Guys: Why would a guy look at a woman but then stare at the ground when caught?

[Anonymous]

I see a guy everyday at the gym and we smile, wave to each other and we go off to mind our own work out sessions. I’ve lost count of the amount of times I’ve caught him looking at me and when I have, I always smile to him but he has trouble making eye contact, stares at the ground, fiddled with his hair or moves/fixes his cap and his face is super serious. I don’t want to misinterpret his behavior but my assumption is that he might have a girlfriend or he is nervous. The truth is I don’t know how to act after his reaction because I don’t know why he looks at me, he stares at the ground and fiddles his hair?

[JSmuve]

Why would you assume he has a girlfriend? Have you ever spoken to him before? Seems to me is he's nervous and doesn't want to stare too long because that might make you uncomfortable and then he gets flustered, looks down, and fidgets with his hair; all signs of nervous/anxious energy. He likely wants to approach you but doesn't know when a good time would be or what to say (if you haven't spoken). Lots of guys are bludgeoned with the whole "don't approach women at the gym" messaging, so his behavior is not all that surprising.

[Death_To_Stress]

My opinion: He's insecure and lacks confidence. Period.

Why he won't resume eye contact and approach you is either because he expects and fears rejection or because he's afraid you'd say 'yes' and he won't measure up.

Either way, he doesn't feel adequate for whatever reason, true or not. Dating him will be a constant stream of emotional attachment full of approval and validation seeking behaviors you're not interested in dealing with. Trust me. Good luck!

[Summeroflove]

Depends. If you seem to like each other. Then it’s I guess he figures not a problem. Otherwise it can be creepy.


I don’t want to be rude. I can only speak form personal experience. I’m no psychic, people can speak from their own perspective. Which I assume you want.


But. I can’t tell you. Why another guy is doing something. Even for myself. Why I would do something. Is totally dependent on the situation.

[KrakenAttackin]

He doesn't want you to report him for being "creepy" or "ick", and getting him thrown out if the gym.

[Asker]

Not that kind of gal. I’m sorry you have the impression all women think and are that way.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker. Enough women are 'that way", even a Karen who just sees you two interacting might get offended and report him.

[Agagagagaga]

There are many women who are “that way.” Men are kind of shamed for finding someone attractive. If we get caught checking you out people think we’re leering and undressing you in our minds. Sometimes we really are just thinking, “Wow. What a beautiful woman!” and then you look away because you could be making them uncomfortable or perceived to be some creepy perv.

[Anonymous]

He likes you, but is either too shy to approach or he might not find the gym the ideal place to connect and communicate with women. People are mainly their to workout so I'm not interested in trying to get an Attractive Woman's number there. The only exception is if it's completely obvious she wants me to approach. Otherwise, I'm just their to workout. That's the way I see it.

[Guy13]

Because he thinks she is hot and he is embarrassed. He likes you but he should have approached you...

[Mangospacho]

Yeah, he should own up to staring at you instead of falsifying being so interested in looking at the ground. In this case, I’m not sure what’s weirder, looking at you or staring a hole into the ground.

[RonStone45]

What do you want him to do, keep staring at you after he's caught? lol

[Batsy01010101]

i did that two nights ago stared at the ground cause she hurt me really bad

[Anonymous]

He's starring at you because you're starring at him. Maybe you're making him feel uncomfortable

[Levin]

Guy is shy or wanking to too much porn.

[mlvrjohnconnor]

Go talk to him

[EaterPeter]

of course, depends, any where but her