Do you think men who lost their fathers are more mature?

[lemonette]

When we were together, my ex was someone who was always partying and didn't care about life, and that was the reason why we ended the relationship. After we broke up, I found out that he had lost his father. Now, to my astonishment, he has changed a lot, and he is a very calm person with a regular life. You know, he has matured. He doesn't sleep with another woman every day, like in the past. Do you think losing his father makes a man mature?

[Leapfrog00]

I lost my father when I was younger, and he was extremely abusive. An alcohol that used to blame others for everything. Never took any responsibility. Both of my parents abandoned me. From the time I was little and the abuse started, I was already mature.

I was cooking for myself, cleaning up after myself, knew how to budget money, and took care of the house.

If he matured from losing his father, he may have already been taking care of himself anyone. A lot of people, when they lose parents, they are lost and have trouble taking care of themselves because their parents did a lot of things for them.

If he partied all the time in the past when his father was still around, there may have been more to it. A lot of times reckless behavior is a sign that there's trouble at home. His father may have been a good person, so I'm not saying he wasn't. but it's possible if your ex-boyfriend didn't care about a lot of things when his father was alive, he may have been having problems at home. Especially if something changed after he died.

Just a theory. I could be wrong. I spent a lot of time in foster care and I'm just speaking from experience. If that's not that case, just ignore what I said.

[nolabels]

Each case is going to be different.

I lost my dad when I was 11 years old.

There are many ways in which I'm still not mature, but there were also things that hit me hard at a young age that I had to deal with.

So, yes and no to answer your question.

[Nikki1989]

When you grow up without parents (like I did) it can make a person mature far quicker than the average person. When the reality hits that you are all alone, it gives you a big wake-up call.

[Malwi93]

r u an orphan or lost them later on

[belle_kai]

It really depends on several factors, its not always the case but sometimes it is. So it is or isn't.

[Lionman95]

In this case yes but the reason to me is rather that he realised he has to grow up because of how old he is. It´s less because his father died. He might have realised that now is the time for him to take control of his life and no longer live like actions don´t matter.

[Adam1978]

No you better mature before your father leave life. Or are we talking men who lost their father early? In that case it depends on what age, very early probably less mature, when they are teenager perhaps if raised right. They take on the male role early causing maturity.

[Kris31]

I think no because if something is missing you don't know how to fill it.

From personal experience if you got a good or bad father it's kind of better ish because you have a decent role model what you want to be or you especially don't want to grow up to be.

Although it boils down to the individual if he is aware of all this. Some people just give in without a second thought and become 1:1 their fathers

[Anonymous]

I don't think so. I am more mature (as per most of seniors of the family ) than everyone else they met (including the orphans and people bought up by single mothers. And some of the senior guys too.) Some guys admit to me too that I am more mature than them. And they wouldn't grow sane if they were in my shoes.

[Blueeyes81]

I only have to look at my dad. He lost his father at 17. He ha 5 older sister, 1 younger sister and one older brother in the military. He instantly became the head of the house hold as my grandmother had never worked and now in her 50's had no job skills. I hear stories of him as a child and teen and they sound like a completely different person to the man I know.

[Vegasrunner]

It's different based on gender. Most men cam survive w/out a father simply because every man is forced to grow up at an early stage in their life anyway and are going to get practical advice from other men. Woman I think it's probably 80/20 that they will struggle, because w/out a father there going to hear more of only what they want to hear from other men.

[MrOracle]

It can certainly happen, but there is no guarantee. Sometimes the opposite can happen - he could get more immature and care less about responsibility. Death of a parent will affect different people differently.

[nastyb]

children with fathers tend to be BABIED until their 20s. Children who lost their parents at a young age are not babied by anyone. they realize the responsibilities of life early on. they realize work needs to be done well in order to survive.

[Anonymous]

It depends on when the father is lost and how he loses the father. The worst to lose a father in any method is when the man in question is a child where he is easily impressionable and the child learns a different lesson depending on how the father is lost.

[HighValue]

No, but not having a father does often lead to them being druggies and criminals according to statistics.

[Sparkie460]

I think it depends on the individual person. I was older when I lost my parents. I was mature way before my parents passed. I matured when I moved out of my parents house at 18 years old.

[shades777]

For some the desth if s parent can make them get their shit together, also they don't have to live in their shadow and carve their own path. Its sort of now Im the man of the house feeling taking over so you try to become the dad

[DermalPunch]

No not at all. They are mostly wayyyy messed up.

[NYCQuestions1976]

It can go either way. The age of the person when they lose their father is one of the biggest factors.

[SunnyRS]

It depends on the person actually.
After a father's death men are forced to grow up.
Some take it as a responsibility and mature other's can't handle the pressure well.

[fonduegirl]

Depends on when. The younger they are , the more it hits.

[art84]

I think it depends on if the child had to become the man of the family and take up responsibility and such.

[KrakenAttackin]

Sounds like he was a fuck boy. He probably just got tired of all the female bullshit and decided to focus.

[KrakenAttackin]

Believe it or not even fuck boys get tired of women and all their inherent drama.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Losing a parent puts things in perspective very quick which can help someone change their ways and mature a bit about life.

[OddBeMe]

From research it’s highly unlikely. Single parenting can be all right, but it’s harder which is why it fails more often.

[Pohjolan]

Statistically yes as they will be older.

Doesn't mean that there's a correlation like ice cream sales don't cause shark attacks.

[Staximus]

Some people just eventually grow up and start acting like adults.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Possibly. I haven’t heard from my father in quite a while. I’m quite mature.

[Anonymous]

Nah, older men tend to be more mature. He just got older, that's all.

[Sasha0426]

I’ve met plenty of older men who refused to mature.

[Opinion Owner]

@Sasha0426 And I have met plenty of older women who very self-centered and immature

I also know men who lost their fathers who are immature or worse.

But in general, both men and women mature as they age.

I stand by my original statement because it's accurate in general.

[Anonymous]

I lost my dad when i was 3mnt old..
I'm self made i still fuck different girl on every weekend.

[Spade_01]

Trauma, in general, makes people more mature.

[RHK36]

Nope. Guys will either grow up or they won't.

[Sasha0426]

In most cases, yes. They see life differently.

[BeMuse]

Nope.

[TracyF]

No I don't

[zagor]

Noooo.

[Anonymous]

Nope.