Why do men develop serious crushes on total strangers they know nothing about?

[Anonymous]

A neighbor of mine I've never spoken to always watches me when I leave the house, tries to make me notice him by "accidentally" running into me and talks about me with his friends. He has been doing this for 2 years now and I have never smiled at him or given him any attention. He is not unattractive at all and he seems like a likeable person so why is he acting so "desperate" instead of dating someone else or approaching me?

[mlvrjohnconnor]

Do you like him?

Attraction works in a very mysterious way, maybe your appearance triggered his feeling, or maybe your actions reminded him of someone. We all have our “type”, and he might developed feelings for you if you are his type.

However, don’t assume he likes you just because he watches you or run into you. You guys are neighbors, it is very normal for me to run into my neighbors, and sometimes they walk by my window when I was enjoying the sunlight, I wouldn’t walk away and avoid them. It doesn’t necessarily mean I like all of them in a romantic way. A guy would at least try to make a move if he really likes you. Has he ever asked you out?

I think he is either not super interested and just teasing you, or he really likes you and you sent him the wrong vibe which he interpreted as a rejection.

[Asker]

I can tell that he is watching me, I am not making this up

[mlvrjohnconnor]

So do you like him?

[Asker]

I don’t Know him and dont feel attravted to him. However, He seems like a nice Person

[Anonymous]

Most answerers feel you would like this person to make some further move, and commence something with you.
This appears quite clear. Maybe you would like that so you can turn him down, maybe you would like that to actually know him; but you would like that.

Nobody has asked you how, while you have never spoken a word to him, you know he "talks about you with his friends". I do.

[Anonymous]

You don’t think you’re full of yourself by calling him desperate and assuming he’s going out of his way for your attention? You know that you have to be acknowledging him as well to somehow even come to such conclusions right? Pure his neighbor, he is bound to run into or look at you in passing.

[Opinion Owner]

*you’re his neighbor

[Asker]

You don't get it

[Opinion Owner]

Not much to get

[Asker]

And you still don't

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever girl lol

[FilmGuy93]

He has tried approaching you... you just responded by acting cold and uninterested. Why the hell would he try again? lmao

[Asker]

I'm asking why he is trying

[FilmGuy93]

I’m sure that a certain amount of it comes from the fact y’all are neighbors. Meaning that he doesn’t actually have a crush on you. He also might find your behavior comical

[Asker]

Most men don't get out of their way to "stalk" (like repeatedly following her to the grocery store and not buy anything) a neighbor that is only slightly weird for 2 years.

[FilmGuy93]

How do you know he’s going to the store and not buying anything? Maybe he has other stuff there that he needs to do. Y’all are neighbors, it’s not like there aren’t other reasonable explanations for this behavior. I’m not saying he isn’t stalking you, but it seems like you’re filling in some gaps of the story

[Asker]

I can tell by the way he is always looking at me. Women notice that better than men

[FilmGuy93]

We actually notice a lot more than we get credit for. He’s probably looking at you because he finds you physically attractive

[Voldra]

Generally men are attracted to visual. He's acting desperate because he's invested too much in the illusion / delusion of being with you. That nervousnes is a byproduct of caring about the outcome. He's probably inexperienced.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He's scared you're going to reject him, so this why he is acting that way.

[Asker]

But why does he keep trying if he can't muster up the courage after 2 years? I've seen him talking with other women, he is not a generally anxious awkward person. So why does he not try to approach and date someone else?

[exitseven]

every time he sees you he is picturing you naked.

[skilled_jellyfish]

Because men aren't taught how to attract or flirt with women.

[BJP21]

At the time, I had a big time crush on Cat Von Dee not knowing how much of a hot mess she is.

[AndrésC64]

Why do women develop serious crushes on total strangers they know nothing about?

[Asker]

I don't

[AndrésC64]

Neither do I. And neither do most men I would imagine. So what's your point? Do you really think that there's any difference between men and women and how they act in this regard?

[Asker]

Yes i do

[AndrésC64]

What?

[JPresidente]

He's probably interested in sleeping with you.

[Anonymous]

We are visual and we fall for the image of the female and the idea of how she would be in bed.

[Guardian45]

Why do women develop serious crushes on total strangers they know nothing about?

[Shy_Steve]

Because we get Attracted by Physical Attributes.

[In_Trance]

for the same reason women crush on guys they know nothing about

[Anonymous]

This question is ironic coming from a woman.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I keep falling for random girls on the streets.

[Asker]

But would you "stalk" them for 2 years?

[Opinion Owner]

oh no

[Charlesbrandonf]

Okay what is it that you want to happen now?

[Asker]

Get insight into his mind

[Charlesbrandonf]

Dear heart, you sound like a sweet girl.

We cannot go and find that information from someone else’s mind. All you can try is by asking him. Since you don’t want to do that. This is what i think is happening. If you cannot ask him then you’re going to think x or y and multiple them with every thought and action and come to different understandings.

We can only give suggestions based on what we understood here.

But you’re the master piece who is the centre of the story.

My view is that he likes you. For some reason he is not approaching you. But he wants you to notice him admiring you and might be hoping for a hint/sign and waiting for a moment where he feels safe enough to talk to you. For some men who are very experienced in approach, this would be easy. For some men who are not very social, talking to stranger is definitely not easy. Men do have huge insecurities. He might be a corner guy. Since you’re feeling you don’t want to talk to him, he from his side not wanting to approach you in the fear of rejection/awkwardness/embarrassment/insecurity/anything that I might be missing to address here. since he is your neighbour, he at least not trying to do anything awkward.

He clearly want to be noticed by you, he likes you. If you can give, give him some hints, show you’re friendly. This is all upto you.

If you’re expecting him to make a move first. Then I think you’re expecting world to go in your way. Because we can’t have control over others things that are outside our body. So goes to him and everyone. He might be expecting you to give/show some sort of hints for ages. So he is waiting.

Just be patient show him that you’re noticing him and see if he responds in anyway.

[Asker]

But he is a very sociable guy. I've seen him talk to all kinds of people and they seem to like him

[Anonymous]

Why are you so obsessed with your neighbor?

[Asker]

I'm really not but imagine someone you've never spoken to watch every time you leave the house for 2 years

[anon1903]

Stalkerish

[Fuentes]

Human nature