Okay so it’s a long story but I will skip to the important part. I was talking to my guy friend and I was about to go to class so I gave him a hug and he kind of touch my butt, I was shocked but I thought okay maybe it was an accident. Then he asked me for another hug and this time he grabbed my butt. I mean obviously he likes me and I think this is his way of telling me instead of saying it. But I don’t know what to do when I see him tomorrow. I have social anxiety and it is very hard to talk to people especially boys. I don’t know what to say when I see him. Do I bring it up? And I don’t do crush’s. I don’t know, I just don’t feel that nervousness or the butterflies in my stomach thing when I’m with a certain guy or girl, but I want a boyfriend so bad but I’m scared. Please help me. Also I’m a freshman in high school. I never got attention from guys until this year. HELP.
Well for one, you have to ask yourself if that crossed a line for you. Touching you in that way without your consent and permission isn’t ok, and he shouldn’t have done that. But if you are ok with it, then that’s ok. But in any healthy relationship both people have to set boundaries, enforce their boundaries, and respect each other’s boundaries. However, if you tell yourself it’s ok because you want a boyfriend, that is not ok and it won’t end well.
But assuming that you’re ok with it. I’d just be yourself. Act naturally. Flirt with him a bit. Remember, he is obviously attracted to you on some level, so continuing to act like yourself is so important. Never change who you are or compromise your values for anyone else. It’s fine to meet in the middle when times get tough, but never compromise yourself.
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First, sorry this happened.
Second, it's not okay for him to touch you anywhere for any reason without your consent. You consented for a hug, not a butt grope.
As for tomorrow, you have two choices. On the one hand, you can tell him that what he did wasn't okay. Operate under the assumption that this is a learning experience for both of you. Your other choice is to not say anything. Don't make a big deal about it and let it pass.
Actually, you have a third choice for tomorrow. Be bold: say to him, "Hey, you grabbed my butt. Do you like me? What's this about?" Be bold and confident. Call his bluff.
Again, sorry you had to deal with this.
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You could just not hug him/let him hug you next time he asks.
If you don't say anything, he will think your okay with it. You'll need to ask him not to do it anymore, be polite about it. Say you do not like that. If he is really a friend he will understand and be okay with that.
That is assuming you want him to stop grabbing your butt. If you don't mind, then you need not say anything but do realize, it likely is going to continue.
The fact that you are asking, means you probably didn't like it. I know it will be hard to talk to him but the fact that you are friends means your a step ahead of the ultra shy social anxiety people who do not even have opposite gender friends.
A good rule of thumb for sex is that if you cannot talk about it you shouldn't be doing it.
This guy is 100% a sex offender because he absolutely did not have consent to do what he did.
It would be extremely unwise to date this guy or to allow him to touch you again.
🤔, that’s not good unless you think it is.
grab his butt.
What do you want to do?
Tell him you either liked or you didn't.
What did he do exactly?
He wanna make out with you
He likes you
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