Is it possible for a good looking guy to actually love a bigger girl?

[Anonymous]

I’m bigger and he’s actually really handsome tall and thinner. I love him so much and he says he loves me too. We have so much fun when we’re together. He says that he loves me because I accept him for who he is and he loves my personality and I’m basically the female version of him. I just can’t get it out of my head that he deserves someone thinner and such. I’m not ugly but I’d be better if I were thinner. He’s never once said anything about my weight so it’s all in my head really. I honestly feel like he deserves better and I deserve to be alone. I don't know, I love him very much and he’s opened up to me about all his vulnerabilities and I’m open about mine as well. I just can’t shake the thought there might be ulterior motives like he can’t possibly love me because I’m like this.

[Hulk_kitty]

What you are thinking about him, and your weight issue, has nothing to do with him, but has to do with your self worth. If you believe a guy can't like him can love you for who you are, and so think he has ulterior motive. You are just projecting your insecurities and self worth on to him.

Just cause you are over weight or haven't got the perfect body, doesn't mean you can't be loved by him or anyone else for that matter. No one should be able to make you feel intimated regardless of their status, body, etc, If you have a good sense of self worth and confidence.

I suggest you work on your self worth more.

To be honest a lot of guys don't want a really attractive girl or a super hot body either. I certainly don't want it, much rather go for a plain jane, who body is not that great, not that attractive.

These hot models or super attractive girls you see, most (not all) guys just see them as something to have sex with, but not relationship material.

[EricSummer]

Yes, that's surely possible. In addition, you are pretty yourself, so there is not even a disparity when it comes to looks.

Body types are a matter of preference and flexibility.

[menina]

It sounds to me that he loves you and he doesn't care about your weight. Perhaps you should try to discuss this with him. Or you can work on your self-esteem first before getting into a relationship. There's no point in being with someone who loves you if you don't believe in it.

Trust me, I really know how you're feeling.

[Akam93]

If he never said anything about your weight than why worry. I always think the guy I'm talking to deserves a prettier and thinner girl also. But he likes me still.

[FilmGuy93]

Sure... why wouldn't it be possible?

[Shamalien]

if you’re worried about it then get serious about losing the weight. It sounds like he is really into you either way, but that doesn’t mean your worries are baseless. But yeah do it for yourself, not him.

[Anemone978]

I know the feeling but of course he can love you. You need to try and love yourself tho because self hate will ruin things between you two if you let it..

[Hulk_kitty]

spot on, self hate is destructive.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, all my ex-girlfriends were bigger girls, and at one time I sincerely loved them.

[exitseven]

If the both of you are happy, that is all that matters.

[misogynistic_pig]

I would not do it.

[In_Trance]

You answered your own question

[NathanDavis]

Yes.