, then your man isn't going to notice other women. But I bet you're not on your 'A' game.
Nope. When my ex tried to come back into the picture I was tempted to break up with my girlfriend at the time, but I would never cheat. I did feel that struggle for a while, but it was really only because my ex was my first love. She broke it off with me and I fantasized about her coming back for so long before moving on, so when she did it really threw me... I decided, in the end, no amount of rose-tinted lenses could change the fact that we were too toxic. It's been 3 years now with my current girlfriend and I'm as happy as I've ever been
Some guys will struggle with it, but a lot won’t.
I’m not married, but so far, when I was happy in a relationship, I don’t recall ever oggling. There wasn’t any flirting, nothing. There was no temptation to look. Of course, that being said, I don’t know how it would go if I was married or in a long term boyfriend/girlfriend dating situation. I’d try not to.
Whenever I was dating someone and a Victorias Secret commercial came on, it was an automatic change to a different channel. I wasn’t going to help entertain those thoughts if I could help it.
Yeah, if he’s being obvious and creepy about it, ok… otherwise, it’s probably not a precursor to cheating.
Sometimes when you think we’re looking, we may not be. Or we’re just trying to figure out what they’re doing.
No, I sometimes look at other women to reminisce when I was single and how much less satisfied I was trying the usual gauntlet. Other times I see attractive women and think about how much I adore my girlfriend and it gives me a sense of gratitude. Basically it always goes back to my significant other.
No not really, then again I have been in 3 relationships which have been two guys and one woman, and I have been faithful with all 3 of them. I am fairy new to the dating scene because I am currently working more on my career right now and I don't really have time for relationships but when I am in a relationship, I really do make it my best to not be tempted to cheat. I am not perfect, because there have been times when I was not in a relationship but I have been friend with benefits and I prefer friends with benefits because we each get what we want without getting hurt. I guess the crux of this is that, tell your partner what you want and set clear boundaries and if they violate that by cheating then either end it or try and work it out but just to be clear with you, it they try and twist it and say something like "I wouldn't have cheated if you have given me what I wanted" then be strong and leave then because they will cheat again and be better at hiding it.
(Just based on the title.) - Nope. I don't, because if it's cheating on a real girl to look at internet porn, then it's my girlfriend, huh? And porn isn't worried about me looking at real girls. Porn paranoid about why I'm late coming home from work. Porn doesn't raise hell about me not paying attention to her for a few days.
But porn is ALWAYS there and ready when I am... Ya know what? I like looking. and if looking at the menu, even while I'm sitting at my plate is a deal breaker, FUCK real girls, and relationships. MGTOW
I've cheated once, it was quick, meaningless, not very good sex. I've had sex with other women during temporary breakups.
When I was in my 20s I was seriously tempted many times, but said no.
I think it's fun if you can be open about feeling attracted with your partner. If my girlfriend comments on a man it keeps me on my toes and not taking her for granted.
There's a difference between a one off and someone having an ongoing affair.
Not really. Maybe I'm one of the exceptions to this case, but if I'm dating someone, chances are, I probably worked my ass off to get them and that being said, I'll only be attracted to them and whatever they're doing, so that being said, I won't really be looking at anyone else, nor would I want to.
To begin with, I would absolutely never do it. If anything, I have never been tempted to do so.
I personally feel that if you ever find yourself in this situation many times versus once/twice than, you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person. No one deserves to get cheated on, it's truly evil.
No. Doesn't matter if we are on the good terms or bad terms. I had evena few girls come on to me when I was drunk with friends and even have had an argument with my girfriend at the time that evening, but I just never acted on anything and told them I was not interested. It is about the respect from my side I think.
OH yeah, I just can't help myself. I get down so many women's pants on my spare time I mean... yeah right whatever.
Like honestly I don't understand how some men like Tiger Woods had sex with 20-something different woman all while he was married.
Like even if I was that good at flirting and picking up women, I couldn't a-morally choose to be that way. It's ridiculous.
I have been tempted numerous times. In some ways, they are do gorgeous that I have to just look away. And I think about Randy Travis song (that I often sing karaoke): "On the other hand.
It’s not hard to avoid cheating. It is hard to avoid looking. But looking is just looking 99% of the time. If we’re in a committed relationship and someone who we checked out comes up to us and propositions us, it’s usually gonna be a solid no.
I have definitely done my share of cheating in the past, it was before I knew the type I really wanted. I dated chics with small tits and average faced and would always end up cheating with hotter with bigger tits. If you're not at least a 7 out of 10 in looks, you should be on the look-out for him to cheat. I'd have to see a pic of you compared to the chic he looks at in the park to know if he would or not.
I did at first but I think that is more of a habit that you get for being single for too long in between relationships. Trying to get over that habit when getting into a relationship is terrifying. It really tries to fool you into thinking you really don't love your partner even though it isn't the case.
It is something you can get over as long as you know deep down you would never trade your partner for the world. It still isn't easy but it's 100% possible.
No because (and I think it's true for most men) I can dissociate lust from love. I might like the way a woman looks, it might tickle my lust, but I know damn well I would never try anything with such a woman because basically looks is all she has based on that mere judgment of just looking at her.
Cheating? Honestly, I'm more focused on holding onto my SO.
I'm not even considering cheating. There aren't a lot of really good looking 55-year-old women to begin with, and I'm not the only single man in our community.
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