Within 10 months, he went from being his normal happy go lucky energetic guy to being grumpy, than not showing up for things he said he would attend and finally ghosting everyone and not answering to messages. He however still hangs out with his work colleagues. Obviously we are worried he may be depressed but it might really be any reason… he might be offended for something we didn’t realize would offend him, or I even suspected he might have found out he’s gay and his work colleagues are more “open” than many of the boys of our group in this respect. Curious to hear if anyone had past experiences with this.
Anyone ever experienced male friend cutting all ties and ghosting all friends for no apparent reason? If you later found out the reason, what was it?
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Can say for myself that I was a terrible friend for many years because of this exact reason. It was depression mostly as well as addiction. I would only come around my friends once a year, if that. They got used to it and appreciated when I was there but never reached out when I wasn't.
I didn't want my friends to see me hurting, I assumed they would try to 'fix' me and put their life goals on hold. They knew me as a clown, so unless I felt I could play my part, I shouldn't be there. Not saying I was in the best headspace to say the least, but to the best of my recollection, that was why. Some friends moved on from me, I don't blame them. Now I'm much better and while the ones that stayed are not as close as they once were, I still chat when we meet in public.
As to what you can to to reconnect, I can't say for sure that you can. Your friend decided to distance himself from you. Overall, their reason is very likely selfish, but you can't coerce him to come back as he chose this action regardless of the effect it has on everyone. He either doesn't care what happens to the friendship or trusts that the friendships will exist in limbo until he returns.
Going through this now… lost friends and was called a terrible friend bc of it…