Should I express myself to him?

[Anonymous]

So I had this colleague at my last workplace who I was attracted to. We both were in a difficult team, but somehow unknowingly we used come together for work. We would talk only formally, nothing any casual. I started liking him, but I never expressed it. Then I added him on Instagram. Then after few months we came together for a project and we would talk a lot about work. He was being so sweet. There was another girl in the team but his behaviour was different towards me than me. For me his behaviour was sweet. Then I tried to give some hints like replying to his stories on instagram once or twice but I noticed that he was not opening much and tried to keep minimal conversation. Then I stopped doing anything in about him. Then he left the organisation. I just gave him best wishes on the last day. Then I also left the organization we didn’t have any conversation for 3 months then it was his birthday, he posted something related to it so I wished him on Instagram, again any conversation didn’t happen. I completely gave up on him and focused on my things.

Now we had a big festival 4-5 days ago and out of nowhere he wished me on Instagram literally after 6 months he messaged me. I also wished him. Then he started the conversation ahead. And now the way he is talking is completely different from the way he would talk earlier. Being too open. Trying to keep the conversation going. Using a lot of emojis in the messages:p
Should I express myself?

[Vikkrram]

So I think ma'am You Indian i guess coz big Festival 5-6 days means Diwali i guess?

Ok so coming to ur point see we as an guys don't get hints that girls give us. Coz you know it's always an fear of getting rejected. And tbh there's nothing hint that you gave him so that he can say that u have feelings for him.

And the worst is that you and him didn't talked for 6 months so if he might likes you then he must be thinking that oh! I was wrong she didn't liked me.

[Asker]

Yes you’re right. It was Diwali😊

I agree I cannot say that I gave him so much hints that he could understand completely that I liked him. But I tried to initiate the conversation for 2-3 times. But he didn’t keep it going. Of course I was interested in him so I wanted to have a healthy conversation with him. It was the biggest hint I gave to him. I felt like he is suppressing his feelings for some reason. So I gave up on him. And now I feel he knew that I had feeling and now maybe he wants take an initiative?

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am dating a co workers , Neighbours can be too risky specially here In our country you know.
See If you still think that he have feelings for you, be strong enough and ask him directly.

[Asker]

We both already left the organisation.

[Vikkrram]

So what u were once... and i would say that ask him directly u both are friends on insta... then go ahead the worst he would say no. Then also u ain't loose anything.

[Asker]

I am really scared so I wanted to be confident about his feelings before saying anything to him😂

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am Best of luck please do it i would say

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am did you messeged him?

[Asker]

No 😂
We were having conversation for 5 days but for his last message I replied okay great and ended the conversation
The noone has texted each other 😂

[Vikkrram]

Wow great... 😅

[Vikkrram]

I just want to say one thing in hindi here ma'am i hope you understand Hindi

की ईश्क में पहला कदम बड़ा मायने रखता है और अगर देर हो जाए ना तो उसका मलाल जिंदगी भर रह जाता है । तो देर मत करिए कह दीजिए ।

[Asker]

Agree. But yesterday it was my birthday he saw my instagram stories still didn’t wish me.
Maybe due to my last response he thought i have no interest in him or what don’t know

[Vikkrram]

Yes that's why he didn't respond.. See as an guy it's hard for us to tell that wether someone is hinting us genuinely or we are understanding too much.

[Asker]

Last message was I asked him about his home town he told i said okay
I think he might think he has initiated the conversation so I should keep it going

[Vikkrram]

See remember my words what am saying after sometime it would become more like a mind game later on and definitely you both would get confused...

[Asker]

So you mean I should directly confess it to him? If yes , it wouldn’t look so wrong?

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am can you please Dm me here we can't chat... if you don't mind or else we would chat here only

[TheBallGuy]

Maybe you should do it but slowly as and when he does it because you really dont know why he is being so open. Better to open up slowly as and when he does. Maybe when he goes into detail you go half into it. I think that will be good. Also, you dont know how he has changed over the few months.

[Asker]

Okay
Should I keep the conversation going casually to show him that I am interested? Also he is being so open because he might realize that it’s time to take an action instead of suppressing the feelings?

[TheBallGuy]

Yes he will keep it going you also do the same dont let it die. Ig he won't do that too but still. Follow me maybe?

[Asker]

I ended the conversation 😂 I always do this😂

[Asker]

Followed

[EmmaMary]

What exactly did he wish you?

[Asker]

We had a festival named Diwali. So he wished me Happy Diwali. Then I also wished him the same

[EmmaMary]

He certainly seems like a guy who blows both Hot and Cold, therefore it will always be difficult in knowing just what to do, or the best approach.

I guess you could take a chance in letting him know some of your feelings towards him, and at the same time keep your fingers crossed... However, I wouldn't go building your hopes up too high at the present time.

Wishing you Good Luck. x

[Asker]

Thanks much! Will follow this 😊

[EmmaMary]

You will please keep us posted with developments, won't you... Thank you. 🤞x

[Asker]

You were right. He is extremely hot and cold. we literally talked for 4 days and yesterday it was my birthday and you won’t believe he saw all my stories of my birthday on instagram and didn’t even wish.

The thing is when we were speaking 4-5 days ago I asked him about his home town (I knew it but I wanted conversation to keep going so I asked) he told me and I said Okay. After that he didn’t reply on that.
So maybe it didn’t get represented well he might thought I am showing attitude or have no interest. Or he might be thinking that if he had initiated the conversation I should keep it going.

Should I confess everything upfrontly?

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[spartan55]

Wished him what?

[Asker]

We had Diwali festival he wished me happy Diwali I also wished him the same

[spartan55]

Great. Talk to him face to face otherwise nothing will happen

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[In_Trance]

don't bother