Guys.. Imagine this scenario, what would you think or do?

[Anonymous]

Imagina you have a girlfriend (longterm like 3 years) but recently you’ve actually been to another girl on the low and flirting with her, basically being unfaithful to your girlfriend. But your girlfriend has no idea at all. And first she texted and called you a lot throughout the weeks, but you start to notice that your girlfriend doesn’t text or call you anymore and you don’t hear much from her anymore suddenly. What would you think of that? And would you start to get worried what’s going on? Or would you not care and not contact her either and just switch your focus to that new girl you’ve been talking to?

[dynamicyandere]

If I still love my girlfriend, of course I would care and I would want to fix the relationship right away, get to the root of the issue and get things resolved.


If I have fallen out of love with my girlfriend, if my heart towards her has already gone cold, then I wouldn’t be as bothered. But, by that point I would have broken things off with her.


It’s not not good to pretend to be in love with someone when you’re not actually in love. It’s best to try to fix things and only if things can not be fixed (sometimes because of their lack of cooperation) do you end things.

[Asker]

Great answer 😀 And what about guys that know inside that they’re not being loyal to their girlfriend or are talking to another women, and the girlfriend maybe finds something out about it and there was a fight about it. But then after text something very sweet and heartfelt to make things up, do they actually want to keep their girlfriend because they love and care about her, or do they just want to keep the girlfriend around for their own benefit and don’t really love her?

[Asker]

And then after they made up, the guy doesn’t hear from her for like 3 days but isn’t worried whatsoever and doesn’t call or text her to check up? But still wants to be with her and doesn’t break up at all? What does that mean?

[dynamicyandere]

Thank you. 😊

3 days without contact sounds like his heart has already gone cold. There may be some lingering feelings but it doesn’t seem like he cares. It sounds like he’s no longer invested.

OR he’s just giving her space. It depends on how he is when they start talking again. Is he super loving or is he going to be even colder?

[Asker]

Well after those 3-4 days the girl just reaches out to him and texts him asking “how have you been my love” and he does text back not long after saying “i’m good my love hope you’re alright” and also that “he misses her so much and is busy with moving to a new house (cause he’s newly moved) and asks her when she can come see him”. Is that loving enough or still kind of cold and not caring much? Or what do you think of that reply?

[dynamicyandere]

I sounds like he misses her and he’s still quite attached. Otherwise, he wouldn’t reply as fast or be as mushy.

[Asker]

Yeah he replied like an hour after which for him is fast because he’s someone that does take some time to reply usually. So when he tells her he misses her a lot and is being sweet in the messages he does still love her for sure?

[Asker]

Even though the girl had to reach out first for him to say that?

[dynamicyandere]

Love is something that only time will tell.

But, yeah he has strong feelings for her still. He was probably giving her space and just waiting for her to reach out to him.