I am thinking about the guy that ditchedme so hard and Traumatised me in every conversation he had with me. I am unable to move on. What should I do?

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In the last conversation he asked for kiss and said multiple things that I am dating many girls and we will do everything like kiss, fun, enjoyment but dont take me serious. What does that mean? I am depressed because of him. I left him because of his psychopathic behaviour but still thinking about him.

How can I move on. I am 24/7 thinking about him. Am I in love with him or obsessed or he Traumatised me so much that's why I am unable to trust other person. I am really confuse and broken. Where on this earth I would be able to find true love / unconditional love? Or I must wait right time for right person.

Orion76 · Accepted Answer

He is a guy who wanted to kiss you, and to have fun aka get in your pants, the wisdom he wanted you to believe in is that other girls let him so you should do it too. If you look around there is a 100 Thousand just like him he isn’t even a grade B asshole, not even close.

You are very young still and if you want to survive in this life you need to learn how quickly evaluate the person in front of you and you do so by using their words and actions and the gaps In between. You can’t get over this guy and you might never do and its because this guy you are broken about is an image in your head that you attached to this guy but it’s not him. Grab a piece of paper Right now and write down the reasons you are feeling such a loss but tune out your romantic imagination and expectations please. Only write down what makes him so special based on his words and actions things he did and wants to in the future, just cold hard facts then imagine if you went along and Handed him a piece of your future do you see a better you? Is this where you want to be or thats a person you are confident will be there when the shit hits the fan?

talka20 · Accepted Answer

Yes wait for right time but until then you gotta do some things... keep yourself busy as much as you can... that will make you think about what you are doing and will also make you tired enough to fall asleep easily just incase if you have problem sleeping bec of thoughts related to him

Another thing that you need to do is accept he is gone and have a good will power to get out of this cuz your will power does the most in any situation

Another thing is to keep (if possible) yourself around people who support you and make u feel loved and can possibly make you laugh

Juxtapose · Answer

He's a player, those are usually the most confident and outgoing guys so try to do a better job screening them in the future. There's lots of people who are not looking for anything serious and you should ask them up front if they are like that.

Anonymous · Answer

No. You aren’t depressed BECAUSE OF HIN

You weren’t “traumatized” because he was rude or insensitive or used you or was a jerk.

He’s just a man. Take some responsibility for your feelings. And MOVE ON. Stop being such a drama Queen. He “traumatized” me. Gimme a break.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

You know, it will take time to move on.  Just accept that.  By the way, that building looks cool. Is it an old palace or something?

wannabecuck-2 · Answer

Forgive urself and forgive him. Take it as a lesson. Also remeber that not all people are same.

Anonymous · Answer

Consider seeing a therapist.

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vj0090 · Answer

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