So I got out of a relationship about 3 months ago. Im not over it and I don’t think I will be for a while and the last thing I’m looking for is another relationship.
I few days ago I got this message from a guy on messenger in response to me liking an anonymous university affiliated post on Facebook about a guy who was a bit over being single and was looking for a potential partner and went on to provide‘ a promotional’ type of paragraph about himself. I didn’t like it because I was interested I just liked it because I thought his paragraph was clever and sweet and I wished him luck in finding someone.
I made it clear when he reached out that I was not interested in any relationships with anyone and why I liked his post. He said he wasn’t looking for relationships right now anyways just to chat to new people. I said that’s fair enough and said I wouldn’t mind chatting but I’m just interested in making platonic new connections.
Fast forward a few days. We get on quite well and we have a lot in common. I enjoy talking to him and I’m generally someone who texts my friends a lot and I hate people that give dry replies so my messages are normally long. I’m worried this is making me come off as misleading though. Id like to be friends but when I was talking about my tendency to nap all the time and how I get bullied for it he made a common about how he should join in too. I stupidly said what with the napping or the bullying. He said well it depends when we both sleep. He also said I was going to say both but I didn’t want to be blunt. I said probably for the best as I think the best package I come in is friend material.
Since then his replies got a bit blunt.
I feel bad and I’m not sure what to do.
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Sounds like he’s trying to be friends just to smash but it isn’t working. Many guys are like that. If I were you , I would steer clear because he most likely messaged you with the intentions of finding you attractive plus he didn’t even know you were looking for just friends from the beginning. It’s going to be truly hard to find guys online that just want to be friends.
He sounds like he doesn't accept you not wanting anything but friendship. I wouldn't continue unless he clearly gets that there's no way.
No guy wants to be your friend.