Guys, what does it mean when a guy isn't feeling like hanging out with anyone but doesn't contact you for a week? and said he wasn’t feeling good too?

[Anonymous]

I text him last night saying this, “ Hey! I wanted to give you some space that’s why i’m like chill about things and forgot you aren’t into texting. I hope you’re doing okay now. — i’ll be around tomorrow so we can talk on the phone. Going to bed now. x”

Was that a good text to send? Although he is more of a caller and not a texter.

[FilmGuy93]

That was a fine text to send. That guy’s behavior is a pretty simple read; he just wants personal time to decompress. I think you handled the situation pretty well

[Asker]

Thank you!! I called him twice this morning around 11am just to chat but he didn't respond.

I hope he doesn't think i’m “clingy” i’m just worried about him.

[Asker]

my first message to him was “Hey! whats up?” and then, “I think we should get drinks :)” followed by the last text message about giving him space.

[Asker]

Those messages were last night by the way and then the call this morning.

[FilmGuy93]

No problem! Don’t try getting in touch with him anymore. If you do, you’ll come across pushy. Realistically, he got your messages. Just let him do his thing

[Asker]

No way!! I am kinda upset he’s ignoring me so i deleted our messages. Hopefully, he gives me a call because he really is not into texting.

thanks for the advice!

[FilmGuy93]

I’m in a similar boat, so I know what you’re feeling. It’s frustrating, but you really have to be disciplined and just content yourself with knowing that you have done what you can. For now you have to play the waiting game

[Asker]

We are in the same group of friends but they don’t really hang with him as much because he’s shy and awkward so i feel like I've opened up a cool vibe but now that he’s acting this way is very disappointing behavior because he is mature but not acting like it. He also told me he felt “friend vibes” from me on our first date so i told him i was nervous and to give me another chance and he said i made good points.

[Asker]

I haven't heard from him at all yet. Do you think he’s just being a jerk and wants to ghost me? or actually going through something?

I just find it strange its been a week and half now. He cancelled plans that night too because he got “friendly vibes” from our first date and said he wanted to keep it that way but that he really likes me and we get along well.

And thats when he said also that he wasn't feeling good and didn't feel like hanging with anyone really that night.

I deleted his number on Sunday because i really didn't want to go through this.

[FilmGuy93]

I’m not sure that he is being a jerk, he’s just made it clear that he doesn’t see you romantically, so you aren’t a priority for him.

[Asker]

Thats true and i did tell him to give me another chance because i was nervous on our first date he said i was cold with him and i thought he was judging and i told him that. And he said “okay yeah maybe we can do that some other time just not feeling good today” but i’m not a cold person obviously haha

[Sparkie460]

It was good. He'll see it and know that you are thinking about him and you care

[Asker]

My first text to him was “Hey! Whats up?” and then after a few hours i text him “i think we should get drinks :)”

And then i decided to just send him a heart warming message instead of being so chill

[Sparkie460]

Has he responded to any of your texts

[Asker]

This was all yesterday in between times.

He has not responded to any of my texts. I really don’t know whats going on with him.

[Sparkie460]

Maybe you should try calling him. Tell him you are worried about him.
You don't think he would do anything to hurt himself do you?

[Asker]

No, he would never do that.

i think he was feeling down last Sunday. But i think calling him would be a bit too much because i text him already?

[Sparkie460]

I don't know your friend so I was just trying to be cautious.

[Asker]

I called him twice today at around 11am and he didn't answer. He hasn’t called me back today. i was so upset i deleted his number off my phone but i will know its him if he decides to call me or text me tomorrow or this week.

[Sparkie460]

Do you know any of his other friends? Have they heard from him? I don't know him but I'm concerned about him

[Asker]

We do have mutual friends but i don’t think he’s been in contact with them.

[Sparkie460]

That's very concerning to me.

[Asker]

And maybe he went out this past weekend and just not in contact with me or anyone

[Asker]

He knows i care now so i guess i will have to wait for him to call me back

[Sparkie460]

Will you keep me updated please

[Sparkie460]

Thanks for the mho. I hope you hear from him soon

[Asker]

Thank you!!! i think he’ll call eventually.

[Sparkie460]

You're welcome. I hope so