Why do some guys feel entitled to comment on women's appearance?

[Anonymous]

Why do some men feel entitled to comment, unwarranted on a woman's appearance? Especially to her face and when she didn't ask for comments? I've literally had guy strangers come up to me and be like "You're an 8 but you would be a 10 if you were curvier" or "yeah I'd f*** you, but not your friend." Like, what? I didn't ask though. This happens to my friends as well and I see it all over the internet. Men will go up to women and feel entitled to comment on her appearance, humble her or give her "advice" on how she can look more attractive to them. Why is this?

[BlackBeauty90]

Maybe you should stop hanging out with uneducated achieve nothing trailer trash?

I've never heard or experienced this and I've lived east to west coast across the Americas. Mind you as a decent respectable woman who has self respect, self confidence, etc. I dress respectfully (not as a tramp or slut) and don't attract unwanted attention from douchebags and losers like you & your friends seem to be doing.

So here's the question - do you dress respectfully or do you dress like a hoe?

[fonduegirl]

He either respects all women or he doesn't respect women. Lmao.

[BlackBeauty90]

@anon1903 No, few people respect sluts, tramps & whores because they don't respect themselves.

[fonduegirl]

Lol ok

[Faith18letsgo]

Because men have heard shitty ass men like Andrew Tate say they should.

[fonduegirl]

Spot on

[PinkRose24]

Why do men listen to Andrew Tate if he's ugly?

[fonduegirl]

@PinkRose24 when did she call him ugly?

[PinkRose24]

@anon1903 I never said she did

[fonduegirl]

@PinkRose24 uh ok

[TheorionMage]

Whether crude or refined, males fundamentally understand that 'glamoury' is done to appeal to male predilections and by his remarks, he's acknowledging the POWER of her skills to 'merit' his attentions and his dedication of his meager resources toward potential mating opportunity courtship.

Pragmatically, he's EITHER a potential Suitor or your 'competition' (Gay)!
'Celibacy' is a self-delusion~ :O

[FilmGuy93]

Some people are assholes. It's just that simple. Assholes are assholes.

Although, let's be real, the shit women feel comfortable saying to/about men is WILD too. So it's not like both genders don't overstep in some pretty ludicrous ways.

[MCheetah]

Free speech exists and as long as they aren't being overly sexual, lewd, or disgusting, no one has to care if you like it or not. And if someone IS being overly sexual, lewd, or disgusting, then just use your words back at them to call them bad names and words. It's that simple.

This isn't something that "most men do" as you imply. This isn't a "problem with men" as you imply. Some people, male OR FEMALE, or just assholes. I've had plenty of women say rude or mean comments to me on the street, out of the blue. I just figure, it must be a day that ends in Y. If you encounter an asshole, be an asshole back to them.

You and so many other modern women, wouldn't last one day in 1970s and 80s New York. People back then used to be tougher, especially the women. Now THEY knew how to throw a mean right hook! (From what I've seen; I didn't live back then nor do I make lewd comments to women on the street.)

[MCheetah]

*are just assholes

[Anonymous]

That has never happened to me. Guys are always respectful to me. They never insult me. Sometimes I feel like I'm one of the few woman that have never had a bad experience with a guy.

Are you referring to guys online or guys you've met in real life.

All the guys I've met irl are really kind to me. Heck even when I reject them they're still nice to me. Maybe you live in a city with bad men?

[Asker]

Both online and real life. I guess people in London are just rude af.

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhh I live in the US

[sirderpsalot123]

Because men are people and some people are assholes.

[Asker]

Yep but I rarely see girls do this, so I'm wondering why I get this all the time from guys

[Anonymous]

Some men don't't know how to mind their own business, and they are even worse online.

[Asker]

True. Online is awful especially negative and humbling comments for no reason

[NamerOfStars]

Because they ARE- that's what free speech is all about (as a social value, not a political one). Some people are just assholes, and fortunately, they rarely try to hide it.

[Anonymous]

You are enjoying too much the feeling and idea of "being offended" by what, by any measure, is trivial.

[Asker]

Clown shit

[Opinion Owner]

Classy lady, as to be expected.

[Asker]

It's a non-classy response to a non-classy answer.

[Guy13]

Sounds like you need to find better places to hang out?

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Where the fuck do you live where this is happening? Like, WTF is wrong with people...

[CallmeTheKnight]

So what's the point? They're not entitled, they can say what they want. It's up to you to pay it mind or not. This isn't a real issue at all.

[bamesjond0069]

Probably because you dress for attention by being inappropriate and slutty looking? Just a wild guess.

[Anonymous]

Biden's world war 3 can't come soon enough.

[CuriousMufuxka]

They usually ask in the first place! Why do women get pissed at the opinions?

[Anonymous]

Take the compliment and be happy about it, ugly girls would love to be pretty and to get compliments on their appearance, be happy if men give you compliments on how you look, like F***.

[Asker]

It ain't a compliment. They're literally just making remarks. Usually it's not even from someone I'm dating either.

[Opinion Owner]

If the remark says that you're an 8, take it as a compliment and be happy about it, would you rather he say you look ugly?

[Asker]

I'd rather he just minded his own lol. It was a random guy on the street who could be my father's age. I don't need to be rated and then told how I could improve, it's weird. But I have also seen this happen with negative comments as well.

[Opinion Owner]

OK, so basically you don't want guys remarking that you look hot to them. Would you rather they say you look attractive or ugly in their remarks if you had to choose? Now say it's a guy that is your type and is everything you want in a guy, would it bother you less and be more appreciative of his remark, if he said you are an 8?

[Opinion Owner]

To answer your question men make positive remarks to make you feel good, flirt, give some appreciation of how you look or work you did to look that way, or to give you some feedback or advice to improve yourself.

[Asker]

Nope. I don't need remarks at all, unless they are trying to date me or in a setting that requires attraction as a part of it. It's like they feel entitled or think I want/need validation from them. I've had male family members do this as well. I don't comment on their appearance, they don't need to comment on mine.

[Opinion Owner]

Not everyone thinks the way you do, or views it as a matter of ''entitlement'' so long as the remarks are positive feedback. Girls can give me compliments how I look however they want, so I view the same for me to say it to them.
How is a guy supposed to approach you then? You don't want him saying you look nice to him?

[Asker]

Again, it's ok if it's in a romantic setting, like saying "you look lovely today." I give men compliments like that if I'm into them. That's fine. But it's super weird for a random man to go up to a woman and start giving a commentary. Or a platonic friend to feel the need to state his opinion. It is entitlement, it's as if women are only there to be attractive to men.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't view it as entitlement, a random girl can give me positive remarks to me, or feedback to improve myself on my appearance, so since its ok for me, I view it as ok for me to say it to other girls. Not all girls think the same to you, how are we supposed to know you don't like it or view it as entitlement if you don't tell them first?

[Asker]

How about negative feedback then? Like telling my friend he doesn't find her as attractive as me to our faces? We didn't ask lol

[Opinion Owner]

There's literally nothing wrong with giving positive remarks or advice on someone's appearance, whether its family, friends or random people, it's not weird either, its completely normal.

[Opinion Owner]

There's a difference between being rude and being helpful. If you get a decide to get a ridiculous hairstyle, or wear something ridiculous, you want your friends or family to give you some helpful advice to help you, take some constructive criticism. They're just looking out for you.

If it's something you are physically born with, say you have thin lips, and someone says you would look better with full lips, but you like how you look like and that you like having thin lips, use your head, be happy with how you look and know that other people prefer thin lips and think you would look better with thin lips as an example.

[Opinion Owner]

If you decide to get a*

[fonduegirl]

From what angle are the examples she mentioned "compliments" lmao XD

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 Being called an 8 should be taken as a compliment, man you people are just insane.

[fonduegirl]

Being rated should be a compliment? In what universe?

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 This universe, if you're rated highly take it as a compliment, I would.

[fonduegirl]

You must be really desperate. And ugly.

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 No I just have a brain and haven't been brainwashed by whatever far left feminist indoctrination you received.

[fonduegirl]

You're definitely ugly and desperate lol

[fonduegirl]

Feel better, hon

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 You're a brainwashed feminist like her.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NpAkTQpvsOQ

[fonduegirl]

Hahaha okay

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 Men prefer women who take positive remarks positively, remember that.

[fonduegirl]

Good thing I'm bisexual

[fonduegirl]

I'd date women. And tell them they're beautiful without making it a contest of ratings. But thanks though.

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 Explains your views on things. Well, us men will keep giving out positive remarks and some women will appreciate them like they should. A woman getting irritated by positive remarks or being ranked highly is a RedFlag for us.

[fonduegirl]

It depends on how you say it. Like instead of saying she's an 8 or desirable enough for you to fuck, how about improving your descriptor?

Not a single woman would object of you tell her she's cute, fun to be around, pretty or beautiful. They'd greatly appreciate it.

[fonduegirl]

Like these examples,
"You're an 8 but you would be a 10 if you were curvier"
This isn't Instagram or anything. And even if it were, why spread this negativity. Conditional approval, in this case. Indirectly saying she's thin in an unattractive way, but she's okay.

or
"yeah I'd f*** you, but not your friend."
Why make it a competition? Why assume she'd sleep with you in the first place? Are you some kind of trophy?

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 If someone says that a girl is desirable enough to make it on a playboy magazine, pretty sure they would be flattered. A girl with low self esteem or a girl who thinks herself as regular or average being called an 8 would make her day, a girl who thinks too highly of herself would be offended of the remark if she thinks in her mind, she's a 10, is the only logical way of me seeing them getting offended by it. She should in this case realize that people have different taste and that being called an 8 means that you are still considered attractive to him, so as to feel more appreciative of the remark and be happy about it.

If a guy gives you something to improve yourself about in something you can change naturally about yourself, lose a bit of weight, gain a bit of weight, get a new hairstyle, or not use a type of makeup etc. He's giving you constructive criticism to help or encourage you to look even more attractive. Take it however you want, men get remarks from women on their appearance too. Deal with it.

[fonduegirl]

Imagine you're in bed with a girl and she says, "I love your cock. It made me feel so good! Wasn't as impressive as my ex boyfriend's tho. He could barely fit that thing. He was huge. But on the plus side, I love all sizes. Imagine what you'd do if you were that big! Luckily, you aren't"

[fonduegirl]

Are you seriously telling me you won't feel even a tad upset by what she said?

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 I wouldn't care honestly.

[fonduegirl]

Many other men would.

[fonduegirl]

You don't care? Good for you. But many people care. Keep your stupid comments to yourself unless the question is "how do I look?"

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 Well that's them, I wouldn't care at all. I'd be like ok whatever.

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 Nope, if a girl is hot I will compliment her, and she can cry me a river if I tell her she would look better if she had this or didn't have that, it's constructive criticism to help her out.

[fonduegirl]

Not everyone's like that, hon. So it's always good to be tactful while complimenting someone. Just say "you're very cute" or "I'd be lucky if I'd a girlfriend like you" or "I love your company so much". That leaves less room for objection. More guys would get laid if they were considerate that way.

[fonduegirl]

Who are you to give her constructive advice? Are you a fashion icon or something? What's that? No. Then fuck off! Shove your opinions up your butthole.

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 Yeah not everyone is like that, how am I supposed to know if she's ok with it or not ok with it? Everyone, men and women get remarks on their physical appearance, deal with it. There's a difference between being straight up rude and being helpful or constructive.

[fonduegirl]

The example she's given are straight up the rude ally, disguised as compliments

[fonduegirl]

You're an 8
- is still a compliment

but you would be a 10 if you were curvier
- this urges the woman to say fuck off

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 LOL. If a girl gets a bad hairstyle, or I don't like her lipstick color or makeup she started using, if I don't like her lip fillers etc, I will tell her to let her know to help her out, she can take what I say how she wants.

[fonduegirl]

Is she your girlfriend or partner or relative? If not, for the last time, fuck off

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 If a girl told me I was an 8 but said if you worked out more you would be a 10, I'd be like ok thanks for letting me know.

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 Nope, girls can do it to men, men can do it to women, deal with it.

[fonduegirl]

You'd be an 11 if you had respect for feminist and common tactfulness. You're welcome.

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 lol. Yeah, you're not the kind of girl I would go for if you told me that sorry. So, I assessed your criticism and concluded that's it's not applicable for me in the kind of woman I want to be with. I like girls who reject feminism, you can be nice to women and respect women and reject feminism at the same time.

[fonduegirl]

All right

[fonduegirl]

Dumb hateful men aren't my type either.

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 The ones that are masculine and built western civilization you mean? Well good luck in finding a man, maybe that's why you started checking out girls.

[Anonymous]

Why do some women feel they are entitled to people not saying things she doesn't want to hear? That's the real entitlement here.

[Asker]

I don't think you understand the meaning of that word.

[Opinion Owner]

It's modern women who it seems don't understand it, or at lest are incapable of recognizing it in themselves.

[msc545]

Why not? Women do this all the time.