I have this guy. I can’t really put a label on him because we’ve got such a long, complicated history, but let’s just say that he’s one of my best friends whom I have romantic history with.
Anyway, we text all day every day about literally everything. We’ve both been up front about the still existing feelings we have for one another, but agree that it isn’t the best time for us right now so we’re just friends for now. And for the time being I’ll refer to him as “J.”
Today an ex fling (Z) who ended up not being great texted me asking if we could talk. Things didn’t end really well between us and I basically ghosted him because of how badly he scared me. I told J this and he was immediately up front about how he didn’t like it. I said I don’t know how or what to respond with and he reminded me multiple times that I am not obligated to respond to him.
We went back and forth like that for a a little while and I ended up texting Z back and told J. Z left me on opened for hours and J said that was good and I told him that I was nervous/scared and then he went into this lecture about how I don’t owe Z anything and all he really wants is to hookup.
I said something that was partly a joke, but also a test to see how he would respond, which was that I need to keep my options open and he came back with this long question about how if I knew what he believes are Z’s intentions and responded because of that. I answered no and was honest about it. And I told him that none of it mattered since Z left me on opened and didn’t respond and he said that was good.
When Z responded I told J that he wanted to talk later because he was sleeping and J’s reaction to that was just “Wowwww.”
So after all of this I’m just curious. Is J jealous or is he just being protective?
