Was I wrong for what I said?

[Pink2000]

One of the cooks at my job asked for my number and I gave it to him. I hardly use my actual number so I didn’t mind. I shouldn’t have give it to him at all… and I regret it. The guy looks at me like I’m about to be his last meal. He creeps me out. He was real cool at first which is why i didn’t mind giving it to him. He says weird stuff like “what would you do if I just kissed you” and he’ll stare at me and say “I’m just thinking about everything I would do to you” and since he’s been saying weird stuff like that I’ve been ignoring him at work. He’ll wave me over to try to get me to talk to him and I just ignore him. He even came up from behind me and whispered in my ear “hey baby” and it sounded so crusty. He sent me this text today.

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He replied with “Duly noted Thankyou”

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Turns out the guy is married….

[JDavid25]

Well, based on the last text, I would say that he is just too straight forward with not enough smoothness.. But it seems like he is harmless.. For now.. But no, what you said wasn't wrong.. It was straight to the point and he got the message.. I think it was fine.. He reminds me of some of the guys at my work.. Just too straight forward with no class about it..

[JDavid25]

Thank you for MHO Pink!

[Pink2000]

Ofc !

[NathanDavis]

this guy could turn dangerous... even he is just way too forward in a creepy way, or he's usually clueless about boundaries, the second one is the dangerous one

you better put a clear stop to it, to him... and repeat it as clearly as possible, every time he insists

[NathanDavis]

@update... hopefully, he's staying away

[Bricealan]

Problem in today's society, is you never know who to be 'friendly' with and who to keep at arm's length. This guy sounds like he should be kept at 10' poles' length. How old is he? This is the 'down side' of trying to be nice to someone and they are such a moron as to behave like that.

I would tell him in no uncertain terms, that he had better stay away from you and qut making idiot statements to you unless he wants to face some kind of restraining order, on the job.

Protect yourself.

[Pink2000]

He’s 44 years old with 4 kids… that’s what I get for trying to be nice but he was really cool at first. It was after I gave him my number when he started to get bold

[DizzyDesii]

Not lookin at you like his last meal 😂 He sound like a predator. Im glad you told him that in the text. What did he respond

[Pink2000]

No response. Idek If my text went through.

[DizzyDesii]

And the fact he asked what he asked means he knew he did something wrong

[Pink2000]

Exactly. Before that he asked for a picture so he can “look at it before he goes to sleep” and then I never responded so he asked again and I still didn’t send it.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea distance yourself from him at work

[Pink2000]

Weird af. I kinda gotta talk to him cause he’s the only cook…

[DizzyDesii]

Tell him now you want things to remain platonic and that its best you only communicate for work purposes

[Pink2000]

Thankyou

[Guy13]

May I suggest a working course of action for you and Singles as a whole. I have a stripped Business card with my face, email, and cursive writing "number available upon request." This is enough in today's world. I don't want your number, want to know where you live, nor what kind of car you drive for awhile. We will use my car for awhile.

[king34]

I hate this. If your not a deceitful person and your honest and genuine with women they hate you and think your a creep for some reason, but if your an asshole who plays games and doesn't give a f*ck, y'all love it. Modern dating is toxic waste.

One step closer to becoming a yegerist.

[Pink2000]

That doesn’t mean come off as a creepy perv

[Agape93]

What @NathanDavis said. That's concerning. He gets your number and he's already talking about what he wants to do to you? Oh hell no

[melanieeeB]

Nope you said the right thing and I think you were even pretty uhm well nice... hope he stops with his behavior now

[musicbrain5]

That’s really concerning. Let him know this in person when you see him next. Also, if this behaviour continues, tell your manager.

[ZenJen444]

Yeah you were wrong. I wouldn't have given out my number. He can easily Google your number and it pull up your entire home address. On yop of that I don't give men from work my number.

[ZenJen444]

Very Dangerous I'd change my number

[Pink2000]

Yeah you’re right. It was dumb on my part for sure.

[ZenJen444]

Yeah he will make up all kinds of shit. " yeah bro I got her number and she let me hit". 🤣 That's how they do and spread rumors

[Pink2000]

He knows better than that. he's ugly as hell no one would believe him.

[ZenJen444]

🤣😭 girl u know how many ugly men lie everyday? Dudes are fucking bone heads and believe the dumbest shit

[Anonymous]

Here's the problem. If he was "the right guy", you would have been all in and he wouldn't have been a "creep". But he wasn't, and now you've made him feel like shit.

[Pink2000]

He made himself feel like a creep. Not me.

[Opinion Owner]

Reread what I wrote. If you had been into him, you reaction would have been much different. But he didn't know until he tried. You made him feel like shit for trying.

[Pink2000]

He came off as creepy to begin with. Even if I was into him I would still find it weird af. How can you tell me how my reaction would be. You don’t know me. It’s his own fault for acting like a pervert. He should’ve known better

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You weren't wrong what you said, but I would be putting him in his place.

[joeldalton]

You should have said that to him in person. If he keeps it up, go to your manager.

[Pink2000]

I will when I see him.

[Alex8736]

simply stated block his number from your phone and if any further inappropriate comments or advances happen just remain professional and report it

[Questionssheasked]

If possible you could talk to your managers and try to work on different shifts and block his number.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You did the right thing if your uncomfortable with anything you should express it

[msc545]

You could have handled this a lot better.

[Pink2000]

In what way

[msc545]

You could have been a lot kinder. maybe made a friend.

[Pink2000]

Tried that. It’s his fault for being creepy.

[msc545]

Try it again and forget about focusing on "creepy". You are not a child.

[musicbrain5]

Take it from me, exhibiting kindness to someone who seems as determined as this guy often doesn’t work. They either ignore it or don’t get the hint.

[Pink2000]

He should stop acting like a pervert. I’m not trying anything with him. I’m not obligated to be nice to him.

[msc545]

@musicbrain5 try it - you have nothing to lose and much to gain.

[msc545]

you are obligated to be nice to yourself by not being shitty to people.

[Pink2000]

I told him the truth. His perverted remarks creep me out. I’m not gonna sugarcoat it

[msc545]

Do it your way, You will have consequences as a result.

[Pink2000]

Because he’s a creep.

[msc545]

why did you ask this question if you are so sure you are right?

[Pink2000]

I asked if I was wrong. If so how? Your way is the wrong way. You can’t be nice to people like him

[msc545]

If you already know what is right and wrong, don't bother asking others as you will simply decide THEY are wrong too.

[Pink2000]

Why are you trying to defend this pervert

[msc545]

I am not defending him at all. I was simply trying to suggest you do some self-care by defusing a potentially dangerous situation by using appropriate verbal tactics.

But apparently, I am wrong according to you, so just keep provoking him. Remember that you work with this guy and he knows where to find you, so don't be surprised at anything he does to you.

[musicbrain5]

Well my situation was many years ago now, but yes I was very kind to a guy who was interested in me. I was not interested in pursuing anything with him at the time, and I was honest with him about that, but I was nice about it. I didn’t accuse him of anything or any wrongdoing, nothing like that, because he never behaved inappropriately towards me up to that point.. But he apparently didn’t get it and he stalked me for two years until I was able to get a restraining order against him.

[msc545]

@musicbrain5 This is not about you nd the situations are not equivalent.

[musicbrain5]

Okay, but you directly answered my reply, to try being nice. So that’s why I elaborated.

[PeterLegg91]

Course you wasn't you stated how you felt

[Teriyaki70]

Gross lmao