Can a guy forget a name of a girl he used to love?

[Anonymous]

I had this situationship like 5 months ago we only lasted like 3 months he asked me to be together I was scared I would fall Hard for Him and he would leave so I told him we can't be together he used to always tell me how much he love me and wants to be with me

But we still used to make out after some day I knew I was falling for him so I ghosted him because I was scared then we completely stopped talking we started passing each other with out a single glance But all this time I can't think of anyone but him but I got scared he would not want me back

this past weeks I was struggling with my self to not reach out to him Yesterday I run into him on my way to class he hugs me and he asks me if I want to do some survey job and I said sure he asks for my number I ask him if he deleted my number he says it's a new phone I gave him my number I had a feeling he forgot my name He called later and we went to the place together

I had to stop myself to not tell him why I run away because he didn't mention anything but he mentioned a couple of things i said when we were dating I called him later because I had someone that wanted to do the job (I wanted to talk to him) he asks who it is I tell him my name he repeated my name and says I don't know who is this Yeah he forgot my name or something

Now please I'm I being delusional or can a guy actually forgot a name of a girl he used to love?

[meetkitty123]

Your post just made me so angry I'm usually a very easy going gag member but this irritated the heck out of me!

1st who says he was in ACTUAL real love in a relationship which only lasted 3 months?

2nd you have some nerve declaring he loved you and expecting he owes you the honor of remembering your name when you did him wrong!

3rd I am surprised you have not considered that perhaps he's trying to get back at you by pretending not to know you. Did you ever considered perhaps he's letting you know how it feels to be treated like you're nothing to someone else?

You're lucky he even acknowledged you at all after you unjustly cold heartedly and immaturely ghosted him! Nothing you did and nothing you're saying now shows that you're even remotely sorry for what you did to him. you don't deserve a second chance with this man. in fact you shouldn't be dating at all. you have commitment issues and you are insecure. you need to get straight with yourself before you enter the dating world.

Honestly you have some nerve! Trying to get the man back not even apologizing explaining yourself or even attempting to fix your low self-esteem problems before getting back with him! Good men do not have to be at the beck and call of such treacherous women! A good man literally has no reason to get back with a trifling cruel heartless girl and especially not because she all of a sudden changed her mind and wants to toy with him again!

You're the kind of girl who gives us good women a bad rap it's crap like this that you type of women do to men that ruins it for everyone else! Good men do not deserve to be taken advantage of or have their hearts ripped out and smashed or ghosted for stupid insecurity issues. Good men don't deserve to get played and screwed over!

[Asker]

There are a lot of parts I left behind I know it sounds like I'm in the wrong here I think you are right I used hard word with "love" more of interested
And the reason I was scared of falling in love was he was player when we started I tried so hard to be with him but I had a feeling he was also not over his ex
And yes I do have commitment issue but I made it clear for him that I don't do relationship but he said he bet he would make me his
So yeah that's why I felt like he would leave if i fell In love with him

[Steelcore5280]

Women like the one who asked the question are why I, frankly, don't give enough of a shit anymore to get involved in dating. I've had too many of these experiences where I'm treated like trash after giving some of my vulnerability out to a gal.

[sage2021]

I don't get it. Even though he saw your face and knew who you are he still didn't remember your name?
Sounds like he was acting like you meant nothing to him - like he forgot about you because you broke up with you. He's just getting back at you for breaking up with him.

[razelove]

Of course, you only know what goes through your head, not someone else's. At the same time 3 months is fairly long where puppy love should have worn off, but not long enough where you've built up a wealth of memories and experiences.
He could have also known what was going on with you and wanted to hurt you. Might be wanting to start with a clean slate. To cut it off with someone you started a relationship with because you're scared you "might really like them" is a pretty immature move, no matter what other motives you want to put on it.

[Part2603]

Possibly. I once found a love letter I wrote to a coworker. It was just an exercise in putting my feelings down, I never had any intention of delivering it.

I read the love letter, and I was like. hmmm, I had some strong feelings for this girl. But who the hell is "Kristina"?

[Investigator]

"I was scared I would fall Hard for Him and he would leave so I told him we can't be together"

Let me get this straight: you ghosted a guy you were really into, because you expected a breakup... and then you got it, and now you're asking "do guys actually forget women they've been into that easily?" There must be a discounted membership at the local fitness center, because this is a masterclass in mental gymnastics.

No, he did not forget your name, but ask yourself, "why would he want to remember the girl, who purposefully disappeared from his life?" Because make no mistake about it, your insecurities were your undoing; you intentionally sabotaged your relationship. You know most people would call your situation? A "self-fulfilling prophecy".

Don't bother trying to get back into that guy's graces, that ship has sailed. You're also not ready to have a partner, with a mindset like this. Sort yourself out first.

[kevypatyy7]

𝑵𝒐𝒕 𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒍𝒚, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒂 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒇 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒆, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏'𝒕 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒆𝒂𝒔𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒖𝒏𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒐𝒖𝒔𝒍𝒚. 𝑨𝒎 𝒔𝒂𝒚𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒕 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆, 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅𝒏𝒕 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒄𝒓𝒖𝒔𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝑰 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒊𝒕'𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒃𝒍𝒆

[DaveJord]

So I find it hard to believe that he forgot your name. I really loved someone I would never forget her name. But honestly, I think he loved you... you pretty much took his feelings and stuffed them down his throat and then ghosted him.

So, I would expect he is pretty upset about that, because you seem like a real piece of work.

[itsme_Somiya]

Yes, it is possible for a person, regardless of their gender, to forget the name of someone they used to love. Memory can be influenced by various factors, such as the passage of time, the emotional significance attached to the memory, and individual differences in memory abilities. People may also experience memory lapses or difficulties in recalling specific details, including names, especially if they haven't interacted with or thought about that person for a long time.

Additionally, the intensity of the emotional connection or the duration of the relationship does not necessarily guarantee perfect recall of a person's name. It's important to remember that memory is complex and can be fallible, and forgetting details, including names, is a common occurrence for many individuals.

[lachimolalalala]

It seems highly unlikely that he’ll forget your name especially after 5 months, unless he has a medical condition that may cause memory loss, that may be a possibility. But typically I don’t think he’ll forget your name. Perhaps he’s trying to play with your brain. Or you may be overthinking it, I’m a pro overthinker so I understand lol.

[Steelcore5280]

If a woman did to me what you did to this guy, I'd definitely pretend that I didn't have a clue who you were. I can't stand women who use ghosting tactics.

Also, women doing this ghosting shit is one of the reasons I care not to get involved in dating anymore.

[CallmeTheKnight]

This smells like BS, but no man ever forgets the name of a woman he loved.
If he did forget, then it’s likely that he accepted that you was a complete waste of time and full of crap. Nobody likes to waste their time and invest themselves after admitting how they feel. Let that man move on

[RingOfFire]

There is love and then there is what you THOUGHT was love but later learned that it wasn't. As you get older your love matures and you learn what it really means and really doesn't mean. No, you can never forget the name of someone you actually really do love.

[MementoMori777]

Nope I don't think so, he is either playing dumb or possibly never loved you, maybe he liked you but I think if you love someone you'd know their name

[DizzyDesii]

Quite possibly. Even us girls can forget. I forget names all the time especially if they had an ugly name. But i can usually recall the dudes name by the end of the day. I never forget experiences I went through with them though

[DizzyDesii]

I forget friend and family members name. So why would it be surprising to forget the name of dudes who were likely nicknamed “babe” the entire relationship. At least i remember faces

[DizzyDesii]

Its kinda funny i tend to forget names considering most had the same name

[Vikkrram]

Even if we don't love each other it's hard that people do forget the name. He is playing hard i would say

[strateguy632]

people forget even if loved especialy after ten...

[catiecatie]

Yes not even a question. Especially if you look a little different. Not saying weight but your hair color to the way you dress. Some times guys can play dumb too. Trust me. I worked with an ex and it was miserable.

[jennifer_bloom]

I have guys I used to crush on that I can't even remember what their names are now. I remember most of them but there are a few I don't remember. I did not love them cause love is based on personality and not on assets.

[Grubhub]

Yes, I will forgot Isabel Sandoval name because I thought she was into me but she played me like fool. Took me several months to realize. The finer a woman is the bigger her ego is, and the more she’s untrustworthy. It’s all about Money, most fine women want a man who makes at least 100k/ yearly. Possibly up to 600k. That’s facts

[miadee]

No one love someone and forget her/his name. Impossible

1. He really loved you & lied about forgetting your name

or

2. He really forgot your name and he lied about loving you

[BadApple69]

Yes. That’s why I call all my girlfriends Princess (joking). Now on a more serious note… I never forget a girls name I dated or their birthdays for that matter.

[molonski2]

Its past tense , really does it matter at all? Of course anyone can stumble on a name , but its gone , let go of it , it simply does not matter.

[YesterdaysChild]

I would find that hard to believe. If he forgets he chooses to. You certainly remember the names of all your bullies 20 years later, but not the one of the one you love?

[brandon1122]

He didn't forget your name. He hates you cause you ghosted that's why he acts like he forgot your name. I would act the same way