I’m pretty confused as to how to go about. The guy I like initiates physical touch, Plays with my hair rub my feet for an hour, snuggles a bit but sometimes a switch happens where he’s not Touchy-feely. One time he pulled his feet away then turned completely away, back to me to watch tv. I thought about cuddling up to him but I thought it was one of those times where he just needs to simply be. Sometimes doing this he will stay there or engage in initiating physical contact with me while leaving him alone.
I’m wondering if I need to show him a little bit more interest. The other day I ask him to help me put aloe vera on my sunburn. He rubbed it on my back but went in to zones that had not sunburn like I lover my should to my upper pec. Then on the side where my side boob meets my back. I wished nothing more that his hands wondered & grasped my breasted but eventually they retracted and I was a bit disappointed.
What is your take on his mixed signals and advice where I can crank up the heat where it’s not like I’m thirsty for him. Even though I am lol 😂
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So you are spending time together? How long have you been seeing each other? Have you kissed?
No there is a few times where I was like come on girl do it then I back down.
He has started kiss my check and top of my head lately and people started to notice he doesn’t typically do that. I pecked him on the cheek and he did it right away. 2 mounths but we ask grew up as friends. We have been acting differently around each other differently now a days so I’m a confused fool
Just ask him directly "Are you interested in being more than friends?"
I’m working on getting there but I’m not that brave to shoot that yet. Had a few moments of courage but then when I was standing in front of him lost it -. O.
Sounds like you don't initiate anything.
Why would you want to appear disinterested? You women are so weird about that. Showing any sort of interest is a POSITIVE thing.
Besides, it sound like you have the disinterested part down already.
Add clarification, im shy but have made my best efforts to show interest. Cuddle him, peck his cheek he pecks me back, rub his back and lightly tickle his sides, made him meal prep when he was into eating cleaner, watched his kids so he can sleep in, caress his feet, look over and smile at him then my shyness takes over.
Sometimes I don’t answer myself when I think he doesn’t want to be approached. When I had him rub aloe on me I wore a tank that reveals the back & no bra to stimulative his imagination. I feel like For me I am putting my self out there.
What would be a good initiation In your book?
I would start by never assuming you know what he thinks and how he feels. I used to beg (on the inside) for physical affection from my ex. I would withdraw like your guy is and it was only because I was tired of initiating everything.
That was very insightful thank you. I just have to be more brave!
What is it that you are scared of?
He’s a friend science the age of 11, I’m scared doing something really bold & of course being rejected to early if I move to fast vs letting it go naturally with no pressure.
Such a shame.