I've known/worked with him for 3 years he knew her for 2 months he choose her, fine. They met (she doesn't live in the same state) i guess talked for 2 months and she moved here/in with him at month 3 - to which he never told me about her or his new relationship status.
Point is now that i know he will not leave me alone he continues to gaslight me and act like its no big deal and nothing is wrong. I clearly feel differently, he made decisions for himself and now I get to make mine and that is I no longer wish to have him in my life but he will not accept that nor give me my space. We work in the same building but not the same section so there's no reason to interact with him but he continues to find reasons to come over whether it be just to peer in on me or ask work related questions he very well already knows that answers to.
What possible reason could he have to continue to insist on interacting with me?
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Did he know you were interested? Or were you two dating or something and he picked her?
I reciprocated everything he was throwing down, he went out his way continuing to spend one on one time with me outside the office and just never mentioned her there was a solid month overlap they were together and he was still engaging with me, so he knows what he was doing (no we had not yet slept together).
I want to be fair and unbiased with my opinion, because that’s what you’re here for even if you don’t agree. At most it sounds like there could’ve been some flirtation happening, which is unsurprising, as that seems to be the dynamic some people create with the opposite sex sometimes in the workplace. But as for if he meant for that flirting to actually lead somewhere? My guess is maybe not. I think you’d have a better reason to be annoyed with him not mentioning another woman if that had been the place you and him were in, but it sounds like you two never even vocalized having romantic feelings (assuming he genuinely had any outside of how you two carried on), so to me, it’s unfair for you to have such expectations of him or to be so put out. Not saying you aren’t entitled to how you feel — everyone is allowed that, whether the emotion is agreeable or not. But it just doesn’t sound fair. I’m sure he’s noticed you’ve kinda shut him out and is trying to be “normal” with you, but how’s he to know what’s on your mind when you don’t speak up? If I’m wrong and you two have actually talked about romantic feelings for one another, then I retract what I’ve said. However if you didn’t, telling him what’s on your mind may be something to consider. Because what’s clear as day for you may not be for him, and he’s not a mind reader.
He's keeping you warm.
He's pissing me off.
Yeah? You are putting up with it, by choice.
Im not quitting my job, I have told him off repeatedly hardly putting up with it
Apparently he isn't taking you seriously. Threaten to report him for harassment.
the possibility of future sex