Do I just cut my losses with this guy?

[Anonymous]

I (25f) met this really cute guy (30m) and I feel like we really hit it off. We spent a week and a half texting and calling on the phone and eventually I asked him if he’d like to join me at a farmers market. We met up, grabbed some food and had a really good time. He even made the first move. Well it’s been over 2 weeks since then and he stopped calling and he’s only been texting me once a day or once every other day. He keeps expressing that he wants to see me again and I keep telling him “let me know when you’re ready to ask me out on a date” and I gave him my schedule in hopes of him working with a day we’re both free, he’s even given me his schedule and there are times that would be perfect for us. I keep dropping hints like dinner, a movie or since it’s fall, a couple of fun autumnal activities. Like I said it’s been over 2 weeks and nothing about a second date but he keeps saying “I want to see you again” like okay ask me to dinner or something stop just saying it! I’m starting to get a little frustrated. Do I just cut my losses and leave? Do I confront him? Or at least say something like “it’s not working out”? I hate ghosting so I wouldn’t want to do that. I’m at a loss right now.
girls what would you do?
guy have you done this to someone and what does it mean?

[bigmatt98]

This is pretty common I think you should just be straight up with him and ask why haven’t you asked me out. Are you busy just be honest with him and your self the worst that can happen is he says he is not interested in you or maybe something is going on his life. If he had been texting you like that the all the time and you made the first move of trying to hang out outside of just chatting maybe he was waiting for you to make the next move again. Now little tip guys don’t get hints or subtle remakes and those that do is because they overthink every little word a woman says.

[Pot8o]

What's in it for him? So far he has gone with you to a boring farmer's market, read your boring texts, and you have done nothing for him. Now you're resentful because he didn't ask you out again. What's in it for him? All the things you listed are things women want: daily texts, calls, lame ass dates. None of them are stuff guys want. Why would he want to move forward with you?

[Asker]

Lol thanks for the advice. So helpful <3

[Pot8o]

I apologize for my rude, unprovoked comment. Thank you for your classy response.

[_Just_A_girl_]

Put it on pause , don't be clingy or be the persuer

[Anonymous]

Honestly? It sounds like he is playing the field and that you are just another option. He’ll hang out with you—assuming he has nothing better to do.

I've experienced this with flaky women. I’d suggest moving on. In my experience I simply tell the person that they haven’t been respectful of me or my time and that I don’t think it’s going to work out. I then wish them good luck and hope they find a great person and bid them goodbye.

Believe it or not it’s very satisfying doing this to someone who is flaky and keeps saying they want to get together but darn it they just never can for one reason or another. 🙄

No, you’re just not that interested in me. And that’s fine. It’s no big deal. Really. But don’t jerk me around and lead me on. Don’t say you want to meet up but we never do. It’s insulting.

[mickmrly]

Just cut your losses and move on. If he really wanted to see you he would say lets meet up on Wednesday etc. at whatever time and then just do it. Perhaps he is bitter at an ex or just women in general, but he just seems to want to waste your time.

[Anonymous]

first off both guys and girls do this , its pretty common to initially meet someone and feel things are going good then all of a sudden the other person disappears entirely. i'm not entirely sure whats going on with you situation though. if you feel its best to cut your loses then maybe thats your best options as a second date does look less likely

[Asker]

Yes I know both do this. I was just specifically wondering from a guys viewpoint why they would do this. From the way things are going and after thinking, I’m not sure I would accept a 2nd date.

[Opinion Owner]

i'd wonder about a second date too , i'm surprised he's still texting at this point , although i've heard from girls often guys there not officially seeing still text them. myself i don't really text girls a lot and not sure what the point in texting in such a situation be if there is no interest in trying to see the other one in person , either way a second date does seem less and less likely

[AimeeKyle]

He most likely has a girlfriend or wife. Time to move on.

[Stevefiveo]

Well, if he isn't making an effort for a second date, then move on.

[muffinbuttstfr]

I'd ask him you might be bring kept on the line or he might be really busy maybe either way you will know

[boggboss]

Just bring up the subject

[Alltheflowers84]

Definitely move on!

[LazerBean]

Yes.

[In_Trance]

yeah