Guys, how would you feel if a girl told you that spending time with you was rescuing her from spending time with her mother?

[Bethany22]

If a girl you were hanging out with told you that spending time with you was rescuing her from otherwise spending time with her mother, would you feel flattered and useful, or would you feel used and not all that special? This would be after several instances where she spent time with you without escaping someone/something being part of the reason, whereby she (hopefully) has demonstrated that she likes being around you even at the best of times willingly.

[slatyb]

How old is she? If she's an adult, and doesn't enjoy time with her mother, she should just limit that time or stop seeing her mother entirely, depending on why the relationship is not good. If an adult woman felt obligated to spend time with an unpleasant parent, I would advise her to seek counseling and learn to set boundaries.

[AydenHazor]

I would not be offended, and I would offer to rescue her anytime

[FilmGuy93]

I wouldn't have any problem with that, but I might find it odd if it was something she brought up a lot.

[Leapfrog00]

That would be OK in my book. I was engaged to a girl once that spent more time with her mother than me. She would give her mother money, tell her everything we did in our relationship, and pretend to hate her when they got into an argument.

I like spending time with a girlfriend when I have one, so rescuing her from her mother would probably be doing ME the favor! Sometimes I miss dating. ::Sighs::

[StormChaser838]

I would tell her I would not like to get between you and your mother, and maybe your mother needs you more and get the fuck away from her. I hate people who lie or are fake. I don't know but , I was fortunate to know real women in my life and they set a minimum standard in me of what a women should be. And they taught me that it is better to sit and yank alone than to put up with such false fucks.

[Stoner710]

I would appreciate the time she spends with me instead of her mom, but I also think that she needs time with your mom. Having a good relationship with your family both the one your born (or in my car adopted into) is just as important as spending time with (in my case) girl having a good relationship with your family is important.

[Paradisepup36390]

Whether this is a joke, or a subtle plea for help, I would console them, and discuss their relationship with their mother. Having Mommy issues is no laughing matter, and seek to solve the problem. But if nothing can be done no matter what is tried, I move on and love the person separately from their mother, giving her the needed space she needs to either heal or at the very least mind her own business and stay out of my relationship to *insert person in question with mommy issues*.

[Stevefiveo]

Eh, if that is the only thing she said it would kind be a dig. But if everything else she said and did was showing that she actually wanted to be there with me then I can take it.

[Kinkyhubby]

Probably means she doesn't get along with her mother, or her mother is controlling, or toxic, or to into her personal life. Just like my mother in law

[OfMiceandMen]

If I was able to give her a break from her mother, I would do it as a service to her.

I would see it as an opportunity to bring us closer together.

[es20490446e]

"Yeah, I'm sure your mom doesn't give you what this body can"

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I don't draw that much out of a simple statement like this. Seems like a starting point for a convo. I don't feel much just from this alone.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Also maybe the girl if she's worried about that might overestimate my thinking abilities. Mostly I'm just trying to figure out when she will take her clothes off and sleep with me.

[ShadezMcgee]

Would feel used and irrelevant. She is using me as am escape amd a distraction. Not because she genuinely wants to be around me.

[Shy_Steve]

I would probably feel a bit used, But I would probably still want to hang out with Her.

[noohair]

I could perceive this as one step above your mother. Guys don't understand this women communication. If you want a man to get a certain message, it need to be clear to him with strait forward unambiguous messages.

[AviatorTom]

That would be more a statement about her than about me... I'd be fine with it.

[mattc007007]

Flattered, but I would need to know if there are other reasons. If she couldn't communicate that then I would feel used.

[Legendarylegacy13]

No, that would not be mean at all especially if she tells you and does it often. I see that as more of a special relationship. Or more like a bond.

[FunkyMonkee]

Probably a little of both but, more the former than the latter.

[Coden7]

Raises a flag. But maybe they have boundaries that need to be worked out

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It would make me feel like her Mom is getting on her nerves. And she needs to escape from her Mom.

[Jamie05rhs]

Nothing wrong with that.

I just wouldn't let her move in with me without her living on her own for a while.