Why would a married man flirt with another girl?

[Anonymous]

Why a man 38 years old tends to flirt with another girl who is 27 years old, even if he is married. He has a beautiful wife, is it mean they are not compatible or there is just nothing right in their marriage. So he attracts to other girls. Or he finds the qualities he wants in another girl, which are not there in his wife?

[JFelix]

I think men constantly need to be kept on their toes and interested or else they get bored, I know this is bad but is the truth. Men need a constant spice or just something to keep them invested and it has nothing to do if he loves his wife or not, just that he gets bored which is why I think a spontaneous person is really important. Men naturaly want to have multiple partnerd and if there where no negative connotations and consequences to men having multiple sexual partners most men would have as many as possible.

[Asker]

he's my doctor, is it like, he feels attracted to me so he flirts whenever he gets a chance?

But if you love your wife like anything you wouldn’t divert your attention to any other woman, isn’t it?

[JFelix]

I never like to assume things and you never know what is going on behind the scenes but yeah as savage it may be he might just be getting bored and the relationship is just dry, he still may love her and appreciate everything she's done for him but just isn't currently sexually attracted to her as there rid no excitement and he is bored of her. Another thing I'd he may just be feeling insecure and wants some validation that he is wanted by other people so by flirting with you he may get positive feedback which will make him feel better about himself, which means he may not like you in anyway but just likes to feel wanted. If I was gonna give advice to you I would just say try to ignore him but it's just advice

[Asker]

True. That was helpful. Thanks

[whoisvolkan]

everybody wants "what they can't have" I think this is reason

[Asker]

So is it like, he finds the things in me that his wife doesn’t have?

[whoisvolkan]

almost true. impossible, every time is good 😂

[Finchie40]

Cuz he isn’t happy in his marriage , There is something missing in his marriage that he isn’t receiving , because if he actually loved his wife he wouldn’t be flirting with you , She might treat him like shit , withhold intimacy and affection from him , doesn’t really make him feel wanted , Now what he is doing is wrong , and a selfish decision on his part , consider if he isn’t happy in his marriage he should focus on fixing it with his wife but to really know what is going on in his marriage is hard to say , sadly wives do this to their husbands as well , I have slept with married women that I didn’t know were married until after the fact , when I confronted them they would tell me their husbands don’t make them feel loved and treat them like shit , most people stay married to someone they fell out of love with mainly for what was invested, so it’s cheaper to stay with them and scared to admit to them that they fallen out of love , why so many people today don’t want to get married because people change and get bored with each other , it’s a sad world we live in.

[Asker]

That’s true. I have seen him with his wife as well. Didn’t feel anything.

So is it like, he attracts to me and so he flirts?

[Finchie40]

Yea it sounds like he is definitely attracted to you , but to say for sure what is on his mind who knows , that’s something only you can figure out on your own , if you really want to know for sure , why don’t you jokingly tease him and ask him why he flirts with you? Or tell him you sense him flirting but why are your flirting if you are married? If he really likes you the truth will come out.

[Asker]

True. That was helpful. Thanks

Just for the reference, there was an incident where we were having some conversation over cellphones, he said in flow that- I cannot change my wife at least let me change my cellphone. This is not something that doctors say to their patients.

[Finchie40]

Yea , he is definitely letting you know that he wouldn’t hesitate to have sex with you , he is basically hinting to you that he doesn’t value his wife by making statements like that , so it comes down to your decision on what you want to do , My question to you is do you like this doctor? Are you attracted to him? What makes you attracted to him? Is it cuz he is a doctor? I know most girls are attracted to a guys status , so take this doctor and put him in a janitor outfit are you still going to be attracted to him? Also think of what might occur if you end up sleeping with him, if you are looking for long term commitment with him sadly you probably won’t receive that , cuz if he can do this to his wife who’s to say he won’t do this to you eventually? Do you expect him to leave his wife for you or do you just want the sex? , There is so much to juggle when it comes to situations like this , something you should ask yourself if it is worth it? Only you can make your final decision, I can’t tell you what to do , it’s your life and your choice , I’d be lying if I never faced anything like this before but only you can make that decision

[Asker]

I do not want to do anything like that. I just want to understand his behaviour so that I can act accordingly. Your answers clarified a lot!

[Finchie40]

LOL well I am glad I could Help you😋 No matter what we do in life their will always be someone thinking opposite of what we choose to do , it always comes down to your own decision, so I try not to judge anyone I just give advice based off of my own personal experiences, If someone wants to cheat on their partner or spouse with me , they are
Going to do it if, it’s not my job to play investigator , I can only treat someone the same way I want to be treated , if someone is lying to me then that’s something they have to deal with , not my problem , I have hooked up with girls at bars that I had a great connection with , brought them back to my place and had sex , they told me they were single to come to find out they weren’t , my choice was to end that relationship , it sucks but we live and learn , whether they stayed with their husbands or not , that’s not my problem all I know is I am not going to stay with someone that lies to me

[Asker]

True!!! That’s very thoughtful. 😇

[Vanidal]

Because there's no fixed line between serious and casual interactions. It's good for other people to test the water, what kind person you are and what they can do with you. Just know your comfort boundary as the receiver. So you could know when to keep the invaders away when they step inside your personal space.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Because the wife didn't realize that he wasn't husband material

[Asker]

It can be a vice versa. Maybe she is not treating him well. Because he seems to be a nice guy. I met his wife also, didn’t get a good vibe

[AddylynnNightingale]

A nice guy isn't a guy who cheats.

[Asker]

Should we consider flirting as cheating?

[AddylynnNightingale]

Yes. You only do that when looking for a love interest.

[Asker]

True. Also feeling attracted to another woman is a part of cheating.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Good luck with that.

[Asker]

Yes. Thanks for the straight answers 😊

[Pinay_ako]

Coz he’s starving sexually and to feed his dry ego to prove he still got it by flirting with younger women.

[Rania05]

I'm not one to talk, my dad cheated on my mom when I was just a few days old, I was so disappointed on him for this when I knew but hide it since mom herself had gotten over it.

[Asker]

Sad to hear that :(

[Rania05]

Thanks for caring, knowing it was not easy, I was always a daddy's girl so it made it more dry to shallow.
I once thought I would never understand how the most loving people are capable of the most malicious things but after hearing the story from mom I learnt each person receive different attitude's bias from the same individual.

[Asker]

I feel you. My mother had an affair with another man for more than 5 years, when I was small. Even he did some bad things with me. Fortunately I came out of it. I told my mom she didn’t listen, the worst. I used to feel bad for my dad. It still haunts me like anything after all this time. Because I cannot forget that trauma. That incident wasted 5 precious years of my life.

[Rania05]

I'm so sorry to hear this.
Most parents has this power over us, they don't realize they has this power to screw us more than anyone by a slight action or thought.
I'm actually not harmed though my childhood, except that my mom used to be going in self-pity moments and my dad has those self-abandonment episodes, they were over all good parents for me. My sister must have suffered more since she was already 4 and half years old when the adultery was discovered, she must have remembered, unlike me, but I can't bear to ask her because she was silent my mom told me, it's odd because she's the joker of the family.

I wish you all luck 🤞

[Asker]

I fee sometimes they don’t even care, what ee hi through. It really great you were not harmed or it didn’t affect you so much. Though I feel bad for your sister it must have affected her.

[Rania05]

I only lost some of my trust in men and it's settled.
Yeah, and my parents didn't talk for 6 months after the affair was revealed it must have been a torture to live in that environment for so long, she sure must have remembering how bad it was.

[Asker]

That must be hard. I really hope everything is going fine now. For me I lost trust in marriage thing. I don’t think there is anything like marriage or love. Eventually everyone gets bored. I have seen my parents example, then this doctors example.

[wittymilf]

Hmm just because you are married does mean you no longer enjoy interacting with others on an exiting level. It just means you have respectful boundaries

[ThinkFitness23]

True but respect is lost when you start flirting with others

[wittymilf]

@ThinkFitness23 depends on the insecurities of people really. I love watching my husband enjoy the attention of other females. It reminds me of what drew me to him in the first place, just seeing his game :)

[ThinkFitness23]

I like it that my partner responds in a different way and generally spots woman looking or trying to get my attention before me.

I’m no model but as my partner who say, your often the best looking man in the room..

No one wants a partner that no one else fancies..

And not that we are overly insecure but we could both be made to feel this way if we were to openly invite the attention.

I prefer the attention we get together as a couple, she a very attractive woman

[wittymilf]

@ThinkFitness23 that’s perfect!! My husband gives the best attention too :)

[Anonymous]

Because unlike women who get attention from the opposite sex all the time… men need to flirt so they can feel the validation that women get easily and naturally.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because he's f'in' up!
Tell him he's f'in' up! Tell him to cut it out.

[Anonymous]

Married women should be aware that their husbands flirt all the time.

[BLP11520]

Some times I do and don't realize I am doing it

[Asker]

Because you find another girl attractive?

[BLP11520]

Yes, and I am talkative

[FilmGuy93]

Boredom.

[TheFlak38]

Because married men are miserable.

[RasmusAiken]

BC he's a douche bag.

[AsaKyo]

Cause' that man is a fucking hoe lmao

[Kelly6]

Because wife couldn’t fullfil her job

[Anonymous]

He wants variety in sex and pussy.

[Anonymous]

He's a cheater? Or he just likes to flirt?

[Asker]

Do not know about if he is a cheater. He’s my doctor, and he flirts with me a lot. Yes, he likes to flirt with me

[Opinion Owner]

Doctors shouldn't flirt with their patients.

[Asker]

Agree. But it did happen

[LavLavLuv]

he's crazy

[SayCheez03]

cause he is an idiot