Why is it that whenever I'm having an ongoing text conversation with my guy friend, when I reply again he suddenly takes a while to see the text &ans?

[Anonymous]

[Cynicaldreamer]

He's a guy: he's probably distracted, got other things going on, or figures he will get to you later. My guy friends are just as bad, lol. They will be replying lightning fast sometimes, then go hours before they reply back to a simple yes/no question.

Keep in mind, he might also be at work/school and can't just stop and reply to you because you want to chat with him.

Or he might just suck at texting. I've talked to guys that are absolutely atrocious at typing/texting, yet will talk my ear off on the phone or mic, lol. Don't take offense to it, and please don't be that person that "spams" him with texts asking why he is not replying or resend messages- that's how you run people off.

[Asker]

I don't spam him with messages... I would never do that. It just sucks when he's online replying in the group chats and is active, but he's so "busy" and takes so long to answer my message. by the way this didn't just happen once so...

[Rei13]

He is probably doing other things while talking to you while talking to him is all you’re doing. Calling or in person would be better if you want faster responses. Also are you romantically interested in him? It might not be reciprocated, generally people are quicker at responding when they are crushing on the other person

[Asker]

The thing is that I did have a crush on him and I felt that he also did too but now things are different... he's being active all the time and is active on social media but he takes a long time to respond to me.. and it's not only once that happened.. so now I'm starting to think that it's done on purpose.

[Rei13]

Honestly the best thing you can do is distract yourself with things that you enjoy doing. The gym or going for a walk/run helps distract me. If you pull away it’ll give you time to heal/move on and if he likes you he will put effort in. If a guy truly likes you there would be no question in your mind if he does or not, and if you’re questioning he probably doesn’t (or at least that has always been my experience)

[Asker]

Thank you so much for this.

[Adam1978]

Text is a slow low priority channel, so he is just multi-tasking. Call him if you don't want interruptions in the conversation.

[boggboss]

Because when he is texting u he is also doing other things where as when u text him thats the only thing u are doing

[itsalyssaagain]

Some people are shit texters. I’m one of them lol. Just cause we’re texting you rn doesn’t mean we don’t get caught up with something in that moment so we have to leave.

[spartan55]

Because guys find texting stupid and boring. If you want his undivided attention CALL him

[Billlewis]

He's probably masturbating as a result of reading your messages.

[mb120101]

He either has other things going on or he's purposely timing it to not look annoying.

[SolitaireBlonde]

He’s probably busy. Do you sit around staring at your phone all day?

[RavVid]

One thing that annoys me is to get overlapping texts. So wait for me to reply before you do.

[runnerboy]

He may be texting or on IG with someone else. How old is he. Maybe he is masturbating?

[mommymommymommy]

Why does it matter that he's "just a friend" right now, lmao

[Anonymous]

He’s texting someone else, and gives them priority over you.

[KrakenAttackin]

He is tired of the conversation.

[In_Trance]

He's busy