Are men who are flirty not mindful of a woman’s self esteem?

[Anonymous]

Men who flirt with women and make them feel admired, beautiful or loved with no intent of actually being with them…

Then they pop out with a girlfriend who looks nothing like you and looks 10x better..

What are they thinking and do they not care

[Anonymous]

Just cause a man tells a girl she’s pretty or beautiful doesn’t mean he wants to hook up w her. He’s just paying her a compliment. I don’t see why someone can’t give someone else a compliment w out it meaning I want to fuck you. Besides what exactly is flirting? I mean cause I’ll talk to a lot of women who I get along w. I work w mainly females in the medical field. They laugh, joke around, they think I’m a good person, that to me isn’t flirting but to a lot of women they may think it is. Especially if you talk to particular ones who you get along w. No I’m not flirting she’s just an easy person to get along w who doesn’t give me attitude. Even if the girl is 10X better looking doesn’t mean she’s got the best personality either. So maybe that’s why he’s flirting if that’s what the case really is or he’s just looking to cheat. But it isn’t always flirting. And no we’re really not mindful of yourself self-esteem. How could we be we don’t know what your life history is. If you’re an emotional wreck. Now if I knew you personally ok I may know. Like one girl I talk to who doesn’t want marriage cause one man ruined her dream of a happy marriage, happy life. Yes I know how she feels but that’s cause she talks to me a lot about such things.

[JBlade]

Not everyone has good intentions. Yes, some people don't care and many women do the same thing to guys. I don't understand how its so hard to differentiate between empty platitudes and genuine compliments.

[Asker]

I guess because i don’t have the highest self esteem.. I take it personally. It’s like “ wow” someone is flirting with me.

[JBlade]

If you don't know the person that well, no point in taking what they say serious in any way. Random people or those you don't know well are superficial in conversation. However tbf, I'm a person who's personal opinion of myself is the only one that matters. I don't care if people find me attractive/unattractive or give me compliments because their opinion means nothing to me.

[Asker]

Not firty as in compliments but consistent “attraction”

[JBlade]

Regardless, you still shouldn't care about their flirtatious habits or statements. Not until they prove in some way that you should (trust).

[JBlade]

I don't like flirty behavior, I find it immature.

[Asker]

I actually did avoid it but I started to think it’s genuine bc it was consistent

I really thought when a guy gets a bit jealous then it’s genuine..

I know this guy gave another guy I was talking to a stern look while he was across from us.

[JBlade]

There's other ways people can show attraction other than being flirty or providing consistent remarks. All of this sounds like typical dating/hook up habits.

[Asker]

So what about jealousy?

[JBlade]

There is such thing as healthy jealousy but it still signals immaturity, a lack of trust
in a partner/relationship and inability to converse directly about it. Looking for signs like that is playing games, if two people can't just be up front about their interest/relationship then its already bad.

[Asker]

Yeah bc now he’s a actual relationship with someone

He showed signs before they made it official

[Asker]

Also we can’t bc of our jobs

[WhitneySnow]

I guess. I do t think guys should flirt unless they really like the girl.

[Asker]

But if he’s flirting with others as well that’s hard to know

[WhitneySnow]

I agree

[LiamJHayden]

Certainly some do flirt just for the ego boost of getting a positive reaction and really do not care.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 So you're going to just sit there and pretend like women don't do the exact same thing to men. Oh, that's right. To your gender men don't HAVE feelings. Sorry, I forgot.