Why do guys ignore in you public but gives you attention in private?

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SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Guys, particularly young guys, have a weird fear/trepidation about talking to girls. Some of it is fear of rejection, some of it is just a general cluelessness, and still more of it is an awkward thing. For others it is peer pressure... they don't want to act or been seen to like girls. Frankly it's stupid but some of it is also just part of boys when they're younger. Some advice (not all the advice or necessarily the best advice) would be to just let them grow out of it or to take the initiative and talk to them -- you might be surprised at the results. If these are your peers, remember that boys mature slower than girls and they're behind you in emotional development at this age. Above all, though, don't let it get you down or think that it's something about you.

KennyG72 · Accepted Answer

2 reasons

1 fear of public rejection

2 when there is only one person there is only one option

the first isn't a big deal, the second is an opportunist, and of course it can be both at once.

I've known guys from all 3 categories and only the first has genuinely good intentions.

of course that presumes that there is no existing relationship involved. if you are seeing each other then possibly:

he's not willing to be exclusive yet

he doesn't want others to know

his friends will harass him

he has trouble balancing your relationship with his public persona

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Well, that's because both- publicly and privately, you're a stolen art piece, from a museum. Maybe that would clear up some things. Remind him who you are and your good character lol

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Maybe he’s shy and doesn’t want everyone to know he likes you. Or maybe he has a girlfriend. Could be either really.

virginloserguy · Answer

Everyone is scared of being rejected and it feels bad to have people laughing at you when you get rejected in public.

Bethany22 · Answer

It means he doesn't want to make it exclusive with you quite yet

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Because most people, young or old, like privacy.

Anonymous · Answer

i do that. sometimes it's easier to talk to a girl alone, than when people are around. too many people judging everything you say, can feel scary. lol.

Passing_by · Answer

He doesn't want to be seen by others giving you attention. Won't say it's a good thing.

michael00007 · Answer

Like they can't show love in public but then are very comfortable in private so yea..

ShyNaughtyGuy · Answer

maybe shy and maybe don't want others to know about it

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why girls ignore "in you public" but gives you attention in private.

BLP11520 · Answer

Is he ashamed of you? Or is he awkward approaching women.

Anonymous · Answer

They don't. You expect too much of them in public.

Anonymous · Answer

Some guys are just more secretive than other dudes.

Anonymous · Answer

They are socially awkward.

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