I think I know what’s going on, but I’m not sure?

[Laney0999]

I feel like I know what’s going on, but I’m curious about other peoples thoughts. So I started dating this guy and it was going well, he claimed to love me and everything after a while. He had just been majorly stressed and we fought quite a bit. Well one day he said he wanted us, but then proceeded to tell me he wanted a break. So for my benefit Since I didn’t want to let him go, I asked to be fwbs. We basically are in a relationship without actually being in one. It’s exclusive and if the person wants to sleep with other people or date, we just tell the person and go back to being friends. I’m at the point where I’m actually in it now, just for the benefit and no longer the feelings. But he’s starting to confuse me. The other night we were drinking and he tries to take my phone. He attempts to text the one guy I was talking to. He also tried to take a picture of us on my snap to send to god knows who. I made a terrible joke about sleeping with someone else after him and he demanded to know who it was. Kept asking multiple times even though I swore it was just a terrible joke I shouldn’t of made. If I’m on my phone to long he tries to snatch it from me. He plays it off in a goofy manner but I know it’s because he doesn’t like being ignored. But when asked one day if he wanted to eventually try again he said, “I don’t know honestly. Possibly.”

[DaveJord]

First of all there is no such thing as exclusive friends with benefits... you never stopped dating you just redefined the terms of the relationship.

Yes the man is emotionally immature and I would say he is incapable of a friends with benefits type of relationship. Actually it takes a higher level of emotional maturity to really maintain a friends with benefits type of relationship, because it is really hard to not let emotions get involved when it comes to having sex. And once it does you should tell the other person you are catching feelings and if they are not then you need to end the agreement.

Every friends with benefits situation has an expiration date, for some it takes days, weeks, months or years. But to be friends with benefits means you literally have to be okay with the other person dating and having sex with other people, without getting jealous or trying to interferer in the other persons relationships. So once the other person finds someone else and want to be monogamous the friends with benefits is over. Or they catch feelings and the other person has not, its over. Or once they find a better friends with benefits its over if they do not want to keep multiple friends with benefits things going... its over.

So this exclusive friends with benefits thing is not a real thing, you two just didn't break up when you probably should of. So this guy thinks your breaking the terms of the deal and he is acting like a spoiled little brat about it. And you should of just ended the relationship as soon as you start dating or wanting to be with other guys, because that was the deal.

As a women if all you want is sex with a guy in a real friends with benefits situation they you will always have the advantage over men. Because its 10 times easier for you to find a guy to agree to these types of things then it for a guy to find a women to. So honestly you don't need this guy, you could easily replace him with someone else and probably be better off, if all you wanted is sex out of it.

That's why its easier for women to land better looking men with these friends with benefits type things, because really good looking and very sexual pleasing types will totally get into a friends with benefits situation with a women they would never seriously want to date.

[Waldoe]

he is a "chickenshit" lol he wants you, but doesn't want to "commit" he probably won't change, 3 children later he will run off with a co-worker...

[Tekashi_Rosas]

Yup he is definitely jealous of you talking to other guys. He is either jealous or still has feelings for you. It can also be that he will lose his benefits, which the other guy will now have?

[In_Trance]

What are you actually asking here?