I’m not delicate or proper with the men I’m interested in. Is that a turn off?

[Anonymous]

I always hear men talking about how swearing, sarcasm, being a little rough, little jabs are a huge turn off and makes a woman unattractive.

By nature I’m a sarcastic thick skinned person sometimes I might make little snide comments with no real mal intent that just really get to the men I’m talking to. I mean if someone had said that to me I just won’t care because no big deal it’s just a rough joke. I swear sometimes (not constantly) because I find it funny, an emphasis I enjoy.

I’m still very feminine, charitable, and not to be full of myself but I’m quite cute. I just feel if I really had to change my personality and stop doing these things wouldn’t I just be uncomfortable and constantly censoring myself infront of a guy I want an authentic relationship with?

[UniquelyBasic]

You probably come off as another one of their bros and some men don't like that in women. You also may go overboard with it on dates so you should think if you could give your rough personality in smaller doses and overtime, they may get used to it instead of just overwhelming them with it on a first date.

[Asker]

Yeah I try but, I feel if he doesn’t reciprocate then I lose interest pretty quickly. Like I don’t what a guy to tolerate this stuff I want a guy who matches the energy and can joke around.

[UniquelyBasic]

Yeah I can come off as Im being mean when Im not trying to be when joking with people in general. I get that not everyone can tolerate someone like that which is fine.

[SnowedIn]

It's not a turn off. To be clear, it will be for some guys. But, that's okay. That means they're not the guys for you. In some ways, it's a turn on -- you're being you. That's genuine. And genuine is confidence and confidence is very attractive.

[Anonymous]

In my experience a little bit of clevage goes a long way with men.

[Jamie05rhs]

None of what you said is bad, except for the snide comments. You really need to keep that to a minimum when you're talking to your man. See, he gets shit from everyone else. He doesn't need to get it from his woman as well. Otherwise, what's the point of him having you in his life? If you're not going to be a positive presence, he's better off staying single.

[MrOracle]

I think that as long as you are not doing this at inappropriate times, and you are very feminine otherwise, then it's not likely to be a problem for most guys. But,, never underestimate how important femininity in a woman is to most men.

[exitseven]

My wife and really just about every girl I ever dated was a little ragged around the edges. I am pretty rough too. I could never be with somebody who would give me a hard time bout what dessert fork I used.

[Asker]

Glad to know it’s not too big a deal. I’d consider myself to be a pretty good partner outside of my edges so thank you for your reply!

[exitseven]

just be yourself. you will be okay,

[HighValue]

Cussing often does make a woman unattractive in my opinion.

[Asker]

I mean that’s fine, to each their own.

[Anonymous]

It depends, guys will let you know when you're crossing the line from being irreverent to just being a rude b****.

[AngryCarl]

Those men are weak. You sound just my type. Now if I was just 40 years younger...

[In_Trance]

It will be to some, yes

[Asker]

To most? And do guys expect to be in a censored “inauthentic” relationships forever?