I understand that the internet isn’t a great place to take my personal love life and problems. But I feel really lost, and really need some insight.
For some context: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. It has definitely had some ups and downs but we both do love each-other. I'm a really talkative and passionate person, "too much" for some people definitely. And I show love through writing love letters, and cuddling, and talking non stop. On the flip side my boyfriend doesn't show his love through writing letters, he doesn't like texting and he doesn't like cuddling. Which was/is really confusing for me at times.
We took the Love Language quiz and he got "Quality Time," and "Acts of Service," as his top results. But the mind boggling part is my top result was the same, but I don't think in the same way? one thing that has always been consistent with my boyfriend is he likes to ft. But not to talk.
He says that he likes listening to me talk but whenever I ask him he always says that "presence if the important thing to him," and that talking isn't as important as just being next to somebody is. Which I REALLY want to understand. And I've been trying really hard to understand that he shows love in different ways but I can't all the time. Because I feel like I'm giving all this energy by writing love letters, and texting him way more consistently, and talking and not getting anything in return. And I know you aren't supposed to love for something in return. But it's really hard to love somebody you don't feel loved by in return.
And ig, I don't know what to do. Because I'm head over heels for somebody who I can't feel the love of in return.
And he says he loves me, and that he just likes being by me. And he says he wants to get married and I do believe he means what he says. But I don't feel loved. And I don't know what small things to look for, because I only know how i love.
I was hoping some insight. So i can learn how my boyfriend loves and appreciate it
