Friends with benefits said he doesn’t want any more kissing but still kisses me?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 25 year old woman and I’ve known my friends with benefits (29 male) for about 5 years on and off. We recently started hooking up again. We had sex yesterday and he started kissing my neck, breasts and then we were making out. It was hot but the time before that, he said he didn’t want to kiss anymore. I had asked him why and he said he doesn’t want a relationship type thing. I was fine with it but just seem confused based on yesterday. After the sex, we went to the movies and it was chill. Should I ask him why he changed his mind or just ignore it? What does this mean in guy code?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable why you might be confused about your friends with benefits' behavior. It's possible that he changed his mind about kissing because he was caught up in the moment or simply felt differently this time around. However, it's also possible that he is sending mixed signals or is unsure about what he wants.

I suggest having an open and honest conversation with him about your concerns. Ask him if he's still comfortable with the boundaries you previously established and if he has any new thoughts or feelings about your arrangement. This can help clarify where you both stand and ensure that you're on the same page going forward.

It's important to remember that communication is key in any type of relationship or arrangement, even if it's just a friends with benefits situation. Be clear about your own boundaries and desires, and listen to his as well. Ultimately, the key to a successful friends with benefits relationship is mutual respect, honesty, and open communication.

[Massageman]

Maybe he figures that anything that is on your "body" is just part of the "benefits", and only kisses on the mouth are "relationship" kisses? (just a guess)

[Asker]

Yes I know. I just don’t get the point of saying it if you keep kissing someone. Why bring it up

[Massageman]

Maybe he used his mouth to talk before using his brain to think. I used to do that a lot when I was younger.

[Anonymous]

Been there, done that. Ignore it. He just did that probably being in the moment. Don't think too much of it.

[Iron_Man]

Those things never work out, wishy-washy dude

[Anonymous]

You both sound clueless. 🤦‍♀️

[Asker]

…I think there’s been worse questions asked but pop off ig

[Wise4myage]

Tell him to make up his mind.