Why do guys in groups seem to stare at me or laugh at me in public?

[vanillalattegf]

I notice recently that in public, guys in a group of two or more tend to stare at me, maybe laugh or whisper to each other. There have been a few instances where after they laugh they try to talk to me or ask me out.

I’ve been told I’m pretty, but I feel ugly. Im 4’10, petite, and dress in usually a skirt, thigh highs, my doc martens, and a tank top or baggy sweater. I dress alternative, but not emo. I do wear eyeliner (+ other makeup and lashes), but it isn’t bad. Im not fat. And I’m not too hideous.

Are the guys laughing because they think I am ugly? Or…? And in the instances where they asked for my number, is it likely (if I had said yes) that they did this as a set up to reject me as a joke…?

I always worry guys are looking at me or laughing because I’m ugly :(. Why do guys look at me and sometimes laugh or whisper with each other…?

[Anonymous]

When someone puts you down or makes you the butt of a joke, it’s normal to freeze up. Your mind might go blank, or it may seem like everything you say or do in response to the bully only makes the situation worse. Fortunately, there are several simple strategies you can use to shut down teasing and harassment.

If you respond to the bully in a predictable way, you are implying that they have said something funny, even though they haven’t. When you rise to the bully’s bait, they will feel encouraged to keep on having fun at your expense.

Everyone around you will probably laugh along too, not necessarily because they don’t care about your feelings, but because they just don’t realize how bad you feel. And since the “funny one” got the response they were looking for, they’re more likely to do it again in the future.

Sometimes, ignoring the bully is the best solution. It can work well if you aren’t a quick thinker or aren’t sure what to say when they make fun of you.

When you don’t respond to a bully, you take away their sense of gratification. That takes them out of the conversation and leaves them with no control over the situation.

Don’t react at all. Pretend that you never heard their comment. At first, this might be difficult to get right. Most people fail when trying to ignore someone because their body language shows that they are annoyed. But it may get easier with practice.

Some people may try to feel better about themselves by making fun of others.

[vanillalattegf]

Ummm thanks but I’m not being bullied 😐…

[Anonymous]

Because you're self conscious. Most you probably just THINK are actually looking and laughing, but really aren't.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure about this, or are just being paranoid?

[vanillalattegf]

I’m sure.

[Iron_Man]

Teens are like that they like you

[riverrat3]

They are very immature