Why a man doesn't use social media and why not have friends?

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I met a man while I was registering for college. And he told me he didn't use social media. We're the same age Even WhatsApp He said he entered little Why a man hides himself like this He said he didn't even have a photo of himself on his phone. And he said he had no friends

Valso · Accepted Answer

What exactly is there to attract you to a social media? The millions of toxic people whose numbers increase by the minute? The even more toxic and double-standards community policy of Fascistbook? You can't have an opinion of your own that differs from everyone else's AND from that of Fascistbook. If you have an opinion of your own, you'll be persona non grata from almost all groups and if you're out of luck, Fascistbook will decide you're breaking the community standards about harassment and you'll get banned for 30 days. You'll keep seeing all kinds of nudity, racist and anti-human content that remains untouched for years (such as the calls from pastor Anderson to kill all gays) because it doesn't break the community standards but if you say anything that Suckerberg or the church don't like, you get an instant ban.

And Fascistbook isn't the only social media with double standards. Twitter is going that way too, which is one of the reasons I left that one too, a few days ago, so as of now the only places I can be found is here and on github. No Fascistbook account, no Instagram, no Twitter, no VK, no Crapchat, no whatsapp, no tiktok, no nothing!

To answer your question: I don't know about other guys but I'll tell you why I left Fascistbook. Because of this image - according to Suckerberg this image of my goddess of beauty (Melissa Benoist) is "nudity and sexual activity" and deserves a 3-day ban. Apparently Suckerberg had become a muslim dick who thinks than a woman showing her face is sinful and so I should be banned for uploading her sinful face...

Why a man doesn't use social media and why not have friends?

This is my reason. Who knows what reasons other guys may have but that doesn't mean there's something wrong with them. in my opinion those who choose to stay on social media despite all the absurds that Suckerberg and others like him can inflict upon their users - there's definitely something wrong with these users. In my circles these users are called "sheep".

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I know a few - usually they’re “old soul” types. 80 year olds in a 30 year old body.

They don’t care, or they think it’s a time waster (they’re not inherently wrong), the peer pressure isn’t an issue… or they’re real skittish about what info gets out there. Or they generally hate post 1990’s tech.

I technically have Twitter, but deleted it ofF my phone.

I have Facebook, but mostly trying to use it for my business - and a lot of info I give on the other end isn’t real. I occasionally post something about my pets, or some ”dad jokes.” I follow a few fan pages and use it to talk to friends. But I try to avoid spending too much time on it.

YouTube I use, but I need to make more videos myself. It’s tough to do, and it’s nearly impossible to get any help so I can make GOOD videos.

Instagram - mostly use it to follow web comic creators. It’s a good medium for that. I don’t post a lot because I don’t get a lot of work photos. Again, if I were to start using it, it’d be mostly work related. I maybe check it once every week for about 20 minutes.

TikTok I avoid like the plague. And there’s a lot that is incredibly toxic or stupid. There’s some good, but I’m also trying to keep the data mining to a limit.

Injusticenerd · Accepted Answer

Gender have nothing to do with this.. some men and women like to stay off of social media because it becomes an habit and if you have things to do in your life.. those things starts to drop once you have a habit of going on social media a lot.. friends can be the same way even tho they still there to talk to and hangout with when you feel lonely at times.. but friendships with anybody takes a lot of energy most friendships starts to cause distractions and in those distractions they can be disrespectful to you and create drama to the point you just want to be left alone I know this because I feel the same as this guy that’s why I said not wanting to have friends and not using social media. a. lot doesn’t have a face of gender, race, and or age..

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Because believe it or not, not everyone likes or uses social media.

... no really, it's true.

I don't post ANY pictures of myself online, and outside of fb, I don't have any other social media. Why? Don't like them, don't have time to waste online, or let social media rule my life.

If people want to get to know me, talk to me in person or chat. That guy might be the same. Or he doesn't want his life online for privacy reasons: which, again, is smart to me.

In other words, don't judge people based on the social media status, or lack of.

PeteBy · Answer

I guess he has his reasons. He may be protecting himself after being hurt. Hard to believe maybe but some people even in their early 20's I know don't use social media but are social butterflies. I used to have facebook but when people literally tell you every detail about their life online it got so tedious.
Social media can be fun but can also be toxic. Seen many a 'friend' show their true colours online. I have whatsapp but rarely use it either. Sounds like he is careful who he allows into his life.

Pinay_ako · Answer

A lot of men are like that. There’s more to life than social media. And maybe they’re too busy to take selfies, post their daily lives online or have friends. As we get older, friends become scarce coz of life. There’s nothing wrong with that. Unless he’s a Dahmer. Hope not! Do you like him?

NoNameGuy123 · Answer

I don't have any social media either. Nor do I have a photo of myself more recent than 5 years ago. I do have friends though.

I don't see any way social media would have a positive impact on my life. Why would I care to show the public pictures that I didn't like to take, just to get likes from people that I don't like? I just simply don't care about that stuff.

BlueScorpio · Answer

A lot people don't care to have social media accounts. I have fb, but don't go there often. I don't have tiktok or what's app, I did have that cute little face app thing with all the fun filters but not anymore. Also the point of social media was to be social with others, since he doesn't have friends, he probably doesn't see the point in having any accounts.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because not everyone is comfortable using them. Take for example instagram or snapchat, if you don´t like being on photos why so ever what´s the point of using it?
I never saw a reason to use twitter hence it´s just a place to comment everything happening.
Maybe he´s insecure and doesn´t like to show off so he automatically has few friends because they won´t be interested in him because he could be seen as boring to others.

rtj1211 · Answer

Quite frankly you need to be a masochist to have a Twitter account these days. Same with Facebook. OK, if you want to share photos have Instagram - that can be fairly harmless. And WhatsApp for messaging friends.

But social media is completely over-rated and utterly misunderstood for the severe mental health problems it can induce.

It's the digital equivalent to Class A drugs, in the worst situations...

Sandeeppingping · Answer

I'm your age by the way not 29, I'm like that too, not that I don't have friends I hangout with around 15 different people a week but I don't consider either of them my friend, I'm also really talkative but have no social media, hate people knowing what I'm doing with my life it's no one's business and I also hate having my picture taken although I genuinely look really good... I don't know what it is I wouldn't say it's hiding though I'm extremely vocal about it

globetrotter22 · Answer

Social media overall does much more harm than good. Also you are probably used to posting pics and getting tons of likes and virtual attention and that feels really good to you.

Guys don’t need virtual attention to “survive”. We like it but the vast majority of us aren’t used to getting too much of it anyway let alone needing it.

Anyway he might be a really interesting guy and more of a nonconforming deep thinker. You should get to know him better.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Seems like he doesn't like mediocrity... Social media is virtual reality.. Some people get too indulged or obsessed with it.. some people find it wack... If he doesn't have friends too probably because most people are toxic so he enjoys his peace of mind

Snsl153 · Answer

Anyone who resists the demonic, narcissistic, immoral temptations of "social media" in this age of self-indulgence, lack of shame and loose morals is a saint in my opinion. Apart from GAG I don't use social media at all.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

You’re still young. That sounds like a good thing though. Already you can see this man has Discipline. He’s not easily distracted. That’s a rare quality to have, especially at his age.
Once you get my age, you will only have 1-2 real best friends that you know will never let you down. You will most likely have a family too. Be smart. You don’t want to be my age and still single.

Guardian45 · Answer

I think social media is a trap. I DON'T have accounts with Fb, Tw, Sc, Ig or Pi. I only use WA with two G@G friends. I use Telegram or Signal and a privacy browser. There should be no recent pix of me on the internet. I'm thinking of dumping Gmail.

Anonymous · Answer

I have dead social media accounts that I created because my friends wanted me to have one.

I had/have a lot of friends but I just never speak or contact them I'm very closed off reserved. unless I'm actually talking to the person one on one. In groups I'm very quiet aswell I talk a lot more one on one.

Please stop thinking because somebody has no friends they might be a murderer although it could be a sign there's something wrong if everyone hates them.

Ilovethesunshine · Answer

Girl you can do better!  You know what you need? A real men!!! I say go date 30 year old men!!! I quit dating men my own age cuz their immature and useless.  Men in their 40's are better!!!

humanearth · Answer

What's wrong with that. I never had MySpace, Facebook or any of that other junk. Plus I will never own a cellphone phone

In the early days of the internet. My social media was chatrooms. I found them fun

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I have an Instagram with like 1 picture of myself on it. The only two apps I’m on a regular basis is this one and YouTube. Not having friends is an unfortunate reality of a large percentage of young men. He doesn’t sound that unusual to me.

Oigit · Answer

Social media is highly toxic, can create addiction issues and even actual mental and emotional health issues as well. There are many studies proving this. So he is smart as hell to not use it.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Yikes, stay away. No friends is a major red flag. No social media is a good thing, in my opinion, but no friends? Incel vibes.

Adam1978 · Answer

It's the smart way, that how you know if you got true friends. If people can't be bothered to contact you irl then they aren't friends.

Rose_84 · Answer

Are you kidding me? I'll marry that kinda guy.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

Social media is toxic, some people don’t want to use any of it, some use part of them only for work or school purposes.

SlothySlob · Answer

I don't have photos of myself on my phone either, this site is the closes thing to social media I use, I have one good friend.

bolverk · Answer

Social media is not a 'must have', maybe he likes his privacy, the same for having no friends or maybe all his friends are in his home town/district and he has none locally yet..

Ryan1979 · Answer

Men a lot of times do not need friends. Most of the time women require too much time for him to have friends

spartan55 · Answer

Sounds like a guy you have nothing in common with so... don't know what your plan is here.

Staximus · Answer

Good for him. Social media is a massive marketing tool and psychological manipulation tool. There is something wrong with a person that has no friends, though.

Anonymous · Answer

It must be hard for you to imagine a world with out these toys but only a few years ago, they did not exist. He's obviously old school. And healthier.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

there's nothing practical about social media. All you do is post things to get approval of those whose opinions ultimately don't matter to you.

Anonymous · Answer

Sees no utility to it. I didn't have a smartphone till a year ago. I saw no need for it. Hell I only got a cell phone because people were b****ing that they couldn't contact me anytime they wanted.

es20490446e · Answer

I don't use social media as a way to encourage me to go for more fulfilling relationships in real life.

Guanfei · Answer

Because se don't feel the need to brag about everything we do. My Instagram is basically only nature, animals and random stuff, nothing about me, not even my face.  My Facebook is empty.

Anonymous · Answer

He’s either very introverted or he’s autistic. Some of those types are highly concerned with privacy, overly paranoid.

Mangospacho · Answer

He’s married. That’s the only way to explain not having any social media or friends.

Fryday_Knight · Answer

I have discord for friends, and whatsapp for Other friends. But I don't use the others. I don't have time to look at posts all day.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Instead of asking us who don’t know the guy I’d probably ask him.

Iron_Man · Answer

Maybe he’s real busy everybody else before never used social media

abhi44444 · Answer

Who say man don't use social media if can get good pie he will try if not hee only ssee some pic at return to his work

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Thats a lie, You learn from catfish at least everyone has something. Unless their amish.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I don’t because my mum won’t let me due to my quirkinesses.

melanieeeB · Answer

Cause social media isn't important

FilmGuy93 · Answer

He might just be a misfit.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Not everyone NEEDS to have a social media.

Celtrabbit · Answer

Probably cause he's smart

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Maybe he's just focused on his studies.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I mean you met him irl right?

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

He must be a serial killer

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