What does it mean when a man can’t get it up?

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So this guy drove an hour and some change to come see me. We had been talking for a couple and he just excise on a whim. I was excited to see him. But he did not deliver. He was struggling to get up. When he would it would only stay up for a little while bad go away and come back. Like on and off. Only did a little. He says it’s because he hasn’t had sex in 2 months and he didn’t know why it was happening. He tried a little on and off to do it but it was brief and I was unsatisfied. So he spent the night. But should I be worried? Does it mean he was DL? Or just unattracted to me. He swears he didn’t understand why. But I don't know. I cut him off because I feel a way about it. And I also feel he is a bit weird.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

He was probably nervous and he is more than likely telling you the truth that he hasn’t had sex in awhile , sadly most girls don’t realize that men go through so many complications with their penis that most guy’s themselves aren’t aware of , Most girls assume a guy should just have a GO GO gadget cock , that just magically gets erect when she is in the mood , and trust me we wish it was that easy , but for a guy’s penis to work he has to feel relaxed and he has to have a clear mind , nervousness or stress can cause a guy’s penis to have complications , Most guys want to please the girl and make sure she gets off so she comes back for more , when a guy floods his brain with wanting to please her he is actually making himself nervous without realizing it , which could lead to performance anxiety that kills a guys penis , so don’t just assume it’s you cuz it more than likely isn’t you , why sex is important for men in relationships , when I am in a relationship with a girl that doesn’t lack on intimacy and affection my penis stays healthy and strong and less sensitive , so I can pretty much rock her world with no problem , when I don’t have sex for a long period of time my penis tends to get real sensitive , A girl’s vagina feels amazing to us , if we hadn’t had sex in awhile the second we put our penis into her can easily make him bust a nut fast , for a guy to last long he has to think of weird shit to not make him cum fast , but the more he has sex with her and gets comfortable with her his penis gets better and lasts longer , My advice to guys that are suffering with any complications with their penis is to take viagra or generic viagra , It’s the best pill for men , He will be able to last and perform with no problem and she will more than likely orgasm before he does. , Viagra only works when they guy is in the mood , it doesn't just magically make his cock hard , he has to be turned on and in the mood for it to work , so you girl’s shouldn’t complain of your man is taking viagra , he is taking it for you , so he can make sure you get off as well , So many guys today are suffering from ED sadly it a lot of it stems down to the shit they inject onto our food supply , or it can be his diet , or if he has any bad habits of smoking or drinking alcohol , so many things can effect a guys penis, When I went to my doctor to find out why the fuck I was having issues all of a sudden I learned so much shot about how our penises work and what effects it , So guys trust me on this take viagra , you won’t have to take it every-time you have sex if you do then you definitely should go see your doctor and find out what is wrong with you , I only take viagra when I been drinking , I have no complaints

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Erectile dysfunction, which is the inability to get or maintain an erection, can have a variety of causes, including physical, psychological, and emotional factors. It's important to remember that experiencing erectile dysfunction does not necessarily mean that a man is not attracted to his partner or is hiding something.

In your specific situation, it's possible that your partner's difficulty getting and maintaining an erection was related to performance anxiety or nerves about being intimate with you. It's also possible that other factors, such as stress, medication side effects, or medical conditions, could have contributed to the issue.

If you're concerned about your partner's behavior or feelings, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him about what's going on. Let him know that you value your relationship with him and that you want to understand his perspective. At the same time, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and to set boundaries that are comfortable and safe for you.

Remember that experiencing erectile dysfunction is a common issue that many men face at some point in their lives. It's important to approach the issue with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to work together to find a solution that works for both partners.

LocoLuna · Accepted Answer

Life isn't a p*** movie. Life is life and sometimes people get it up and some people don't. Sometimes it takes building trust and a relationship before someone feels safe enough to commit sexually

Anonymous · Answer

How long had you been talking? Was this your first time seeing each other?

It's possible he was nervous, or it's possible he wasn't as into you/the sex as he thought he'd be. Whether or not he had sex recently has nothing to do with it. If you have no prior history or chemistry with each other, sex is just going to be weird.

It's a good thing you cut him off, because it's extremely evident you two are a mismatch.

John_Doesnt · Answer

If he hadn't had sex in a couple months that could mean he's been jerking off too much. Or just a medical problem.

Anonymous · Answer

No straight guy your age can't get hard unless he's not straight, he's a druggie, he's drunk or is addicted to p0rn. 20-something guys get hard easily.

Sparkie460 · Answer

How old is he? He could have been nervous being with you.

Anonymous · Answer

wow you really are dumb.. he's either banging some bitch on the side or he has low testosterone or both

riverrat3 · Answer

Could be mental or physical

es20490446e · Answer

Tired or worried.

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