Why do guys tend to do this?

[Anonymous]

So I went for work drinks with my grad friends and we had pres as well and I’ve become really close with one of the guys at work and he’s been one of my best friends there.

before we weren’t as close so before at parties he’d just say hi but now that we’ve become super close we always stick with each other so keep a bit later then everyone else.

he arrived and he came and said hi to me and complimented me and said my hair looked good. And we both just sat with each other the entire time and then we went for dinner afterward with everyone and we were super close with each other.

Do guys tend to do this where they only stick with people they are super close with?

[Guy13]

Yes we do and when we spend that kind and much time with a woman three's something going on. It is likely he has interest in you but not the confidence to pursue past friendship. It could be the grad school-work life dimension intruding on this.

[Asker]

Ah yea I think it’s because we work at company - but the fact he complimented me and came over and sat next to me meant a lot to our friendship

[Guy13]

Yeah, that does say much about his seriousness. It sounds like some pheromones molecules are floating around you two.

[OlderAndWiser]

Does this guy lack experience in relationships? A bit shy?

[Asker]

Both he is pretty shy too

[OlderAndWiser]

You may need to take the initiative without being obvious. Think of a restaurant that you would like to try, then when it seems appropriate in conversation, ask him if he's ever been there. Tell him you'd lke to try it sometime but you don't know if you'll get the chance, because you hate to eat alone. That gives him a perfect opportunity to offer to take you there, and you make sure that happens in the evening on a Friday or Saturday night. . . and that makes it a date.

[Asker]

Ah yea I gotta shoot my shot ahahah he’s very shy yea good idea

[Anonymous]

Yes and it sounds like he was shy too.

[Asker]

Yea he’s pretty shy and introverted

[Opinion Owner]

That sucks.

[Asker]

Yea- luckily we bounce of each other so he feels more confident in a group when I’m there

[Opinion Owner]

Nice.