Guy ghosting after telling me he likes me?

[Anonymous]

I talked everyday with a guy and he said he likes me but last few days he started to ghost me saying he is sorry for super late reply. Why is it?

[Summeroflove]

It’s Christmas lol. He’s probably busy. Depends on how long he didn’t respond. If it was not really important. Just leave the man alone.


As long as it’s not literally taking days on end… Plus sometimes some people just start losing interest over time

[Asker]

Okay thank you, you are right! I should stop worrying

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome I’m not trying to be rude or anything. I would say just leave him be it gets toxic if someone thinks someone should always respond with the first 5 minutes.

Enjoy your Christmas and talk to him when he’s not busy

[Asker]

Yeah true he told me his sister is coming too... he answered after a day but he apologized and I didn't even tell him anything about it

[Summeroflove]

I would say it’s probably Christmas and irs understandable honestly. His family should come first over texting over a dating app.

Unless something is important. It makes sense.

[Summeroflove]

The same as if you were busy with family they would probably have priority

[Asker]

Yeah you are right! Thank you for taking time to answer and make me realize common sense. I like guy so I didn't think rationally invading his space.

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome and we all do stuff like that sometimes including myself. I don’t mean to get a attitude with you some people on here always get a attitude with me.

As long as he shows interest and everything. I know that you like him and maybe just tell him you’re sorry if you were invading his spade and you understand he was busy with Christmas and everything.

We all get carried away sometimes though

[Asker]

Yeah thank you for helping me change my mindset about this

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome. I try to give helpful and honest answers. Sometimes certain people only want to get the answers they want to hear and when you don’t give them that they can become very argumentative.

You’re someone who clearly has common sense I hope you had a great Christmas and hopefully everything goes well with him.

I mean if he’s taking days on end to respond I would be worried. But since it’s Christmas I assume he’s just busy with the holiday and you’re welcome

[Asker]

Thank you~just it was weird to me since he hasn't replyed 2 days already but I can understand why.

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome. Oh 2 days is legitimately a long time. I thought you just said it was today.

I don’t know. Maybe speak to him about how you feel

[Asker]

Yeah I didn't bother him my last message was 2 days ago I just said that he has nice time with family for Christmas but didn't see so it is okay

[Summeroflove]

Well that’s good that he’s spending time with his family. Well. See how things go I wish you the best

[Asker]

Yeah 3 days have passed I am not sure anymore what is there to do. Also this all happend after he told me he likes me.

[Summeroflove]

Dang I’m sorry to hear that. If he’s going days on end then maybe start considering other options.

Have you tired talking to him and saying that you feel he is ignoring you? If he’s loosing interest he just needs to be honest

[Summeroflove]

Not just fade into oblivion

[Asker]

It is okay... I wanted to tell him if he is okay or something like that to not sound desperate when he has been ignoring me... yeah I want honesty from him but I don't know how

[Summeroflove]

Well. It’s unfortunate see I thought you just meant it was just the one day. I didn’t know it was days on end.

[Summeroflove]

If someone’s interested in you they like when someone shows interest. Maybe he’s losing interest. If he messages and says he’s busy sorry or something but isn’t totally ignoring you. That’s one thing.

Leaving you in the dark is wrong

[Asker]

Ah true but I need to accept it even if him ghosting me felt like punch in stomach to be honest. Bc I didn't like him at first he initiated everything. I agree with you.

[Summeroflove]

Right. If someone is losing interest. They need to be honest too. Not just do that. Sorry for misunderstanding

[Summeroflove]

Like I could understand if he didn’t get back to you for a day. Some people ir someone doesn’t respond in 5 minutes or blowing their phone up while their sleeping.

But days yeah… too long

[Asker]

Yeah so I didn't contact him also for 2 days last messages were mine... so I am thinking if I should write: are you okay? Or something... or leave it be

[Summeroflove]

Yeah you could try that. If you were ignoring him well he might have lost interest from that and that might be your own fault there

[Summeroflove]

Now if neither one of you has talked and the conversation just ended. Then I mean.. maybe not that big of a deal

[Asker]

Yeah but last messages were mine and he didn't open it... so I didn't know if I should hit him up first... Thank you for helping me... I will write that and see what happens

[Summeroflove]

I guess hit him up and see what happens. If he’s taking days to respond again it’s not really normal.

[Summeroflove]

If I send someone a text and someone follows up with it days later I’m just like….. 🤷‍♂️…… I literally sent that 3 days ago

[Asker]

Yeah so weird I hate when people do that so I dont understand even if I lost interest I tell directly...

[Asker]

I am questioning is it even worth it to send message...

[Summeroflove]

Do what you want. If you think you’re losing interest then maybe just start moving on

[Summeroflove]

The way that I am. If someone is into me they will show interest the same as I will show interest into someone I’m into

[Asker]

Yeah he sent me long paragraphs before... and when I comfirmed that I like him too he started to reply slower... I sent him message now

[Summeroflove]

Okay. I really don’t know. I guess we’ll see what happens now

[Asker]

Yeah I am ghosted haha

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I would say just move on sorry about that

[Summeroflove]

People shouldn’t do that. If they lost interest they need to be honest and not leave someone in the dark

[Asker]

Thank you~at this point it is tiring to meet new people. I think I will close for awhile...

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome. When you’re ready you’ll be ready. It’s why I kind of personally don’t do online dating. It’s just not my thing this kind of situation being one of those reasons.

When you start to have feelings for or like someone again you’ll know you’re ready. I understand what you’re saying

[Danny_dan92]

His other options are better

[Asker]

That's great😃thanks for answer

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah.

[Summeroflove]

Well it’s also Christmas so he’s probably legitimately busy lol.