Guys, what would u think about a girl who wants to pay equal for the date?

[Anonymous]

I have been with a guy on a date, and when I wanted to pay, he was suprised and got defensive…

[DaveJord]

I would tell her it's not necessary, but if she insisted then I would not mind. I mean if it's like a cup of coffee I would try to joke with her, in charming way. " A $5 cup of coffee is not going to buy your way into my heart." But if made her feel better no worries.

I do appreciate when you take a woman out to a dinner date, and she pays. But even then, I tell her first time it's not an issue and that I appreciate her doing that. After the bill is settled and she has paid. Then I say, " When I ask you out, I expect to pay, and if you want to pay then you can ask me out next time." If she is a good person with a good sense of humor and I think she can take the joke, I then add... "I will warn you though, I am not a cheap date, but I am not the type of guy that won't put out."

Again, it all deepens on the vibe I had have women pay at the end and honestly, I said nothing, because by the end of the date I wasn't really interested in a next time, and honestly neither was she.

But when a woman jumps to wanting to pay, its usually not a good sign for most men. Call me old fashion, but I think men are supposed to act like men and to a degree, women that want to be treated like women let men slide on that. Not too far, but just enough to not insult them. But when she insists on paying, well it usually means she not wanting to be treated like a woman by you. Or maybe any man, not in the way a real man would want to treat a woman or believes is the right way to treat good women.

[Anonymous]

I think he’s just nice. You’re a good woman. You seem to not be entitled and not one sided.

If he insists. Just let him pay. Just next time wait until he uses the bathroom (a trick is to send him to see if the bathrooms have a line or not or if they seem busy) and just cover the check while he’s away.

He just seems like a good guy. Let him do something nice. You can always repay.

You could also get him a gift. Cook for him. Give him a back scratch or massage. Just depends.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Yeah, I've gotten the same reactions from guys (not on a date, just hanging out) where they get bothered over who gets to pay. I imagine it's more shocking for guys when it comes to dating since I rarely hear about a girl paying for a date.

[Anonymous]

Boys don't like it when you try to pay half, because they want to pay for it all so they can use it to convince you that you owe them something after for it...

[MystiKaL]

I'd offer to pay, as I am old school about these sort of things. But if she insisted on splitting the bill, I certainly wouldn't argue. That would set a bad example of myself, that I am a stubborn, argumentative guy that wants things done my way. Which clearly ain't me.

[AviatorTom]

No problem. I've been on many dates where my female date wants to pay her share. Fine with me. There was one woman I had a first date with who offered to pay for both of us, saying "You can get the next one." It was a no-so-subtle message that she liked me, and we dated for 6 months before breaking up.

[MCheetah]

I'd say she's way more likely to get a second date out of me, cause I don't pay for the food of people I just met. Let the old men of GAG be simps; I actually value my time and money to not waste it on someone just cause she has a vagina.

So yeah, that's a big positive, in my book. I'd know she can take care of herself and isn't using me.

[spartan55]

I've had the woman offer to pay her half and I just sort of acknowledged it, no big deal. Then, on the drive home she gets all pissed off at me because I didn't 'refuse to let her pay'... sorry, wtf?
That was our last date.

[MCheetah]

If women want to use it as a "simp test," then men can equally use it as a "c*nt test." I wouldn't waste my time with such a piece of trash female, either.

[Hawner]

I am quite classic on those kind of things, so I would still offer to take care of the bill. Not or of pride or something, just because I want to.
Still, if we end up splitting it, then it is ok. I don't really have a problem with it.

[Anonymous]

I am always ready to pay my share or for the full thing but I wait to see what the guy wants to do. Paying for your own meal is a signal to the guy that you're not interested in anything going any further.

[DaveJord]

100% correct

[Stickykuza]

Girl that I'd want to ask for another date and let her pay for every thing and then on the third date I'll pay for everything 😂

[TroyDT2]

It depends on the guy. For some when a girl says she'll pay for her own, it is taken as "Do not bother asking for another date." so he might wonder what he did wrong.

[Paul09]

I'd be surprised, and respect that. It is actually a really good thing in my opinion. Says a lot about you. Those men that get defensive are so weird. Makes no sense. Maybe stay away from those types

[bamesjond0069]

It can mean a few things:

1. Shit test. You don't mean it.

2. You're trying to dominate him.

3. Signal you're low quality and trying to provide an incentive for him to date you.

[BJP21]

If I was in his shoes, Id proceed to the nearest ring store and put a ring on you. Sharing equal parts in a date speaks volumes.

[Anonymous]

Whatever, I guess. I'm lways prepared to pay. I might find it a little odd, I might question her interest in me a bit, but either way it wouldn't be that big of a deal.

[ZenJen444]

That you're desperate and can't get anyone

[MrMatasch]

I never let my partner to pay..

[dolemite89]

she’s probably not gunna put out

[Jamie05rhs]

She's a match!

[In_Trance]

whatever works