Am I wrong for giving the gift back so he can get his money back?

Anonymous
My boyfriend’s dad got me a scream shirt & i already have one that my friend got me to be silly & also it was too large & looked like a dress on me. i’m 5’2 & petite so i was shocked. so i told my boyfriend to give it back to him since it still has the tag on it & his dad was butt hurt about it & called me ungrateful over a shirt LOL. even when my boyfriend worded things nice saying i already had one & that it was the wrong size but she said thanks. His dad has said worse things & said i was being in my feelings one time, then invites me on trips like nothing happened & the minute i do something little he’s all hurt. ( he’s a veteran and most of them have no filter lol.)
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4 mo
The shirt was 14 by the way..
Am I wrong for giving the gift back so he can get his money back?
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